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Old 08-25-11, 12:14 PM
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I think my girlfriend might be racist.

We've been dating on-&-off for a couple months now, but this last month has been more exclusive, getting more "serious", I suppose. Anyways, we've been getting along better and better, and she's getting increasingly comfortable around me. She's pretty hot (looks like a slightly older Blake Lively) she's really fun, up for most anything and we click pretty well. But with her increased comfort around me come certain comments that leave me a bit perplexed. She'll casually drop the N-word, or mention how she doesn't like how "Mexicans" crowd the beach on holidays, or how rude "Asians" can be, and other such zingers.

Of course I call her out on it and tell her, point blank, that these sorts of comments are messed up and pretty racist, and she'll come back with how she has nothing against a race in and of itself, but how she's commenting more on certain elements within that race's predominate culture that she doesn't approve of. Slippery slope of an excuse, but I buy it so we can get back to making out...

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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

As long as she doesn't criticize Obama in any way, I think you're okay.
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"I don't pay you to talk!" Problem solved...
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

Kill her.

Then decapitate the body, put the head on a stick in your basement, and dismember the rest of her, scattering the pieces in random ghetto neighborhoods.

It's the only way.
















Old 08-25-11, 12:20 PM
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Dude I like her, She's a keeper! I got the best Christmas present for her:

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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

Originally Posted by slop101 View Post
We've been dating on-&-off for a couple months now, but this last month has been more exclusive, getting more "serious", I suppose. Anyways, we've been getting along better and better, and she's getting increasingly comfortable around me. She's pretty hot (looks like a slightly older Blake Lively) she's really fun, up for most anything and we click pretty well. But with her increased comfort around me come certain comments that leave me a bit perplexed. She'll casually drop the N-word, or mention how she doesn't like how "Mexicans" crowd the beach on holidays, or how rude "Asians" can be, and other such zingers.

Of course I call her out on it and tell her, point blank, that these sorts of comments are messed up and pretty racist, and she'll come back with how she has nothing against a race in and of itself, but how she's commenting more on certain elements within that race's predominate culture that she doesn't approve of. Slippery slope of an excuse, but I buy it so we can get back to making out...

Thoughts?
That should be enough to tell you right there...
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

First, pretend like you have some black friends.

Second, invite her to a party and tell her a whole bunch of black people will be there.

If she gets overly excited, you have a problem. If she looks nervous, you have a problem. If she's totally cool with it and it doesn't seem like a big deal, tell her you're just kidding, you don't have any black friends. If she is overly disappointed, you have a problem. If she is overly relieved, you have a problem.

Works. Every. Time.
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Old 08-25-11, 12:32 PM
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

Life's too short. Dump her and move on. You're already not in it anymore if you're asking us about it, so cut her loose now and find someone else.
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

Originally Posted by slop101 View Post
She'll casually drop the N-word
Casually? Break up with her. Anyone that doesn't use it seriously and on a regular basis doesn't deserve a nice boyfriend.
Old 08-25-11, 12:36 PM
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

Originally Posted by slop101
(looks like a slightly older Blake Lively)
Originally Posted by DonnachaOne View Post
Life's too short. Dump her and move on. You're already not in it anymore if you're asking us about it, so cut her loose now and find someone else.
...and send her my way.
Old 08-25-11, 12:37 PM
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

Suggest a threesome with a hot black, Mexican or Asian chick. If she's not down for it, racist.
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

I'm surprised it's taken 10 posts for someone to explain that before we can offer a sober, nuanced, reflective opinion on the subtle yet profound moral and ethical elements of this situation, we would need pictures of this young woman.
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

He said she looks like an older Blake Lively. I just aged her 30 years and went with that. No picture needed.
Old 08-25-11, 12:48 PM
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

Like women's anatomy, a relationship only goes down from here on out. These comments may annoy you just a tad for the time being, imagine going 10x worst as your relationship progress.

Although if she's complaining how Asians talk on the cellphone in libraries and then party late at the laundry room, you can't fault her for that. She actually deserve extra bonus sex for getting it dead on.
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

Originally Posted by Ky-Fi View Post
I'm surprised it's taken 10 posts for someone to explain that before we can offer a sober, nuanced, reflective opinion on the subtle yet profound moral and ethical elements of this situation, we would need pictures of this young woman.
Finally, someone with a modicum of intelligence and common sense speaks out! Indeed, we require photographic evidence to examine prior to rendering judgment.
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

Hey, at least she's honest. I would prefer a "racist" like this to some undercover Racist. Frankly, how racist can she be? She's Fucking YOU right?

This is Simple.

Keep hitting it til you're tired of hitting it and move on. PUSSY IS PUSSY. I'd fuck a racist bitch, no problem. I don't owe any race any allegiance when it comes to my dick getting served. I have a feeling you're thinking is the same because if it was REALLY an issue...YOU WOULDA DUMPED HER AFTER THE FIRST, OR MAYBE EVEN THE SECOND RACIST COMMENT.
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

My friend and I have agreed that the only time the n-word is acceptable is when it is preceeded by "Fuck your couch..."
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

"My girlfriend looks like a slightly older Blake Lively. That is the one who did Pink Panther, right?"
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

where is the obligatory that's racist .gif?
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

Originally Posted by Thor Simpson View Post
First, pretend like you have some black friends.

Second, invite her to a party and tell her a whole bunch of black people will be there.

If she gets overly excited, you have a problem. If she looks nervous, you have a problem. If she's totally cool with it and it doesn't seem like a big deal, tell her you're just kidding, you don't have any black friends. If she is overly disappointed, you have a problem. If she is overly relieved, you have a problem.

Works. Every. Time.
I think we need a flow chart for that plan.
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Re: I think my girlfriend might be racist.

I know full well this won't last. And while we bust each other's balls all the time, we haven't gotten into a real fight, yet. I guess when we do, which is inevitable, I can use that as an excuse to break up. Until then, I'll continue to have fun with her.

The most surprising thing is that she's well-educated, well-traveled and comes from a good family that is all of those things as well; not at all someone I would've pegged as an ignorant racist. And to be fair, she's never treated minorities with any sort of disdain in person... shit, now I'm just making excuses. It's funny how a boner and a good time will make you excuse things that you would otherwise find reprehensible. Did I mention that she's really hot and a lot of fun?
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Hey, at least she's honest. I would prefer a "racist" like this to some undercover Racist. Frankly, how racist can she be? She's Fucking YOU right?

This is Simple.

Keep hitting it til you're tired of hitting it and move on. PUSSY IS PUSSY. I'd fuck a racist bitch, no problem. I don't owe any race any allegiance when it comes to my dick getting served. I have a feeling you're thinking is the same because if it was REALLY an issue...YOU WOULDA DUMPED HER AFTER THE FIRST, OR MAYBE EVEN THE SECOND RACIST COMMENT.
Always listen to the black dude.

That's exactly what I would say too. It sounds like you don't like the fact that she uses those words, so more than likely the two of you won't be a longterm item. However, it didn't bother you enough to dump her on the spot.

Keep dating and banging her for as long as you're into her and once you get sick of her, end it.

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