Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
#1526
re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
I am a completely average looking dude. I'm in pretty good shape, but I have a big nose, receding hairline, and skinnier legs than I want.
It doesn't happen to me nearly often enough (~6 times in my ~30 years post-puberty), but occasionally women will "come on to me" in a purely sexual way.
I have been asked by a woman to send them a dick pic.
I have had a women grope me in public (at a pool hall, with other people watching, over my pants)
I have been asked by a woman, in my bedroom, if she could watch me jerk off, and she then told me how hot she thought it was.
I would not do any of these things without the woman requesting it of me.
I will continue to not send dick pics, and not jerk off in front of women unless they request it.
But, if I took the victim point of view...
The woman who asked me for a dick pic? I guess I can claim she sexually harassed me.
The woman who groped me in the pool hall? I guess I can claim she sexually harassed me.
The woman in my bedroom who asked to watch me jerk off? I guess I can write that one off, since she was also naked at the time.
But if I'm ugly enough, and a woman is pretty enough, and I say "You look very nice today", at some point, simple verbal compliments and flirting should not be seen as sexual harassment.
It doesn't happen to me nearly often enough (~6 times in my ~30 years post-puberty), but occasionally women will "come on to me" in a purely sexual way.
I have been asked by a woman to send them a dick pic.
I have had a women grope me in public (at a pool hall, with other people watching, over my pants)
I have been asked by a woman, in my bedroom, if she could watch me jerk off, and she then told me how hot she thought it was.
I would not do any of these things without the woman requesting it of me.
I will continue to not send dick pics, and not jerk off in front of women unless they request it.
But, if I took the victim point of view...
The woman who asked me for a dick pic? I guess I can claim she sexually harassed me.
The woman who groped me in the pool hall? I guess I can claim she sexually harassed me.
The woman in my bedroom who asked to watch me jerk off? I guess I can write that one off, since she was also naked at the time.
But if I'm ugly enough, and a woman is pretty enough, and I say "You look very nice today", at some point, simple verbal compliments and flirting should not be seen as sexual harassment.
#1529
DVD Talk Legend
re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
I am a completely average looking dude. I'm in pretty good shape, but I have a big nose, receding hairline, and skinnier legs than I want.
It doesn't happen to me nearly often enough (~6 times in my ~30 years post-puberty), but occasionally women will "come on to me" in a purely sexual way.
I have been asked by a woman to send them a dick pic.
I have had a women grope me in public (at a pool hall, with other people watching, over my pants)
I have been asked by a woman, in my bedroom, if she could watch me jerk off, and she then told me how hot she thought it was.
I would not do any of these things without the woman requesting it of me.
I will continue to not send dick pics, and not jerk off in front of women unless they request it.
But, if I took the victim point of view...
The woman who asked me for a dick pic? I guess I can claim she sexually harassed me.
The woman who groped me in the pool hall? I guess I can claim she sexually harassed me.
The woman in my bedroom who asked to watch me jerk off? I guess I can write that one off, since she was also naked at the time.
But if I'm ugly enough, and a woman is pretty enough, and I say "You look very nice today", at some point, simple verbal compliments and flirting should not be seen as sexual harassment.
It doesn't happen to me nearly often enough (~6 times in my ~30 years post-puberty), but occasionally women will "come on to me" in a purely sexual way.
I have been asked by a woman to send them a dick pic.
I have had a women grope me in public (at a pool hall, with other people watching, over my pants)
I have been asked by a woman, in my bedroom, if she could watch me jerk off, and she then told me how hot she thought it was.
I would not do any of these things without the woman requesting it of me.
I will continue to not send dick pics, and not jerk off in front of women unless they request it.
But, if I took the victim point of view...
The woman who asked me for a dick pic? I guess I can claim she sexually harassed me.
The woman who groped me in the pool hall? I guess I can claim she sexually harassed me.
The woman in my bedroom who asked to watch me jerk off? I guess I can write that one off, since she was also naked at the time.
But if I'm ugly enough, and a woman is pretty enough, and I say "You look very nice today", at some point, simple verbal compliments and flirting should not be seen as sexual harassment.
#1530
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re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
Looks like Lauer deleted all his social media accounts.
His lawyer probably told him to do so or he must have gotten a shit ton of hate posts and tweets.
His lawyer probably told him to do so or he must have gotten a shit ton of hate posts and tweets.
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This happens actually in this industry, casting couch is common. I forgot the movie name it was a viral news last year, where they revealed a small actress was raped in reality while shooting a rape scene.
I seen that movie on 123netflix.pro but don't remember the name
I seen that movie on 123netflix.pro but don't remember the name
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#1533
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I hadn't posted regarding all the recent news and now see there's 2 ongoing sexual harassment threads. I shared this in the other. Maybe it belongs here.
The Barna group just did a recent survey on what folks consider sexual harassment.
It shows how messed up society is. 9% of women and 17% of men don't see "being forced to do something sexual" as harassment. Even more disturbing: 11% of women & 24% of the men polled wouldn't characterize flashing/exposing yourself to another as falling into that category.
The Barna group just did a recent survey on what folks consider sexual harassment.
It shows how messed up society is. 9% of women and 17% of men don't see "being forced to do something sexual" as harassment. Even more disturbing: 11% of women & 24% of the men polled wouldn't characterize flashing/exposing yourself to another as falling into that category.
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re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
I think the movie you are referring to is Last Tango In Paris. No bot-ie’s perfect.
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#1535
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re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
I hadn't posted regarding all the recent news and now see there''s 2 ongoing sexual harassment threads. I shared this in the other. Maybe it belings here.
The Barna group just did a recent survey on what folks consider sexual harassment.
It shows how messed up society is. 9% of women and 17% of men don't see "being forced to do something sexual" as harassment. Even more disturbing: 11% of women & 24% of the men polled wouldn't characterize flashing/exposing yourself to another as falling into that category.
The Barna group just did a recent survey on what folks consider sexual harassment.
It shows how messed up society is. 9% of women and 17% of men don't see "being forced to do something sexual" as harassment. Even more disturbing: 11% of women & 24% of the men polled wouldn't characterize flashing/exposing yourself to another as falling into that category.
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#1537
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re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
Geoffrey Rush Steps Aside as President of Australian Academy After Misconduct Accusation
https://www.thewrap.com/geoffrey-rus...ct-accusation/
Geoffrey Rush announced Saturday that he would “step aside” as president of the Australian Academy of Cinema and Television Arts in the wake of unspecified accusations of “inappropriate behaviour” two years ago at the Sydney Theatre Company.
#1538
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re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
I am a completely average looking dude. I'm in pretty good shape, but I have a big nose, receding hairline, and skinnier legs than I want.
It doesn't happen to me nearly often enough (~6 times in my ~30 years post-puberty), but occasionally women will "come on to me" in a purely sexual way.
It doesn't happen to me nearly often enough (~6 times in my ~30 years post-puberty), but occasionally women will "come on to me" in a purely sexual way.
#1539
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re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
Geoffrey Rush Steps Aside as President of Australian Academy After Misconduct Accusation
https://www.thewrap.com/geoffrey-rus...ct-accusation/
https://www.thewrap.com/geoffrey-rus...ct-accusation/
#1540
DVD Talk Limited Edition
re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
Actresses Detail Groping, Simulated Rape in Audition for Ashley Judd Sex-Trafficking Film:
https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/ne...g-film-1063731
https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/ne...g-film-1063731
They also corroborated Malik’s assertion that the session was at times unnecessarily physical, reporting dragging, grabbing and pinching in a free-flowing improvisation that went — to their minds — off the rails. “I think we all definitely had some bruises when we left,” said another. Added a third: “I think [the filmmakers] were super-clueless and didn’t know this was not normal. I remember being really scared out of my mind. I know they were trying to get us there emotionally, but that’s not how they should have been doing it.”
#1541
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re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
Every improv class or group I've ever been with discusses the level of physical interaction the group is comfortable with. You never just "go for it". That's Improv 101 stuff.
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re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
Bryan Singer FIRED from Freddie Mercury biopic after 'throwing object' at star Rami Malek as allegations of director's sexual misconduct resurface
#1546
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re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
But wait . . .
Bryan Singer Accuses Fox of Refusing to Let Him Care for Sick Parent
http://variety.com/2017/film/news/br...ng-1202630586/
Bryan Singer Accuses Fox of Refusing to Let Him Care for Sick Parent
http://variety.com/2017/film/news/br...ng-1202630586/
#1547
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re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
I hadn't posted regarding all the recent news and now see there's 2 ongoing sexual harassment threads. I shared this in the other. Maybe it belongs here.
The Barna group just did a recent survey on what folks consider sexual harassment.
It shows how messed up society is. 9% of women and 17% of men don't see "being forced to do something sexual" as harassment. Even more disturbing: 11% of women & 24% of the men polled wouldn't characterize flashing/exposing yourself to another as falling into that category.
The Barna group just did a recent survey on what folks consider sexual harassment.
It shows how messed up society is. 9% of women and 17% of men don't see "being forced to do something sexual" as harassment. Even more disturbing: 11% of women & 24% of the men polled wouldn't characterize flashing/exposing yourself to another as falling into that category.
I think everybody could agree that rape is A Bad Thing, but anything less is going to fall on a sliding scale of context and (implied/explicit) consent. And given that almost every situation will be two people with different versions of the same story, attempting to judge - especially in retrospect - is troublingly problematic.
What concerns me even more is that so many different situations and DEGREES are being directly or implicitly equated. It's similar to McCarthyism and more recently the UK's Jimmy Saville fallout. There is a fundamental difference between Person A (allegedly) raping a dozen women and Person B thinking they were - or even "actually" - flirting with a potentially interested party...
And that's without even continuing a quid pro quo debate.
#1548
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re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
Maybe the delusion is that their status makes them feel like they can hookup with anyone they want. I have a friend who hung out at clubs around L.A. and had casual sex with a new girl every few days back in the 80's and 90's. You don't get to be that sexually active without being open and aggressive. I think that's an ambition that many guys share. You even see it portrayed with relative innocence in shows like Seinfeld (just as a random example).
Now we're facing a sobering reality that it was never consensual to be sexually aggressive in any manner. At work or anywhere else. And your perceived "game" is now, and has always been, sexual assault. Puts a whole new perspective on people who live that lifestyle where they enjoy sleeping around.
Now we're facing a sobering reality that it was never consensual to be sexually aggressive in any manner. At work or anywhere else. And your perceived "game" is now, and has always been, sexual assault. Puts a whole new perspective on people who live that lifestyle where they enjoy sleeping around.
#1549
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re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
Well, yea. I forget which thread I post in (this one or the Politics one). But I had a friend who "sexually assaulted" another friend and got kicked out of our circle of friends for awhile. A year or two later they were dating and living together. Maybe they have kids now. Who knew sex and relationships were so complicated? The time in between - I'm sure he was a "sexual predator" and she was "sexually assaulted".
What's the difference between a sexual advance based on perceived "shared feelings" (as sexual predator Charlie Rose puts it) and sexual assault? Is it a crime when an ugly guy hits on a woman based on a perceived notion and gets rejected ... compared to when an attractive guy makes the same move and she's immediately interested?
A lot of these accusations seem to be about women turning down sexual advances and awkward flirting. There seems to be a line to draw between Harvey Weinstein telling you to lick his balls to get the job, and Louis CK (who was a nobody at the time) misreading a situation and thinking he just setup a threesome. Bill Cosby drugging and raping sleeping women, and Garrison Keillor with his "inappropriate behavior".
What's the difference between a sexual advance based on perceived "shared feelings" (as sexual predator Charlie Rose puts it) and sexual assault? Is it a crime when an ugly guy hits on a woman based on a perceived notion and gets rejected ... compared to when an attractive guy makes the same move and she's immediately interested?
A lot of these accusations seem to be about women turning down sexual advances and awkward flirting. There seems to be a line to draw between Harvey Weinstein telling you to lick his balls to get the job, and Louis CK (who was a nobody at the time) misreading a situation and thinking he just setup a threesome. Bill Cosby drugging and raping sleeping women, and Garrison Keillor with his "inappropriate behavior".
Personal anecdote: female colleague tells female colleague her clothes looks nice - just a comment, and fine. Male colleague tells same colleague her clothes look nice - just a comment, and fine. Another male colleague says the same - flirting, and appreciated. A third does, and it's "creepy" and he gets officially warned by management..
All four used essentially (almost exactly) the same words. To the same person, on the same day, and (not that it matters) they were correct. But... one was "harassment," and three were not.
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#1550
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re: Sexual Harassment/Assault & Abuse in Hollywood -- Discussion
I’ll quote myself, since I guess no on pays attention.
There’s plenty of situations where anyone can feel uncomfortable about anything, but in the eyes of the law or workplace, sexual harassment and/or assault really isn’t too subjective. You actually have to do something or say something sexual, no? It’s not rocket science.
Don't shit where you eat.
And while there are clear definitions, there are hazier interpretations and lines. Appearances and feelings are important - and necessarily subjective. People where I work chat, flirt, joke, spend time together outside of work and generally Make Friends with each other. And, on occasion, form relationships, impregnate one another and report some people for harrassing them. In at least one case, all three in that order.....