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Old 09-14-21, 11:03 AM
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Re: My Marriage May Be Over....Need Advice :(

Originally Posted by nickdawgy View Post
Iíll get a lawyer once Iím convinced this marriage is over. All signs point to that.
You already know it. Think long, think wrong.
Old 09-14-21, 12:48 PM
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Re: My Marriage May Be Over....Need Advice :(

Originally Posted by TGM View Post
gonna try reverse psychology.

whatever you do, do not fucking even think of lawyering up.
Right?

Nick, I was wrong, don't listen to us. Your marriage is perfectly savable. It's a sacred institution after all. Tell her you love her and shower her with affection. Don't mope. In fact don't show any emotion at all except happiness and love for her, bottle up any negative feelings deep inside. Trust her at her word and just drive on like nothing's wrong. Even if she serves you papers, remember it's just performative and she simply needs you to step up your love game and smother her more.

You can do this, man! Thirty years from now you'll both look back on this episode and chuckle.

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Old 09-14-21, 01:46 PM
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Re: My Marriage May Be Over....Need Advice :(

The 'bottle up negative feelings' part is key. That's GOLD, Mike, GOLD!
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Re: My Marriage May Be Over....Need Advice :(

Originally Posted by Kurt D View Post
God strike me dead for jumping back in ...
If the above bolded is how you feel, "all signs point to the marriage being over" then what will it take to convince you of that fact, being served papers?

I'd agree with you, all signs point to it being over. There is one chance (in hell) to fix things, you both get in individual therapy and couples counselling right now. The worst that could happen if you both do that is that you both wake up and end it amicably. (Actually that's probably the best thing.)
Papers would definitely be the end. But sheís wanting individual counseling. She may eventually agree to marriage counseling.
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Originally Posted by TGM View Post
gonna try reverse psychology.

whatever you do, do not fucking even think of lawyering up.
Please don't get a lawyer.
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Old 09-14-21, 03:45 PM
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Re: My Marriage May Be Over....Need Advice :(

You crazy kids are destined to be together forever, that's true love right there!
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Re: My Marriage May Be Over....Need Advice :(

Originally Posted by nickdawgy View Post
Papers would definitely be the end. But sheís wanting individual counseling. She may eventually agree to marriage counseling.
Translation: She wants to try to fix herself before moving on.
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Old 09-14-21, 05:37 PM
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Re: My Marriage May Be Over....Need Advice :(

Originally Posted by nickdawgy View Post
Papers would definitely be the end. But sheís wanting individual counseling. She may eventually agree to marriage counseling.
I mean...to save...this? Really?
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Old 09-14-21, 08:06 PM
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Re: My Marriage May Be Over....Need Advice :(

A lawyer would only show you're trying to protect your financial interest and access to your kids. Better to wait and see if she pulls the trigger and puts you out on the street with no access to your children. Don't get one.
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Old 09-15-21, 07:49 PM
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Re: My Marriage May Be Over....Need Advice :(

We are working on things. She severed all ties with other guys. Neither one of us is being controlling or mean to each other. We will see what happens.
Old 09-15-21, 07:50 PM
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Originally Posted by VinVega View Post
A lawyer would only show you're trying to protect your financial interest and access to your kids. Better to wait and see if she pulls the trigger and puts you out on the street with no access to your children. Don't get one.
Even if she wanted to do that she couldnít.
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I wish you the best.
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Old 09-15-21, 08:14 PM
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Originally Posted by nickdawgy View Post
Even if she wanted to do that she couldnít.
I mean, maybe she could, maybe she couldn't. You know what, a lawyer could probably tell you with more certainty.. But I know, beating a dead horse.

I also wish you nothing but the best, Nick. Good luck.
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Re: My Marriage May Be Over....Need Advice :(

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I mean, maybe she could, maybe she couldn't. You know what, a lawyer could probably tell you with more certainty.. But I know, beating a dead horse.

I also wish you nothing but the best, Nick. Good luck.
Actually I think it's supposed to be a live sheep.
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Re: My Marriage May Be Over....Need Advice :(

Thanks for the well wishes. If she shows any sign of going back to these dudes or not trying, I’m filing. And getting a lawyer.
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praise Jebus!
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Good for you, and good luck.
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Re: My Marriage May Be Over....Need Advice :(

Originally Posted by nickdawgy View Post
Thanks for the well wishes. If she shows any sign of going back to these dudes or not trying, Iím filing. And getting a lawyer.

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Re: My Marriage May Be Over....Need Advice :(

Originally Posted by nickdawgy View Post
Thanks for the well wishes. If she shows any sign of going back to these dudes or not trying, Iím filing. And getting a lawyer.
Don't even hold on to negative thoughts like that, you'll just sabotage yourself! If you walk in on her and some random guy she's probably just having a low self-esteem day, and further they're probably tired. Go make her a smoothie and perhaps a sandwich for her guest. [/sarcasm knob all the way up to 11]


But seriously, good luck. I truly do hope things work out for you both.

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