Buford T Pusser

I've noticed this the three or four times I've been at a restaurant or bar with him and he doesn't seem to be a dirty non showering person. Outside if fine but inside within four feet not so good.

Nice guy but I think it would not go well if I said something about this to him. His wife is usually with him and I would think she would notice.

He doesn't have a medical issue that I can observe. Or maybe he does? I did have an older relative with an issue that had a urine bag and the odor was strong.

SO what would YOU do?

andicus

Perhaps he peed in his wife's butt, and it's coming from her?

AGuyNamedMike

Not that close? Scrape'em off Claire.

Seriously though, it may be a medical/genetic condition. Or it may even be you (something medical/genetic is making you smell stuff others don't).

I don't know. It's a toughie. Good luck.

dex14

TotY 2022

cultshock

If he's "not that close" of a friend, how do you know he doesn't have a medical condition?

fujishig

Offer to go work out with him, carefully observe him in the shower and report back.

Worst case scenario is he notices, and never talks to you again so problem solved.

cultshock

Best case scenario? He might become a "closer" friend.

Norm de Plume

"Psst, buddy, you smell like you've been bathing in a latrine" seems like a thoughtful way to handle it.

Buford T Pusser

I just know the few times in the last few years before the last six months I didn't notice the smell but have the last few times. His work is active and he's in okay shape.

Decker

fujishig

If you don't have small kids of your own, go with him to a place that has kids, like a Chuck E Cheese. Then go "oh man, did someone pee themselves? I smell pee."

If he acts sheepish (or quickly deflects) then you know he knows. If the wife looks embarrassed then you know she knows.
Optionally you can bring the mutual friend with no tact, who will blurt out "oh yeah, that's Bill! I thought it was obvious." Then you apologize saying you had no idea but the other guy will get the blame.

Buford T Pusser

This is a good idea although I'm not sure how to get him somewhere with kids. Usually alcohol is a priority for him or the casino.

He does drink crappy piss beer like Bud Light etc. maybe I could say "you are drinking too much of that piss beer and you're starting to smell like it!" and see how he and the missus react?

fujishig

Oh even easier then. Go to a place where there are obviously people already sloshed and after a bit say "Let's leave, I think someone peed themselves."

emanon

ftfy

clckworang

Not sure why you would discount a medical condition. That you could observe? Uh you're smelling it. That's an observation!

But seriously, it could be any number of things, including a medical condition that he might not even know about. And if he does know about it, maybe it's not his habit to tell everyone he interacts with, "Excuse me, I have a medical condition that makes me smell like piss."

The headline says one thing and the post says something else; what is the goal of the OP? Are you potentially concerned about him? Just want to tell him? Or is it more of a personal inconvenience thing? If you're genuinely concerned about a medical condition, I think I'd say something. If you're worried that he'll get angry, consider talking to the wife, explaining that you didn't want to upset your friend but were concerned and wanted to make sure there wasn't anything wrong and that she was aware. They live together, so she might be accustomed to it. If you approach it just right, it would be sort of putting things back onto the wife to do something.

At a previous workplace, we had a lot of issues with the hygiene of a coworker. We tried hints, but it didn't help. Finally, one of us talked to our manager about it. The smelly person was talked to. It helped somewhat. In his case, I think the number of cats in his house had something to do with it.

Buford T Pusser

Maybe the title and thread seem conflicted because I am the same? I first thought he just needed a shower or had a rough night and wore the same pants but now I am wondering.

Did not cross my mind he would not know about an issue of such a smell and maybe a shower issue. My goal is for him to smell better so others are not thinking negative thoughts of him. The wife idea is good although
I don't really know her too well and once I made a comment on FB and she took it totally wrong at first so I think she's a bit quick to anger.

emanon

Oh - he's on FB? Give us a link to his profile, and we'll get to the bottom of this for ya!

TomOpus

He might wear a leakage control garment but forgets to change. Or he's just use to the smell.

kd5

If you're not sure it's you smelling erroneously or it's him stinking like a urinal, ask the person on the other side of him at the bar, "Hey, do you smell piss?"

GatorDeb

Bestest scenario? He brings along the wife

Inhumans99

Not to be too graphic or crude, but is it possible he is one of those dudes who does not do a good job of flicking his penis a bit so that extra bit of urine ends up in the urinal and not in the folds of his foreskin (or if he is in a stall, does not use a bit of TP to pat dry the area around his penis where it might still be wet once you are done urinating)?

Folks sometimes forget that those places on your body, say that plumbers crack area, if you do not get in there with some soap and bit of elbow grease, dirt and schmutz can remain behind even after several showers and the next thing you know you have crud in an area you might assume was clean. I would imagine if enough urine gets trapped in the folds of your skin for a while it might start to smell.

I am probably way off base, but it seems like it might indeed be a hygiene issue.

zyzzle

Wait... are we sure it's a piss smell, or is it a BO or scatological smell? I don't think the OP has said either way. We've got to make sure just which type of offensive odor it is until further advice can be intelligently furnished...

emanon

Title says "urine" so I'm gonna go with piss.

Josh-da-man

"Dude, you smell like piss all the time. What's up with that?"

cultshock

Yep, piss, poop and BO smells are quite distinct, no one is going to think "Hmmm, which smell is that?"