Living with partner, DVDs kept together? Considered all one collection?
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Living with partner, DVDs kept together? Considered all one collection?
I've lived with my fiancee for a little over two years now. Since we've lived together, our DVDs have been sorted together, as opposed to keeping them separate. I was wondering, do most people that live with a partner keep their movies together, or does anyone keep their collections separate? If they are together, are they considered all one collection, or two collections? As you can see on my DVDAf collection below, I list them separately, even though that's not the way I keep them organized. I think what made me think about the thread asking what % of your collection has been double-dipped, and I was thinking in terms of my collection and hers, so I just wondered if others consider such a thing all one collection or not.
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Our dvds are together since we technically have the same taste, although I'm into more horror than her. CDs on the other hand are seperate since she thinks the majority of my collection sucks.
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My fiancee keeps hers seperate. It's nothing we ever really discussed that I remember, just something we've always done.
And I don't mind either... it keeps anyone from thinking all the Disney movies, Dr. Quinn Medicine Woman, and Strawaberry Shortcake belong to me.
And I don't mind either... it keeps anyone from thinking all the Disney movies, Dr. Quinn Medicine Woman, and Strawaberry Shortcake belong to me.
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Fortunately my girlfriend only owns about 5 dvds as opposed the 600+ i own..but having said that there is no way i'm integrating her 5 dvds(Titanic,Troy,You Got Mail,Practical Magic,Love Actually) into my own collection!!
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When my girlfriend moved in with me we just merged our collections. At that point she had like 300 and I had around 500. Surprisingly there were not too may duplicated in our collection even though we have very similar tastes (except for my love of Zombie films)
I buy at about a 4:1 ratio to what she buys now.
I buy at about a 4:1 ratio to what she buys now.
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From: The city with no sports championships...Cleveland
Originally Posted by Doeman
If you get married does it really matter if they are separate? If you get divorced she get's half anyway, doesn't she?
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My girlfriend and I moved in together several months ago, but we've always kept our DVDs separate. She has very few in comparison, and it's nothing I'd want mistaken as belonging to me. The biggest issue is handling, so she's always kept her previously-viewed buys with stickers still on them and the ones she leaves out of the case well away from my near-immaculate discs. Actually, strike that, reverse it.
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Right now my boyfriend and I live separate, but we always consider all our DVDs "ours"...not "his" and "mine" (listed together on DVDAf). In fact, we plan to move in together very soon, and merging our collections together is one thing we can't wait to do. We both have about the same amount of DVDs, except I have more boxed TV shows. And, my collection doesn't consist of only the girlie movies...I own movies like King Kong, Predator, etc. It's our shared hobby.
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Married, but separate collections. Hers would just get lost among all of mine. I probably have about 50 for every one of hers.
FWIW, I would recommend separate collections regardless of marital status. It could avoid potential future difficulties.. If 50% of all marriages end in divorce, what's the rate with non-marital "relationships"? Much higher, I bet.
FWIW, I would recommend separate collections regardless of marital status. It could avoid potential future difficulties.. If 50% of all marriages end in divorce, what's the rate with non-marital "relationships"? Much higher, I bet.
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We did keep ours seperate for a while but then I thought that if we kept our DVDs apart, in some way, that was a metaphor for our relationship. I didn't want to keep her at a distance from me because I thought that MY DVDs were better or more important than hers. So one day I merged them and I feel a lot better.
If you choose to be with someone, then you accept them for who they are.. You've Got Mail and all!
(we do have a lot of the same tastes so it's not that painful =)
If you choose to be with someone, then you accept them for who they are.. You've Got Mail and all!
(we do have a lot of the same tastes so it's not that painful =)
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That was an issue when we were going to move in together. I wanted to have my collection as my collection but he wanted them as one. We finally decided to put them together and I put labels in all of them.
I got tired of doing that about 2 years in.
I got tired of doing that about 2 years in.
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Merging body fluids yes, merging DVD's no.
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Unless you want the wife to be like a snapper then its best to keep em all together. Hell, I buy 99.9 percent of them anyways and she just watches them.
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Married and everything's completely separate. Mine are on shelves, her's are in a drawer in the dresser. I'm too anal to keep stuff I don't want on my shelves.



