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Old 08-09-16, 04:39 PM
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GoFundMe question

What are your thoughts on GoFundMe campaigns? Do you hate them or in some instances think they are worth while?

I ask because I recently had an experience with creating one and some of the comments I received from a brother and some friends thought it was ridiculous that I set one up for my sick cat. They thought that because I was single and have a job that I should not be asking for money, especially for a cat.

I do admit that I created the campaign in a moment of panic when I found out that my cat would have to be at the animal hospital for a third night instead of two, and had already put over $3,000 on my credit card (it's crazy how quickly things add up in the course of a couple hours).

I explained that it was an easy way to share her story and her progress, and if some people wanted to help out they could. I told them that if I could raise enough for even two follow up vet visits, it was a help.

So what are your thoughts on GoFundMe? Have you ever contributed to one or just see it as needless "begging"?
Old 08-09-16, 04:52 PM
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I've contributed to them. I think it's a fucking shame that it has to come to that for some people, but I have no problem donating to them. I give money for other charities and just consider it a karmaic sorta thing.

Of course, I've been stung. I gave quite a bit to a couple recently who had their third set of twins. Then a few days ago, Mom posted a pic of her brand new tattoo. *sigh* However, I can hope most of the money went for the babies.

The state legislator whose kid died on the amusement park ride over the weekend had some friends set up a GoFundMe, and I think that was really a bad thing to do. He and the rest of the Brownbackies have fucked our state (Kansas) over and genuflected before the fucking Koch brothers for the last six years. Let THEM bury his kid. Unfortunately, he's allowed the media to provide information for people to donate, even though he didn't set up the GFM himself, and I think it'll come back to bite him later.

I also have four cats, so you're cool with me. People can give or not give. I do wish that GFM would disable the ability to comment unless you've made a donation, though. People say absolutely shitty things on there.
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Re: GoFundMe question

I don't think of them in any regard, to be honest. I don't typically see pleas to donate to them, but the few times I visited their site, it seemed like it had things that were worthwhile and things that were crap.

I wouldn't take the cat thing too harshly. I wouldn't have done that, but I think that is largely cultural. I also know many people who would give to a cat charity before they'd ever give to a human charity. It just won't be for everyone. Fuck them, I say.
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Re: GoFundMe question

There's a thread that was started some time ago asking what the most you would spend on a pet to save it's life. As you can imagine, there was a WIDE variety of responses.

The same would hold true for reaction to your campaign. Instead of taking time to post a comment on something I wouldn't deem worthy of my money, I just move on. The creator of the campaign has enough on their mind.
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I'm all for it if you're in need. If you have means then I am not.
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At least you weren't asking for an iPhone.
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I dislike gofundme requests. After seeing many of them, I finally looked a little closer and discovered 8% (if I remember correctly) of each donation goes to the site. If I know of a cause, I'd prefer to give directly in some way so the recipient gets all the donation.
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A few years back a neighbor started one to cover the legal costs of adopting his new wife's daughter from a previous relationship. On his Facebook though, he posts pictures of all the family vacations he's taken in the past year; Disney World, 10 day cruises, etc. If he really wanted to adopt the girl, he could have just not taken such expensive vacations to cover the legal costs himself.
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Re: GoFundMe question

Like all of the Internet, gofundme etc. is tricky because it depersonalizes things, and makes the process a little too easy.

On the one hand it's easy for someone to put the touch on everyone in their network, on the other hand it's easy for people to be jerks about it.

It depends on the person's need and the subject of the campaign of course, and I think it's great that we have more opportunities to help each other.

Then again, (other than for the fact that it would be impractical) you might ask if you would go around and personally ask all your friends, coworkers and family if they would give you ten bucks for your cat's vet bills.

In other words, YMMV.
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90% of the time when people say they can't afford something they are really saying they don't want to pay for it. So you should pay it for me since you're a sucker.
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I'm a sucker for animals, so while I normally hate this stuff, I embrace them for helping their pets.
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Re: GoFundMe question

Originally Posted by TomOpus View Post
Instead of taking time to post a comment on something I wouldn't deem worthy of my money, I just move on. The creator of the campaign has enough on their mind.
Agreed.

Originally Posted by Vibiana View Post
Of course, I've been stung. I gave quite a bit to a couple recently who had their third set of twins. Then a few days ago, Mom posted a pic of her brand new tattoo. *sigh* However, I can hope most of the money went for the babies.
I had a classmate who would make an appeal to people to buy his books every semester as a way of encouraging him in his vocation, then turn around and post photos of his new tattoos. Drove me nuts, it just seemed so slimy.

Originally Posted by movieguru View Post
A few years back a neighbor started one to cover the legal costs of adopting his new wife's daughter from a previous relationship. On his Facebook though, he posts pictures of all the family vacations he's taken in the past year; Disney World, 10 day cruises, etc. If he really wanted to adopt the girl, he could have just not taken such expensive vacations to cover the legal costs himself.
We love judging people for how they spend their money. The poor get judged a lot, like they should be happy with the bare minimum and not aspire to get a nice TV (I don't personally think that, I just hear that sort of sentiment a lot). But I think if anybody needs a break in the money-and-judging department, it's the working poor, so I tend not to dwell on that.

I think people with money get a different kind of judgment and this one I go back and forth. Sometimes I think, it's not my business. Then, like in the situation you described, they make it my business and I'm called at least passively to make some judgement. Same with Vib and my friends' and their tattoos. I just don't understand why you would ask someone for money for what seems like genuine priorities like newborn needs or adoption and then post photos of cruises and tats. Maybe it would be different if these weren't planned things (like the OP's cat situation) but in both cases it seems like they had plenty of lead time for them.

Is that practical or heartless of me? I don't know, really. It's tricky.

OP, hope your cat and your credit come out okay.
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Re: GoFundMe question

GoFundMe reminds me of this old joke:

A man comes out of a casino and sees a guy begging. "Please sir, can you spare any money? My wife needs medicine and my children are going to bed hungry."

The first guy says "How do I know you won't take the money I give you and go put it in a slot machine?"

The beggar says "Oh, I've got gambling money..."
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Re: GoFundMe question

Thanks for the comments.

Leeloo (yes I'm a big 5th Element fan) is doing much better. Because if the massive weight loss, about 25%, her liver and pancreas were inflamed and she was very jaundices. This saga all started July 8th and today when she went to the vet she is back up to 7.5 pounds, she normally weighs about 8.6, and her liver numbers are almost normal. So the couple weeks of a feeding tube and medicine have really helped out. She is even back to climbing cat trees and chasing her two brothers around Korben (did I mention I'm a 5th Element fan) and Vinny.
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Re: GoFundMe question

I created a GoFundMe for myself earlier this year. I'd gotten injured outside of work, and was looking at a decent stretch of time spent out of work. I burned up my personal time and my sick time very quickly in an attempt to stay one step ahead of the bill collectors. A friend suggested that I create one, so I bit the bullet and did so. At first, the support was actually quite overwhelming. I have a large number of friends that are professional wrestlers, so they helped spread the word for me and/or donated. And then, the negativity started. I got called out on social media by one professional wrestler who basically called me a piece of shit for even daring to do such a thing as seek help. People that I considered good friends started to avoid me in public and eventually drop me on social media. I returned to work after about a month and immediately closed the account down upon doing so. The account ended up netting me about a week and half's pay, but ultimately, it wasn't worth what it ended up costing me.

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