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So how do you handle rejection?

Old 05-30-18, 11:31 AM
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So how do you handle rejection?

Do you naturally brush it off? Are you someone who holds onto it for awhile since you have low self-esteem? What are your secrets and how long does it typically take to get over it?
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Old 05-30-18, 11:32 AM
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Re: So how do you handle rejection?

I let it bother me for 1-2 days, then I move on. I can't brush stuff off, but eventually I get distracted by something new...fortunately.
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Re: So how do you handle rejection?

Dammit people.... irony demanded that nobody should've replied to this thread!
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Re: So how do you handle rejection?

Reflect and move on.
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Oh, the usual ... stalk them, obsess over them, burn down their parents' place.
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Old 05-30-18, 11:45 AM
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Depends if they mistook my kindness for flirting.
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Dammit people.... irony demanded that nobody should've replied to this thread!
Yup. Missed opportunity.
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Old 05-30-18, 12:08 PM
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Re: So how do you handle rejection?

what kind of rejection?
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Old 05-30-18, 12:17 PM
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Re: So how do you handle rejection?

Whatever the rejection is - let it bother you for an appropriate amount of time. It's normal and it's healthy. And don't think of it as rejection - think about it as a life experience that is meant to make you reflect and help you grow as a person.

Then, use your new life experience to move onto something better.

Or, start drinking heavily. The fuck do I know anyway?
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Re: So how do you handle rejection?

Depends on how invested in whatever it is i'm getting rejected on. For things or people i'm really in to, it hurts a lot since I struggle a bit with self confidence and in some cases it can hit pretty hard. For things I don't care so much for, it's not a big deal.
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Old 05-30-18, 12:40 PM
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Re: So how do you handle rejection?

Move on. In the words of Peter Tosh and Mick Jagger, "Walk and don't look back."



Man that song always puts me in a good mood!
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Old 05-30-18, 12:43 PM
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what kind of rejection?
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Old 05-30-18, 03:53 PM
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Old 05-30-18, 04:01 PM
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Re: So how do you handle rejection?

Depends on who rejected me and why. As I have gotten older, rejection in general bothers me a lot less. Probably because I loathe everyone anyway.
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Old 05-30-18, 05:28 PM
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Rejection is a blessing.

I have seen the girls that have rejected me years later looking like a planet, some look really bad. Good thing I avoided that.

It also turns out that a girl I was crazy for that rejected me, I ended up with something much better. Life is strange that way.
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Old 05-30-18, 06:41 PM
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Re: So how do you handle rejection?

In regard to advances on women: Sure it stings, but it's best that you learn right away that she's not interested than wasting your time and emptying your bank account trying to win her attention, only to end up in the same boat.
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Old 05-30-18, 08:13 PM
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Re: So how do you handle rejection?

1. Masturbate. Like, a lot.

2. Follow your dreams.

3. Exercise and eat healthy.

#1 and #3 help with the unavoidable physical stuff (chemicals, depression, etc.). #2 helps curb that feeling that you're going to die someday and you never did what you wanted to do.

I'm blessed that I don't have any serious depression genes. There's a chemical reaction that makes you feel awful after you come to the realization. It's happened to me a handful of times.

I've been rejected so many times (business and personal) that I'm not really sure what it'll feel like to be accepted.
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Old 05-30-18, 08:34 PM
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Re: So how do you handle rejection?

I have never been rejected by a woman. (A select few people here will get it.)
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Old 05-30-18, 09:07 PM
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Re: So how do you handle rejection?

Think about it for a bit, then reflect on how I can do better, and then move onward and upward.

Some rejection is normal, and can be very useful and positive life experience. It keeps us humble, and not entitled, egotistical jerks.

Egregious examples of rejection, of course, usually say more about the rejector than the rejectee and can be safely brushed off.
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Old 05-30-18, 09:07 PM
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Re: So how do you handle rejection?

Take this advice from a guy who is almost 50 years old...

I hold onto crap for a long time. When I was young, I really never even tried to ask a girl out, unless I knew (via friends, etc) that she really liked me. I wanted to keep my 100% success rate. The thought of ever being rejected scared me.

Now, as a guy nearing 50, my only regrets are the ones I chickened out on and didn't even try to ask out (or hook up with). I look back now and I realize there were a bunch of women that I totally could have dated (again, or at least hooked up with) but my fear of being rejected kept me from even trying.

Those are the ones I regret.

When you get closer to death, you will realize that you really don't regret the things you tried, but failed at.

You regret the times that you didn't even try.
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Old 05-30-18, 09:22 PM
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Re: So how do you handle rejection?

Create a thread on dvdtalk to convince myself (and the wifey) I was being kind and not flirting.
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Exceedingly well, apparently.
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Old 05-30-18, 11:44 PM
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Re: So how do you handle rejection?

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Take this advice from a guy who is almost 50 years old...

I hold onto crap for a long time. When I was young, I really never even tried to ask a girl out, unless I knew (via friends, etc) that she really liked me. I wanted to keep my 100% success rate. The thought of ever being rejected scared me.

Now, as a guy nearing 50, my only regrets are the ones I chickened out on and didn't even try to ask out (or hook up with). I look back now and I realize there were a bunch of women that I totally could have dated (again, or at least hooked up with) but my fear of being rejected kept me from even trying.

Those are the ones I regret.

When you get closer to death, you will realize that you really don't regret the things you tried, but failed at.

You regret the times that you didn't even try.
Yup. My favorite quote is "If everything you try works, you aren't trying hard enough." (Gordon Moore) We have to fail sometimes, and not just in dating.
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