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Old 06-29-06 | 06:36 AM
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Living with partner, DVDs kept together? Considered all one collection?

I've lived with my fiancee for a little over two years now. Since we've lived together, our DVDs have been sorted together, as opposed to keeping them separate. I was wondering, do most people that live with a partner keep their movies together, or does anyone keep their collections separate? If they are together, are they considered all one collection, or two collections? As you can see on my DVDAf collection below, I list them separately, even though that's not the way I keep them organized. I think what made me think about the thread asking what % of your collection has been double-dipped, and I was thinking in terms of my collection and hers, so I just wondered if others consider such a thing all one collection or not.
Old 06-29-06 | 06:56 AM
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I generally avoid this problem by making sure I buy all the DVDs, even if its stuff she is more interested in seeing.

Old 06-29-06 | 10:31 AM
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Our dvds are together since we technically have the same taste, although I'm into more horror than her. CDs on the other hand are seperate since she thinks the majority of my collection sucks.
Old 06-29-06 | 11:05 AM
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Together on the shelf. Separate on DVDaf. Your system is fine.
Old 06-29-06 | 12:05 PM
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My fiancee keeps hers seperate. It's nothing we ever really discussed that I remember, just something we've always done.

And I don't mind either... it keeps anyone from thinking all the Disney movies, Dr. Quinn Medicine Woman, and Strawaberry Shortcake belong to me.
Old 06-29-06 | 01:06 PM
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Fortunately my girlfriend only owns about 5 dvds as opposed the 600+ i own..but having said that there is no way i'm integrating her 5 dvds(Titanic,Troy,You Got Mail,Practical Magic,Love Actually) into my own collection!!
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If you get married does it really matter if they are separate? If you get divorced she get's half anyway, doesn't she?
Old 06-29-06 | 01:17 PM
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When my girlfriend moved in with me we just merged our collections. At that point she had like 300 and I had around 500. Surprisingly there were not too may duplicated in our collection even though we have very similar tastes (except for my love of Zombie films)

I buy at about a 4:1 ratio to what she buys now.
Old 06-29-06 | 04:41 PM
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If you get married does it really matter if they are separate? If you get divorced she get's half anyway, doesn't she?
I was thinking the same exact thing!!
Old 06-29-06 | 04:44 PM
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Seperate.

Mine! You no touch!
Old 06-29-06 | 04:46 PM
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Both my brother and me both keep our collections together. He only owns above 5 or so, but I claim them for my own.
Old 06-29-06 | 05:06 PM
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My girlfriend and I moved in together several months ago, but we've always kept our DVDs separate. She has very few in comparison, and it's nothing I'd want mistaken as belonging to me. The biggest issue is handling, so she's always kept her previously-viewed buys with stickers still on them and the ones she leaves out of the case well away from my near-immaculate discs. Actually, strike that, reverse it.
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Right now my boyfriend and I live separate, but we always consider all our DVDs "ours"...not "his" and "mine" (listed together on DVDAf). In fact, we plan to move in together very soon, and merging our collections together is one thing we can't wait to do. We both have about the same amount of DVDs, except I have more boxed TV shows. And, my collection doesn't consist of only the girlie movies...I own movies like King Kong, Predator, etc. It's our shared hobby.
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I'm married and I keep our discs separate. I'll be damned if I'm gonna let Brighton Beach Memoirs sit next to my Brazil Criterion and A Bucket of Blood.
Old 06-29-06 | 07:29 PM
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Married, but separate collections. Hers would just get lost among all of mine. I probably have about 50 for every one of hers.

FWIW, I would recommend separate collections regardless of marital status. It could avoid potential future difficulties.. If 50% of all marriages end in divorce, what's the rate with non-marital "relationships"? Much higher, I bet.
Old 06-29-06 | 08:54 PM
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I'll probably be referencing my DVDs in my prenuptial agreement. All DVDs acquired during marriage will go on a separate shelf.
Old 06-29-06 | 08:57 PM
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We keep them together (about 1200)...she hasn't bought many but I always make sure she has the ones she wants (I had to replace that old VHS collection of hers).
Old 06-29-06 | 09:05 PM
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I think most women would be at least slightly offended if you insisted on keeping your collections separate.
Old 06-29-06 | 10:14 PM
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We did keep ours seperate for a while but then I thought that if we kept our DVDs apart, in some way, that was a metaphor for our relationship. I didn't want to keep her at a distance from me because I thought that MY DVDs were better or more important than hers. So one day I merged them and I feel a lot better.
If you choose to be with someone, then you accept them for who they are.. You've Got Mail and all!
(we do have a lot of the same tastes so it's not that painful =)
Old 06-30-06 | 12:36 AM
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Married, everything's one big happy collection (including the kids movies as well). I buy at probably a 2:1 ratio to my wife.
Old 06-30-06 | 12:39 AM
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I shelve ours together. I know exactly which ones are hers. When it comes to ones we both owned, mine is the copy shelved.
Old 06-30-06 | 12:49 AM
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That was an issue when we were going to move in together. I wanted to have my collection as my collection but he wanted them as one. We finally decided to put them together and I put labels in all of them.
I got tired of doing that about 2 years in.
Old 06-30-06 | 12:51 AM
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Merging body fluids yes, merging DVD's no.
Old 06-30-06 | 01:45 AM
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Unless you want the wife to be like a snapper then its best to keep em all together. Hell, I buy 99.9 percent of them anyways and she just watches them.
Old 06-30-06 | 12:02 PM
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Married and everything's completely separate. Mine are on shelves, her's are in a drawer in the dresser. I'm too anal to keep stuff I don't want on my shelves.


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