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Old 09-01-21, 10:50 AM
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Yup, unnecessary. And you know she telling dudes after she flicks the bean that her husband isn't going to let her see the kids. And dudes probably saying take him for everything first. Sigh.
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Old 09-01-21, 01:05 PM
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Originally Posted by Obi-Wanma View Post
That's up do you is a better answer than I don't know. I don't know sounds like you don't know if you would allow her to see them again.
I guess youíre right. In any case I wasnít threatening to do so and it hurt she would even think that.

Sheís being more civil today though. Not talking to the guys in front of me or even as much.
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Originally Posted by stingermck View Post
Yup, unnecessary. And you know she telling dudes after she flicks the bean that her husband isn't going to let her see the kids. And dudes probably saying take him for everything first. Sigh.
Maybe.
Old 09-01-21, 01:07 PM
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Originally Posted by Pharoh View Post
All of this needs to be seen again.

And the OP liked this post, yet does nothing except continue to be a extremely self-centered whiner. Really feel for the children.
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Originally Posted by nickdawgy View Post
Sheís being more civil today though. Not talking to the guys in front of me or even as much.
Does it matter. At this point.

You really are coming across as a chump now.

Come on man. Talk to a lawyer already.
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Old 09-01-21, 02:19 PM
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I love this forum.
That's MORE than obvious - feel free to leave at ANY time.....
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Old 09-01-21, 02:55 PM
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Originally Posted by nickdawgy View Post
Nice legwork. Yeah the future issues stuff is concerning. Not sure if I mentioned this but the other day I was reiterating my desire to get 100%. She asked if she would see her kids again. I said I donít know. She cried. I guess I could have said ďthatís up to youĒ but that almost seems like a threat. I would never keep the kids from her. Sheís thrown it in my face daily though.
This is still somehow the most befuddling thing about this whole story to me. Why would she offer to give you 100% custody? As a fellow parent I don't get this AT ALL. And why would she then ask if she could still see the children? And why wouldn't you let her? You still claim to love this person and would prefer to work things out. What good does it do to keep the children from her? What's wrong with joint custody? I don't get any of this passive aggressive jr. high drama b.s.
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It seems as though she doesn't want any responsibility at all, but to still see the kids. That's where Nick getting full custody and granting visitation comes in.

If she really doesn't want that responsibility, she's not a keeper, that's for sure.

Get professional advice, Nick. And don't come back to this thread until there is a plan to move forward.
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It seems as though she doesn't want any responsibility at all, but to still see the kids. That's where Nick getting full custody and granting visitation comes in.

If she really doesn't want that responsibility, she's not a keeper, that's for sure.

Get professional advice, Nick. And don't come back to this thread until there is a plan to move forward.
I give like 0% chance of this happening. But please prove me wrong!
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Old 09-01-21, 05:56 PM
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This thread has devolved into the usual train wreck. But, not to wish ill on anyone, I wish nick the best in straightening this mess out. Until both parents get their acts together, it almost seems like the best place for these kids is in a foster home, with stable caregivers. The current environment is toxic and going to cause the irreparable harm. A judge might see it the same way, unless something starts to change -- and soon.
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Originally Posted by rocket1312 View Post
This is still somehow the most befuddling thing about this whole story to me. Why would she offer to give you 100% custody? As a fellow parent I don't get this AT ALL. And why would she then ask if she could still see the children? And why wouldn't you let her? You still claim to love this person and would prefer to work things out. What good does it do to keep the children from her? What's wrong with joint custody? I don't get any of this passive aggressive jr. high drama b.s.
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It seems as though she doesn't want any responsibility at all, but to still see the kids. That's where Nick getting full custody and granting visitation comes in.

If she really doesn't want that responsibility, she's not a keeper, that's for sure.

Get professional advice, Nick. And don't come back to this thread until there is a plan to move forward.
Iíve been thinking about this. A couple thoughts. 1. It may just be the way Nick is writing in his responses but Iím not sure he even realizes the answers he is giving his wife (Iím giving him the benefit of the doubt here). Either his wife has completely check-out and is done with everythkng (Nick and the kids) or she just doesnít know how to navigate this whole thing either. Or worse, Nick isnít telling us the half of it and heís got her completely gaslighted into thinking sheís a shitty mom who shouldnít be able to see her kids. Hopefully, Nick isnít doing that on purpose. Sheís still their mother and has rights. None of the stuff Nick is telling her is going to look great if/when it comes out in court (and it will!). 2. Weíre hearing all of this just through Nickís perspective. Honestly, reading between the lines of Nickís posts from the beginning of this thread makes me think heís got his wife feeling terrible about herself and convinced her to go along with things she wasnít comfortable with for the sake of making Nick happy (this isnít going to look good for Nick in court). Iím not sure Nick is going to have a shot at full-custody of the kids based on all the stuff his wife has on him.

The last thing Nick should be doing right now is telling his wife she wonít have contact with the kids or wonít be able to see the kids and I sure as shit, hope these conversations arenít happening in front of the kids.

It seems that Nicks thinks he has some sort of slam dunk in court if it goes that far, Iím not so sure.
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This is absolutely in the 'unreliable narrator' genre.
(And I don't doubt there is plenty of emotional/psychological manipulation going around of both the conscious and subconscious variety.)
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This is absolutely in the 'unreliable narrator' genre.
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Originally Posted by nickdawgy View Post
Nice legwork. Yeah the future issues stuff is concerning. Not sure if I mentioned this but the other day I was reiterating my desire to get 100%. She asked if she would see her kids again. I said I donít know. She cried. I guess I could have said ďthatís up to youĒ but that almost seems like a threat. I would never keep the kids from her. Sheís thrown it in my face daily though.
She could take them to Scottland to be with Scott and then you would never see your children again. Don't you get it?
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No that's not abuse. Many poor families live in a single room apartment. It's not abuse when the parents have sex after their kids go to sleep. If this episode was discreet, which it sounds like it was, and if the daughter didn't even know it was happening, which also sounds like the case, it's in no way abusive behavior.
That said it does show poor parental judgment. For the thousandth time, get a lawyer.
I'm not sure I agree with you on this one. I think it's a totally different situation if it's a couple and their kid vs. some rando online and especially if she's making money off of it. Wouldn't that be soliciting in the presence of a minor? Either way, like Zyyzle said. Document document document. Keep records of everything. Anything that can help your case for custody.
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You know what would be even more useful in a custody case? An attorney.
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This is one of the few times that I can say with 100% certainty that Nick doesnít deserve his wife, and his wife does not deserve him at all. The kids deserve better than to just be pawns in their little game of one upping narcissism.
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I'm not sure I agree with you on this one. I think it's a totally different situation if it's a couple and their kid vs. some rando online and especially if she's making money off of it. Wouldn't that be soliciting in the presence of a minor? Either way, like Zyyzle said. Document document document. Keep records of everything. Anything that can help your case for custody.
One of his main "issues" seems to be that she's NOT making money off of it, that these are "freebies."
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Can someone send this thread to Dr. Phil?

I'd really like to see this play out on afternoon tv...
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I think it's better suited for Jerry or Maury
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Originally Posted by Josh-da-man View Post
Can someone send this thread to Dr. Phil?

I'd really like to see this play out on afternoon tv...
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Originally Posted by Josh-da-man View Post
Can someone send this thread to Dr. Phil?

I'd really like to see this play out on afternoon tv...
Even Dr. Phil is like, I'm not lowering this show to that level.

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I think it's better suited for Jerry or Maury
This seems more in the sweet spot.
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Are Jerry and Maury still on?

I don't think I've seen either one in over two decades.
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Are Jerry and Maury still on?

I don't think I've seen either one in over two decades.
I think Maury is still on but not Jerry.

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