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Old 05-17-18, 10:39 AM
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Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

Here's the deal, I started going to a sports themed salon to get my beard trimmed. I go about every three to four weeks. The last two times I have went, I happen to get the same woman. I try to just to start a little conversation like talking about the weather, does having ESPN on all the TVs get on your nerves, etc.

I don't know if she's just stuck up or thinks i'm going to ask her out (I'm clearly not because I have a wonderful Wife at home) but she's really standoffish, like I am some creepy old guy trying to get between her legs.

She is pretty, but she's not my type, even if I was a single man. She has long blond hair and has green eyes, but I have always preferred brunettes with brown or blue eyes.

I don't know if I should ask for someone else next time I go, or just sit in the chair and be quiet?
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Old 05-17-18, 10:47 AM
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Re: Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

Maybe she's just not a friendly person.

Does she give a good haircut? Are you there for the haircut or conversation? Which one is more important?

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Old 05-17-18, 10:52 AM
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Re: Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

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Maybe she's just not a friendly person.

Does she give a good haircut? Are you there for the haircut or conversation? Which one is more important?

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She does a great job trimming my beard, but I just try to create small talk to pass the time. And no, I don't have any pics of her. I'm sure if I got my phone out and try to take her picture, the creepiness factor would go off the charts.
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Re: Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

Ask her to shave your pubes.
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Re: Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

I would think if you are worried about her thinking you are creeping on her maybe you could talk about your wife for a moment next time you're there to show your not hitting on her.

I would suspect hair dressers get hit on quite a bit so I wouldn't be too worried either way.
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Re: Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

Explain to her that she does not possess your preferred female body type, and I think she'll warm right up.
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Re: Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

Some people don't like small talk.

Or maybe you just come off as some asshole who wants to get between her legs.
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Re: Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

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I would think if you are worried about her thinking you are creeping on her maybe you could talk about your wife for a moment next time you're there to show your not hitting on her.

I would suspect hair dressers get hit on quite a bit so I wouldn't be too worried either way.
I did that today. I mentioned my Wife still cuts my hair but her Grandmother is in the hosptial and is not doing well at all.

You have a point, she probally does get hit on a lot, i'm just there for a trim, not sex.

She looks like she's in her early to mid 20's and it seems like the younger generation would rather text than actually talk to one another.
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Re: Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

Get her phone number and text her that you're not into her.
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Ask her to shave your pubes.
Almost choked on my lunch 😀
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Re: Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

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I did that today. I mentioned my Wife still cuts my hair but her Grandmother is in the hosptial and is not doing well at all.

You have a point, she probally does get hit on a lot, i'm just there for a trim, not sex.

She looks like she's in her early to mid 20's and it seems like the younger generation would rather text than actually talk to one another.
You would be surprised how common that is now. Many of them lack the social skills to actually carry on a conversation with another human being. It is pretty sad.
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Old 05-17-18, 11:25 AM
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You would be surprised how common that is now. Many of them lack the social skills to actually carry on a conversation with another human being. It is pretty sad.
Hey now! I lack the same social skills, and am roughly double that age bracket!
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Re: Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

I went to one of those sports-themed chain barber shops for a while and all the stylists (all female) would only talk amongst themselves, almost never to the customer. They did a pretty good job, but they always seemed to be annoyed, too. I went there only because they were open until 9:00PM most nights. They had a loyalty card where your 5th or 6th haircut is free. Once I collected my free one, I found another place.
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Originally Posted by funkyryno View Post
Maybe she's just not a friendly person.



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You don't need a psychologist when you have a good barman and a good barber. That chick is in the wrong line of work.
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At any time are you looking at her like this?

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Re: Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

Just don't start smalltalk.
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Re: Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

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Hey now! I lack the same social skills, and am roughly double that age bracket!
Well then you're part of the problem!

Kidding.

The art of conversation is almost extinct. I do the interviewing for our company and we hire a lot of seasonal staff and interns. Interview nerves aside, the amount of high school and college students that you can have an actual conversation with is very slim. I blame texting.
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Re: Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

They offer neck and shoulder massages for crying out loud. It's not with their hands but still, trimming a beard should be a harmless gesture.

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They offer neck and shoulder massages for crying out loud. It's not with their hands but still ...

With their breasts?!?! Sign me up!
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Re: Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

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They offer neck and shoulder massages for crying out loud.
You probably shouldn't have asked her if that includes a happy ending.
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Re: Have you ever had someone mistake kindness for flirting?

Its amazing how stupid guys are when going to places like Twin Peaks or Hooters. You don't have a chance with her, she's flirting with you for a big tip. What do you have against green eyes? To answer the question, no I have never made such a mistake of confusing kindness with flirting, I know better. I have never had a problem with small talk when getting my haircut.

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What do you have against green eyes?
The same thing you have against certain body types I cant remember if it was tall or short girls.
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No short girls for me.
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Could you give me her number? I'm looking for a barber who cuts hair and doesn't want to chat.
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