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Reading ‘tone’ in a text or digital message

Old 08-08-18, 11:15 PM
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Reading ‘tone’ in a text or digital message

I have a hard time not inferring tone - probably always incorrectly- when reading texts.
But no problem taking at face value the same exact thing handwritten.

Thoughts? (Is this like an Old Boy thread?)
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Old 08-09-18, 02:12 AM
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Great idea for a thread.
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Yeah, this is such an important topic.
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Was looking forward to a great day then I opened this thread.
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I don't notice a difference between printed text and handwritten words.

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I don't like the tone of the OP.
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Thanks for your responses.
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Re: Reading ‘tone’ in a text or digital message

It always seems like my girlfriend is yelling at me in her texts.





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Thanks for your responses.
Simmer down, KD.
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k
Well that uncalled for. *Reported*
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Re: Reading ‘tone’ in a text or digital message

I've found that reading something, absent the other person's non-verbal cues, we tend to read things in our own current mood. Like if we're angry, we could infer anger from the message even if no anger was intended. I guess that's why people use emojis. That's why I keep texts short and to the point, so nothing I didn't intend can be inferred.
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Whatever.
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k
K? K what? The letter before L, the letter after J? Did you know that in JK, K stands for "kidding"? So your reply is "kidding"? Or K as in Potassium? Do you need some Special K for breakfast? K, as in I can K/O you? Can I knock you out and feed you to the sharks? Sharks has a K in it.
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Re: Reading ‘tone’ in a text or digital message

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But no problem taking at face value the same exact thing handwritten.

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Re: Reading ‘tone’ in a text or digital message

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That's why I keep texts short and to the point, so nothing I didn't intend can be inferred.
I do that, but then my wife thinks I'm mad at her because I'm being short with her.
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I do that, but then my wife thinks I'm mad at her because I'm being short with her.


There's so many times where I just write "that's fine" or "ok" or whatever, and she writes back "Are you okay?"
You can't win.
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Re: Reading ‘tone’ in a text or digital message

This is why I hate having any sort of back and forth in text messages. My wife always seems to like to ask questions that involve lengthy responses, and I always tell her we'll just talk about it later at home.
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Re: Reading ‘tone’ in a text or digital message

I’ll agree that often my mood influences how I read digital messages, you scumsucking bitches.
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Old 08-09-18, 05:30 PM
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You call that handwriting?
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