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Do what he's told.
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Exact same suit as the Best Man and Groomsman.
10.71%
Same suit. Black Shirt. Black dress shoes.
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Same suit. Black Shirt. Yellow running shoes.
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YAWT: Should all men in Wedding Party dress alike?

Old 04-26-09, 07:50 PM
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YAWT: Should all men in Wedding Party dress alike?

Okay, so here's the situation.

Wedding Party consists of 6 people:
1. Bride
2. Man of Honor
3. Bridesmaid
4. Groom
5. Best Man
6. Groomsman

The 100% known outfits are the following:
Bride - white.
Bridesmaid - black with a yellow sash
Groom - Black Tux. White shirt. Black Vest. Yellow Tie and Pocket Square. Black dress shoes.
Best Man and Groomsman - Black Tux. White shirt. White Vest. Yellow Tie and Pocket Square. Black dress shoes.

The Best Man and Groomsman's tuxes are the exact same style as the Groom, just a different placement of colours.

The only as-yet-undecided outfit is for the Man of Honor. Some of the suggestions (from either side of the disagreement) are:

1. Same Style Black Tux. White shirt. Yellow Vest. Black, White, or Yellow Tie and Pocket Square. Black dress shoes.
2. Same Style Black Tux. Black shirt. Yellow Vest. Black, White, or Yellow Tie and Pocket Square. Yellow running shoes (NOT dress shoes).
3. Different Style Black Tux with any of the other colour combinations.
4. Exact same outfit as the Best Man and Groomsman.

So, otters, take your vote! What should the Man of Honor do?

Some additional background. The Man of Honor would like his own personality to show in what he's wearing. The Groom doesn't want the focus to be drawn away from the bride and himself. The Bride understands the concerns of both sides and is completely torn. The Best Man, Groomsman, and Bridesmaid have all done what they've been told (so far).
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Re: YAWT: Should all men in Wedding Party dress alike?

Do what he's told. It's the bride's day to show off. All the attention should be on her. That's why the bridesmaids and the Maid of Honor traditionally have ugly dresses. The Man of Honor should dress to blend in with the rest of the men: black tux, white vest, white shirt.

He can show his personality at his own wedding. At this wedding, he's one of the backup singers.
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Re: YAWT: Should all men in Wedding Party dress alike?

Man of Honor? He's obviously sleeping with the bride.
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Re: YAWT: Should all men in Wedding Party dress alike?

^Haven't you seen "Made of Honor" with Patrick Dempsey?

Neither have I.
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If you are there at the special invitation of the Bride, to take part in HER ceremony, you wear what she tells you, even if it's hideous.
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Re: YAWT: Should all men in Wedding Party dress alike?

Just do what he's told. He shouldn't ruin the day for them over something silly.
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Re: YAWT: Should all men in Wedding Party dress alike?

Nix the running shoes, but bring them to the reception.

He can switch after the pictures are taken, and have comfortable (non-plastic) shoes for the rest of the evening, allowing his personality to show when it is more appropriate.
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Re: YAWT: Should all men in Wedding Party dress alike?

jonw9,
not a bad idea, actually. In fact, it may be beneficial for all of the Wedding Party to wear different shoes for the reception.

The suggestion has been passed on to the bride. Along with the zoot suit.
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As for the tux issue, I think I would with option 2, all black, with the yellow tie. Kinda like the bridesmaid. Perhaps a yellow cummerbund, depending on where the dress sash is. Then I would go white shirt, black tie, yellow square.
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Re: YAWT: Should all men in Wedding Party dress alike?

Man of Honor = Dude pretending to be gay so he can befriend the bride
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"Yellow tie"? Tacky idea, IMO. But do agree all the fellas should just do what they're told.
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Is this a bumblebee wedding?
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The Man of Honor should dress exactly the same as the Best Man.
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The Man of Honor would like his own personality to show in what he's wearing.
Gay, right?
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The Man of Honor should dress exactly the same as the Best Man.
And this.
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Re: YAWT: Should all men in Wedding Party dress alike?

Thanks all.

I'd like to focus on one of the other points to get some opinions...

The Groom doesn't want the focus to be drawn away from the bride and himself.
Is this a valid concern? Say the Man of Honor ends up in the same black tux, but with a Black Shirt. Maybe a yellow tie, vest, and pocket square. This would closely match the other bridesmaid, but would stand out from the Groom and Groomsmen.
Would that really draw additional attention away from the Bride & Groom? It has already been accepted that having a man on the Bride's side is unconventional and will draw some attention. This is fine. But... does it run the risk of having the Man of Honor looking 'better' than the Groom?

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do what the bride tells you to do, wear what she tells you to wear and you'll be OK

otherwise you'll piss her off and she'll never talk to you again
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Re: YAWT: Should all men in Wedding Party dress alike?

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The Bride understands the concerns of both sides and is completely torn.
I won't go into detail about the potential outcome of any decision that gets made, but I just wanted to point out that, although it's her decision, she really doesn't know what to do.

edit:
Should the Groom have final say on what the Man of Honor wears if he feels the outcome might divert attention from himself and, more importantly, the Bride?

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Old 04-27-09, 12:35 PM
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Re: YAWT: Should all men in Wedding Party dress alike?

I say he needs to do what he is told.

He is doing this because of his close relationship to the bride and groom and needs to remember that it's their day.
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She is going to have his nuts in here purse anyways, so the groom should hand them over now. People ARE going to look at the man of honor anyways, so it is by default, taking away attention.
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I didn't read the topic because I don't need to. It is up to the bride. If she has no opinion, keep needling her until she gives you her opinion. Then go with that, and act on it as if it is law.
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act on it as if it is law.
Even if she agrees with the yellow running shoes?

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