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Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

Old 03-29-19, 11:25 AM
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Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

The share of Americans not having sex has reached a record high

at the sub-headline:
"You can blame young people for this dry spell, data show"

Some, frankly, shocking stats...









Unfortunately, the article is fairly surface level, and is more about the above stats rather than addressing WHY things have gotten like this.


That it's the younger cohort of men (and not women) having less sex is the key.

My hot take (as to why it's mostly younger men):

-- Less work, fewer jobs, less money, fewer opportunities
-- Many still living at home
-- Dating apps driving up value of young women and driving down value of young men
-- Abundance of porn-as-proxy for relationships
-- Troubling thought: Were young men claiming assault as consensual sex in past decades and now no longer doing so?

It's probably not just one thing. But it is striking, and if you believe the underlying theories about maga hats, 4chan types, gamergate types, it's pretty worrisome.

Personally, even though I've never been married, came close a couple times, I cannot relate to this, but I guess I understand it. I've dated on and off my entire adult life, and while not "easy" to come by, sex wasn't particularly scarce either - though lately, I've been having less sex mostly because I'd rather have it within the boundaries of a committed, emotionally vulnerable relationship. Though it took me a while to get there. It has to be tougher for men in their 20s now, generally, than it was for me when I was in my 20s. Not to mention, I didn't have porn to fall back on. But, again, as I point out above, it's not just external forces, but I think people many men think differently now about this stuff than we used to.

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Old 03-29-19, 11:30 AM
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

I think the definition of "sex" has changed over the years, and...they're lying.

One possibility...MMO games. That will certainly keep you a virgin till you're...well, 40-ish.
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

So who are the younger women having sex with, if not with the younger men? Certainly not me.
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

I don't get why the last question is "men who report zero female sex partners between 18 and 30" (27%) and it's one percent lower than those reporting no sex in the past year (28%). And isn't the former basically negating any gay men that were polled?
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

Can't wait to see the discussion from men who are well over 30 and still can't get laid!
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

What, everyone is acting like they're married now?
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

A lot of the things we grew up dreaming about...fucking, driving, owning cars, buying a big house, staying at a great job for many year...have all been been given the finger by these young kids.

-They are fucking less
-They all use rideshareing apps and aren't even learning to drive
-They don't want to own cars
-They don't want a big house/mortgage
-They don't want to be stuck at one "great' job for years.

The Males are scared of Females these days as well.

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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

In Japan almost half of people under the age of 34 are virgins,


Different culture, same (worse) problem.
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

I blame women. They need to learn to embrace their sluttiness like men have.
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

Originally Posted by funkyryno View Post
So who are the younger women having sex with, if not with the younger men? Certainly not me.
Other younger women?
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

I can remember a year when I was in my 20's, I was working so much, I went about 14 months without sex. It wasn't because I didn't want it, working 80 hours weeks left any time for anything else.
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

Originally Posted by eXcentris View Post
In Japan almost half of people under the age of 34 are virgins,

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a1jGZUbN06M

Different culture, same (worse) problem.
Oh yeah, things are way worse in Japan, and they are pretty well fucked with a rapidly aging population and a very low birth rate, but it looks like we might be heading down the same road as well.
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

I've said before and I'll say it again women control sex so these stats aren't shocking at all.
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

Originally Posted by Bluelitespecial View Post
I've said before and I'll say it again women control sex so these stats aren't shocking at all.
What does thst even mean? They are having a lot less sex than before or that they are purposely eschewing virgin males? Or they're all having lesbian sex?
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

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Or they're all having lesbian sex?
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

It's certainly the most emotionally satisfying explanation for the disparity.
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

Originally Posted by Bluelitespecial View Post
I've said before and I'll say it again women control sex so these stats aren't shocking at all.
That's dumb. Don't think like this. Instead, think why some women are giving sex to some guys and not to others.

Also, that's besides the point, because one of the main issues isn't that women aren't "giving the sex", but that men aren't perusing it like they used to, so you have guys like you assuming it's the women, when it's actually your mindset that's affecting your process.
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

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That's dumb. Don't think like this. Instead, think why some women are giving sex to some guys and not to others.

Also, that's besides the point, because one of the main issues isn't that women aren't "giving the sex", but that men aren't perusing it like they used to, so you have guys like you assuming it's the women, when it's actually your mindset that's affecting your process.
Actually, I think the problem is they're perusing it more than they're pursuing it...
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

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Actually, I think the problem is they're perusing it more than they're pursuing it...
I'm sure that's part of it. Maybe these men just have decided that sex with women wasn't worth all the baggage that goes along with it. In this case, I would argue, they aren't exactly wrong.
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

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Actually, I think the problem is they're perusing it more than they're pursuing it...
Typos have certainly gotten me in trouble with women.
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

If this is what's happening, I'm all for it:

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If I'm not there, I'm not for it.
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

It looks like 82% of young women are having sex. They're having it with 72% of young men.

My conclusion is that young men are more steadfast in their Purity Pledges.
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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

Originally Posted by eXcentris View Post
In Japan almost half of people under the age of 34 are virgins,
I do hope that's a typo. Half of ADULTS under the age of 34 being virgins is remarkable. Half of PEOPLE under 34 being virgins is disgusting.

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Re: Study: Share of men under 30 who aren't having sex has nearly TRIPLED in the past decade

Unlimited access to all kind of porn isn't helping, but I think it's just a matter of less face to face interaction. Text and social media posts isn't giving young men the skill to flirt and pick up women.
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