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Re: My girlfriend won't leave her abusive husband
Think on the bright side... at least the husband didn't come back into the picture after YOU had married her. This could have been much messier.
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Re: My girlfriend won't leave her abusive husband
If you truly care about her...RUN. It is messed up that she does not leave her bad situation. If she was abused I hope she turned him over to the police. Will make the divorce that much easier. Regardless: This is not your decision to make. She needs to sort out her life first.
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I know this is , but this a bad relationship to be in. Way, WAY too much baggage to have a chance at being anything worth while. WRT the separated husband, I'm a little worried about the OP's physical safety here to be honest. Get out of this relationship asap.
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Re: My girlfriend won't leave her abusive husband
Fellas, cut the dude some slack!
Popcorn, do not, I repeat, do NOT listen to all "advise" given by the previous 107 posters. They are all wrong.
True love is hard to find. You have to go for it. Follow your heart, be the knight in shining armor, and deliver this damsel from evil. The resulting full life you with have with her and her offspring will be a life of accomplishment, gratification and pure concentrated joy.
Oh, and keep posting here every step on the way how things are going. I have now officially subscribed to this post for just that reason.
Popcorn, do not, I repeat, do NOT listen to all "advise" given by the previous 107 posters. They are all wrong.
True love is hard to find. You have to go for it. Follow your heart, be the knight in shining armor, and deliver this damsel from evil. The resulting full life you with have with her and her offspring will be a life of accomplishment, gratification and pure concentrated joy.
Oh, and keep posting here every step on the way how things are going. I have now officially subscribed to this post for just that reason.
#108
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Re: My girlfriend won't leave her abusive husband
This is exactly what it sounds like. She will never be free of this man, nor does she want to be. He will always be her Daddy. She might rebel against him, she might view you as the guy she "dates" to get back at him. But she'll always go back to him because she doesn't want to make him mad.
Once more in the backyard for Arbor day, then run. Run like Hell. Run like a sonnuvabitch.
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To add more fuel to the fire...
This guy sounds just like my ex-husband. Difference is, I only lasted a year being married to him, we don't have any kids together (thank you thank you thank you...), and I did call the cops. Even with that, it took me a good year to emotionally get away from the relationship after I kicked him out. The divorce took 9 months because he fought me tooth and nail. I had a rebound relationship while I was going through the divorce, but I wasn't ready to commit to someone like that yet. Popcorn, either way right now, you'll lose. I'll repeat what everyone else said. Get out.
This guy sounds just like my ex-husband. Difference is, I only lasted a year being married to him, we don't have any kids together (thank you thank you thank you...), and I did call the cops. Even with that, it took me a good year to emotionally get away from the relationship after I kicked him out. The divorce took 9 months because he fought me tooth and nail. I had a rebound relationship while I was going through the divorce, but I wasn't ready to commit to someone like that yet. Popcorn, either way right now, you'll lose. I'll repeat what everyone else said. Get out.
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Re: My girlfriend won't leave her abusive husband
Lets take the BEST CASE SCENARIO
The guy gets the picture and walks off into the sunset
You and her marry
10 years from now THOSE FUCKING KIDS will be madmen, abusive, drug addicted, criminals
Thats the BEST CASE
The guy gets the picture and walks off into the sunset
You and her marry
10 years from now THOSE FUCKING KIDS will be madmen, abusive, drug addicted, criminals
Thats the BEST CASE
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Re: My girlfriend won't leave her abusive husband
Can only echo most of the other responses. Get out, make a clean break and keep your relationship professional at work. No good can come of this in the short term and, most likely, the long term.
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Re: My girlfriend won't leave her abusive husband
Popcorn, what are your real-life friends saying?
Anyway, my advice - tell her that the situation just isn't working for you and that you wish her well with her husband. If she ever gets a divorce look you up but not until after the divorce has been finalized.
Here's a link to the commercial for "Bad Idea Jeans" (a SNL skit). I think you'd fit into a pair of these jeans quite well.
http://www.hulu.com/watch/10310/bad-idea-jeans
Anyway, my advice - tell her that the situation just isn't working for you and that you wish her well with her husband. If she ever gets a divorce look you up but not until after the divorce has been finalized.
Here's a link to the commercial for "Bad Idea Jeans" (a SNL skit). I think you'd fit into a pair of these jeans quite well.
http://www.hulu.com/watch/10310/bad-idea-jeans
Last edited by Heat; 08-24-09 at 03:21 PM.
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Re: My girlfriend won't leave her abusive husband
I enjoy going out with a MILF as much as the next fella. However, it's just not worth going to the boneyard or the stir over.
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Re: My girlfriend won't leave her abusive husband
I'm not joking with my next response. This what I’d do, and I think you should do it as well.
1) Be supportive to your girlfriend. Be nice, talk to her, stay involved in her life.
2) For a few month, take so MMA classes. None of the Tae Kwon Dow shit, learn how to street fight.
3) Buy a gun, just in case.
4) Confront the guy. Tell him that he's ruining his wife’s an his kids lives. If he try's to get physical, you have the MMA knowledge to help you out.
5) Get your girl friend a good lawyer, and try to get her out of the marriage.
6) Let her know your doing all of this so she knows your committed and really care about her and the kids.
7) Get a restraining order against him for your girlfriend and the kids.
8) If you move in together, set up security cameras around the place. Just in case if he try's something, you not only can kick his ass, but he can be put in jail.
Or you could get out now. Do you love her? Is she worth all of this?
1) Be supportive to your girlfriend. Be nice, talk to her, stay involved in her life.
2) For a few month, take so MMA classes. None of the Tae Kwon Dow shit, learn how to street fight.
3) Buy a gun, just in case.
4) Confront the guy. Tell him that he's ruining his wife’s an his kids lives. If he try's to get physical, you have the MMA knowledge to help you out.
5) Get your girl friend a good lawyer, and try to get her out of the marriage.
6) Let her know your doing all of this so she knows your committed and really care about her and the kids.
7) Get a restraining order against him for your girlfriend and the kids.
8) If you move in together, set up security cameras around the place. Just in case if he try's something, you not only can kick his ass, but he can be put in jail.
Or you could get out now. Do you love her? Is she worth all of this?
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Re: My girlfriend won't leave her abusive husband
I thout "Never move in with a woman who requires you to set up security cams because of her abusive ex husband" was an unspoken relationship rule, but I guess Blu Man just proved me wrong.
#124
Re: My girlfriend won't leave her abusive husband
It's not on Popcorn to do anything more than he has. He's put himself out there and she has not taken the bait. She isn't looking for someone like Popcorn for anything but a distraction.
Best advice is what 99/100 posters have said: try to move on. There are too many ways this could go wrong, and the MILF isn't doing anything to make your being with her even a remote possibility.
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