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Old 02-14-20, 09:45 PM
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Morbid curiosity or icky?

I've been riding my bike for exercise for the past seven months. I like to change my route to avoid boredom, so twice this week I've ridden to some local cemeteries that hold the grave sites of celebrities. My fiancee thinks I'm being gross, but I have enjoyed my brief visits photographing the grave markers of Hollywood stars. Being this is a group of mostly film fans, do you think it's weird that I did this? My favorite grave has been Jack Lemmon's.



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Old 02-14-20, 09:49 PM
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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

Doesn’t seem gross, morbid, or icky at all.

Don’t recall you mentioning a fiancee before. Congrats!
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Old 02-14-20, 09:59 PM
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Just tell her you are looking for ideas...
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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

When you start assembling replicas in your back yard, that's when I would sound the alarm.
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Old 02-14-20, 10:38 PM
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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

When I go out to LA I see Celeb Grave Tours and their usually full so I don't think its weird. If you go its like paying your respects to people you like. So it seems normal to me
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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

I have a friend who has travelled around quite a bit taking pictures of gravesites and markers of sports stars (and some lesser known). I have always thought it was a cool pastime.
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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

Perfectly OK, no problem at all. What's the big deal? I commend you for varying your bike route.
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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

I do this on almost every trip I take. Been to tons of cemeteries.
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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

As long as you're not bringing home souvenirs, no worries.
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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

Some of the people at Pierce Brothers Westwood Cemetary put red lipstick on and kiss Marilyn Monroe's crypt. I do think that's a little strange.
Kirk Douglas was just buried there in the same plot with his son Eric. They haven't added his name to the headstone yet. George C. Scott has been there for years and his headstone is still blank. Frank Zappa and Roy Orbison don't have any kind of markers on their graves.
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John Wayne is buried in the cemetery nearest to me. I’ve been meaning to go see it for years. I saw in the paper today that Kobe and his daughter were just buried there last week. There won’t be a marker for some time as there is concern about too much visitation.

The article talked some more about Wayne. His grave was unmarked until 1998. His son was quoted and the reason they did it was out of concern for the “neighbors”, the other plots near him that would be trafficked over by lookyloos. Which I think is nice.

I love the Jack Lemmon tombstone. Pretty damn funny.
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As far as morbid tourism I’ve done far worse. Our whole summer vacation was Oklahoma City Bombing memorial, Dealey Plaza, Civil War battlefields, the motel where JFK was shot, etc. My personal high point (low point) was eating a breakfast of powder sugar donuts with the wife and kids (6 and 9) at the sight of the mass grave of the victims of the great 1872 earthquake in California’s Owens Valley.
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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

We toured this location.

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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

I lived across the street from a graveyard when I was in my early 20s. I spent a lot of time walking in it. I think it was a beneficial experience. It reminded me every day that I will die someday, which young people tend to forget.

There was a large, elaborate grave of a man who I'd never heard of. It had pillars, it had plaques, it had his resume. I decided that if I didn't do anything memorable in life, it would be foolish vanity for me to to erect a 8x8x10 foot marble monument so I'd be remembered after my death.

Seeing hundred year old tombstones being eaten away by lichen was a fine lesson in the impermanence of things.

When we visited a cemetery in rural Indiana last year, we saw numerous headstones for Civil War dead, all alike. So many young men got killed that local stonecutters used a standard form, simple and fast, for their graves.

And, of course, all old cemeteries have lots and lots of little grave markers for infants. Modern medicine is wonderful.

So, I don't think going to graveyards is morbid or icky. It's accepting an important part of life. It provides examples of how previous generations dealt with death. Everyone ought to do it.

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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

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I've been riding my bike for exercise for the past seven months. I like to change my route to avoid boredom, so twice this week I've ridden to some local cemeteries that hold the grave sites of celebrities. My fiancee thinks I'm being gross, but I have enjoyed my brief visits photographing the grave markers of Hollywood stars. Being this is a group of mostly film fans, do you think it's weird that I did this? My favorite grave has been Jack Lemmon's.
As long as you don't dig up remains and fuck them till you are exhausted or jiz all over the grass, I think you'll be just fine.
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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

Does Jack Lemmon have an extra gravestone there that lists the years he was alive?
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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

It's not morbid at all. I look at it as paying homage to history.
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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

Not morbid at all, cemeteries were meant to be visited.
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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

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Does Jack Lemmon have an extra gravestone there that lists the years he was alive?
maybe it’s on the back
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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

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Not morbid at all, cemeteries were meant to be visited.
Exactly.

Max, if your fiancée has a problem with it, ask her what she thinks the purpose of gravestones are aside from paying your respects. As long as you’re not disrespectful or vandalizing the place, you’re doing what you’re supposed to be doing.

Slightly off topic, but one of my first apartments was right right next to a cemetery and I already found it extremely peaceful rather than spooky or creepy.
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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

I tend to go to places where fucked up things have happened. On my road trip I went by the theater in Aurora CO where the shooting happened, and Columbine High School in the same day. Have also gone by the house in Tracy CA where a family tortured a kid and was planning to kill him before he escaped, and the house in Merced where Steven Stayner's family lived before and during his kidnapping (I checked the garage door for Steven's name written on it, but it had long been painted over. Different people live there now.)
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Some of my favorites;










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Re: Morbid curiosity or icky?

I'm a Findagrave junkie. I manage my mother's, brother's, grandparents', and several uncles and cousins' memorial sites. Most of them weren't actually buried, so there isn't anywhere to go to 'visit' them except cyberspace.

I have often thought how sad it is that graves never get visited after a generation or two passes. The fact that someone visits a grave is a mitzvah, a good deed. It says they meant something, even if you never knew them in life, you're affirming that their existence meant something, they made a difference. That's what most people want to know they have done.
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That...plus I've always had a crush on Natalie Wood and Rita Hayworth.

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