It's been awhile since I posted, but I am confident that I can turn to this community for the answer that my Googling and IMDb keyword searching has failed to provide. I'm trying to identify the movie that my great grandmother told my mom was her favorite. That sets it as no later than 1983, since that was the year she died. It's surely older than that, though. As for the plot, all we know is that a woman fails to save her husband from drowning in quicksand because she's pregnant. She holds this against the baby from then on. No idea if it follows them into early childhood or all the way to dying at old age. Don't know the baby's gender. Don't know any of the cast. Don't even know if it was black and white or color. At best, we're confident it was a talkie and they spoke English.

I believe this is Woman Obsessed with Susan Hayward.

And now he has to have a seance to ask granny if it was a forest fire and not quicksand

I don't think it's Woman Obsessed, story. The synopsis for that movie says it's the son who resents his stepfather. In the movie I'm looking for, it's the mother who resents her offspring.

Hasn't anyone told you it's rude to make quips about someone's deceased loved ones? If not, now someone has.

Good Burger....

...do we still do that here?

If not, I haven't gotten the memo!

She died 37 years ago. If the emotional wound is still that raw, you need to seek help.

I didn't say anything about an emotional wound. I said it was rude. There's no statute of limitations on rudeness.

Also, as a mental healthcare advocate, I would be remiss not to call to your attention that invoking seeking mental help as a pejorative just makes it that much harder for someone struggling to feel comfortable seeking help. It doesn't matter whether you're being malicious or merely flippant. The message comes across the same, particularly to someone who is already internalizing any and all messages that they're worthless and beyond hope. I get it. You're edgy. You need to make the world not take itself so seriously because you don't take it seriously. English is a large language. There are myriad ways to show how aloof and clever you are that aren't rude. Learn some new words and phrases. Be creative. I believe in you!

New words:
Sanctimonious
Condescending
Humorless
Egotistical
Smug

New phrases:
An easily triggered snowflake
Cocooned in a feeling of victimization

Thanks for the advice. Learning is fun!

I really don't understand why you're being so obtuse about Travis' objection to your unnecessarily rude post.
But congrats on derailing the thread, I guess.

Back on topic, it is most likely Girl of the Limberlost from 1934 or 1945 (there are two versions, and a TV movie from 1990).

This seemingly innocuous movie ID thread certainly took an ugly turn rather quickly...

The movie is Braveheart.

It was a joke. Pretty straightforward, and also a pretty obvious one for some one to make, in my opinion.
In all seriousness, the idea that it would even slightly bother the dead woman's grandson is so insane to me, that I never even considered the possibility.
I'm not being obtuse. I know what you and he think is the problem, but I just don't agree. I think he just jumped on an opportunity to be self-righteous, and that usually does not work around here in any thread.

Checked the wiki page for Girl of the Limberlost, the 1909 novel. It says it is considered a classic of Indiana literature.

i get what you're saying. I really do. I just think you (and he) could have just as easily dropped it after the first reply. I don't think there's anything self righteous about his post though.
Making a joke about someone's dead relative, benign or not, is just kind of tactless, that's all. You don't agree, and that's fine I guess, but there's nothing self righteous about calling it out as it was completely off topic and irrelevant.
I've seen this forum do better than to make weak "dead family" jokes at each other, and I can't say I've seen folks lean into that until now, other than when people shit on Patton Oswalt for re-marrying, but that's a far more extreme, gross example of just a handful of shitty people.
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That's all I got. Carry on as you wish. Not trying to judge you or give you a hard time. Just didn't see the point of doubling down I guess.

I"m looking forward to the post in a few years, "Help Identifying A Thread: It started out about a guy trying to find a movie his grandfather (maybe his grandmother, it's fuzzy) starred in, but somehow it turned into a statute of limitations argument. Anyone remember what I'm talking about? Also, the OP may have been on vacation in Indiana."

Just imagine if it really WAS about Good Burger!

I watched Good Burger a few weeks back.

The joke is... it's actually a pretty entertaining movie about the evils of unchecked capitalism.
Oops... wrong thread.

Found a copy of the 1934 version on the Internet Archive, supposedly public domain. The death happens fast, the husband is dead before 5 minutes have passed.
https://archive.org/details/AGirlOfTheLimberlost1934