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How Do You Personally Cope with Depression? (a resource thread)

So, I've been coping with a hard depression of late. Not the worst, I've ever had, but still not something to ignore. I've been hospitalized 9 times in my life mostly for severe to suicidal depression. I am on a certain regimen of meds and have been since I was 15 years old. I even made the serious mistake of trying to commit suicide 10 years ago--I was fortunate that there was not permanent damage to my brain or body (that scared me straight when it came to that kind of behavior). I have learned to keep in mind: "THE ONLY THING WORSE THAN A SUICIDE IS A *BOTCHED* SUICIDE". (National Suicide Hotline #: 1-800-273-8255 . The website is: http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org )

But, I'd like to help start a thread on preventing things from getting to that point. So, I wanted to start this thread as a brainstorming resource guide for DVDTalk.com for people who've coped with depression in their own ways. People's methods may differ, but you're all welcome to contribute.

What I've learned to do, outside of meds is to take care of my physical needs: which includes eating very healthfully and avoiding excess sugar, caffeine, fat, salt and focus on things that truly nourish my body and mind. Sugars, fats, salts are oh-so-tempting to self-medicate with, but I've learned to retrain my brain to reach for an apple and some Greek yogurt before going for the pizza (that took some doing).

Exercise is HIGHLY important: when I'm down I go to the pool for upwards of 2 1/2 hours or more. I don't have a car, so I walk a lot.

And another thing that helps me is to do a bit of volunteering or at the very least help another person in a task--like say walking your parent's dogs. It may seem a roundabout way, but I find it helps.

Having a goal, no matter how small is essential. It can be as simple as: "I got out of bed and went for a brief 2 minute walk. Tomorrow, I will walk for a 5 minutes."

Journaling can help or talking to someone you trust. If you can swing seeing a therapist (make sure they're someone who's both a good listener and not afraid to call you on your B.S.). Processing what's going on can be a life saver--and be as candid as possible with your therapist--you're in a safe, confidential environment. And you can always Google support groups in your area.

Philosopher, Jiddu Krishnamurti once said that "It is no measure of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society." Some my take umbrage with that statement, but it helps a lot for me. The world's a fucked up place and sometimes our depressed reaction is more normal than we think. But, to prove I'm not a pure luddite shut-in: a little retail therapy can also be helpful and a slice of pizza *once in a while* can also be just the thing too (just remember: MODERATION--doing it everyday for every meal is self-medication and you don't want to go down that road).

Meds can be helpful too, if you find the right prescriber. Keep abreast of the side effects and be mindful how it affects your lucidity and executive control.

Work on things that help relieve stress whether it's a bit of meditation or even masturbation. Stress is a contributing factor to depression as well.

Also: depression is anger turned inward, so if you're angry--that's where talking comes into play. Learn good assertive skills. Also "behind every anger there's a hurt". So, depression

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Sleep. Nutrition.

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The right meds make a world of difference. Also exercise, hobbies, getting enough sleep and eating a good diet.
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Exercise and just getting out of the house a lot helped me out. Good social interaction helps but is not always achievable (And no, I don't count "bar friends" in this, as that tends to make things worse rather than better). The weird one that helped me cut through a lot of it was getting a dog, not sure why but it worked.

Also, push yourself to try new things. You never know what's going to click with you.

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^^
Humor is important, but for the record: alcohol is a depressant is not recommended for depression.
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I masturbate. A lot.

Drugs are bad. Most Rx is bad and will screw with your body chemistry and leave you all messed up.

I've also developed a thing, where I don't fight or argue with other people. I can eat all the shit in the world, be screamed at, and blamed, and it rolls off me. If someone else makes a bad decision, I do what they say and let them deal with their own poor decisions. There's a good feeling that comes with being guilt-free. It's when you start arguing and making decisions during those arguments that really mess you up. I don't know where I learned this. I think I was a pushover for a long time and this method just kind of fell into my lap.
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Never had anything worse than the typical blues. Mom unfortunately has depression bad. Since she lost my dad, she's moved from the house of 50 years to an in-law apartment, then to assisted living, now into a nursing home, all in the last year and a half. She has Parkinsons so she has no fine motor skills and was falling a lot and ending up in the hospital. She just sits there all day at the table and can't go anywhere without an escort because she may fall. She takes some meds but they don't help much. She prays, cries and begs for GOD to take her.
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I went through a bout of depression a while back. I was always withdrawn and sad in my teens and early adulthood, but it really amped up around the time I turned 30. It's rough looking at pictures of myself at that time because I always look so miserable... because internally, I was. Long story short, I found a therapist and met with her on a weekly basis for over two years. I went in feeling hopeless, but little by little, she challenged me to try changing the way I think. And little by little, I did... without even noticing until she pointed it out to me.

Some other quick tidbits:
Exercise or even just getting outside was always encouraged.
She had me on meds, but honestly, I don't think they did anything.
I still feel one of the best things she had me do was keep a journal. I would write about whatever I wanted. I never shared it with her or anyone else, but just forcing myself to properly structuring my thoughts and feelings was helpful.

I reached a point where I felt I had achieved much more confidence than I ever had and stopped my therapy. That was roughly eight years ago and I can honestly say I am a different person now. I actually have a hard time reconciling the miserable person I was with the much happier person I am now. So if hopelessness is something you feel, as I did, it is not true. It doesn't come quickly or easily, but happiness is possible.
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Exercise and meds, tbh. I've dealt with depression and anxiety my whole life; didn't start on meds until my 30's. Best decision I ever made.
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Sorry the OP and others are going through this. I feel like I have a mild form myself, and it's good to recognize it and address it.

This is not a crap, but I recommend reading through JasonF's depression thread--lots of good conversation there.
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Wow. I must have been tired last night when posting.

I've never been depressed. I credit my 'tricks' to helping counter possible depression and daily stress.

I also read a study before that said 'kids who are picked on turn into adults who can handle stress much better'. Something about your body's long-term response to a lot of embarrassment and stress as a kid ... your body will be adjusted as an adult.
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I sleep. A lot. I block out the world with music, books, movies, and TV. I have the least amount of interaction with the outside world as possible.
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Fuck medication.

I may hate my life and all that bullshit but I could just not give a damn about some of my issues and be happy like that *snaps fingers*. Sadly.. I like to give a fuck about those issues cuz of "social norms" and such.

Only thing that keeps me from blowing my fucking head off is fucking girls, tacos, exercising, and trying to see what will kill me.

I'll probably die of an STD. But I'd rather just eat the barrel of shotgun first cuz I ain't got time to slowly die.
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This may shock everyone, but I smoke weed.

After a year of daily use I started going to a drug counselor under the theory that I wouldn't know if I'd gone off the rails or not, and an outside perspective should probably be sought. After about the 5th session he said, "you know, I do have some concerns long term, but I couldn't tell you that you should stop smoking weed."
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^dave, you don't seem like the "depressed type", whatever that type is. I would try weed, but I don't want to damage my intellect, one of the few parts of my brain that functions well.

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I sleep. A lot. I block out the world with music, books, movies, and TV. I have the least amount of interaction with the outside world as possible.
Same here. Loads of sleep, people-avoidance, and prescription medication. I don't think very highly of depression meds, but they must help some or I would have offed myself years ago.
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It's an interesting thing, coming from a psych background. I look at it pretty clinically, to be honest. Before, about 9 out of 10 of my thoughts would be positive and 10% would be negative (not including all the neutral ones we all have), and after it was the opposite. Looking at it from a detached biological view, how fucking fascinating is that?

Weed never messed with my intellect. I did well enough to retire pretty much, and the last 2 years were smoking daily. In fact, I'd say it helped. Now, I'm smoking a hell of a lot more now, and I wouldn't recommend that, but I'm just having fun for a year. Carl Sagan definitely said it helped him.
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I sleep. A lot. I block out the world with music, books, movies, and TV. I have the least amount of interaction with the outside world as possible.
Same here.

I actually get more depressed when I am outside among people. Everyone else seems happier than me and having a better life...just makes me want to be in my own world.
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This may shock everyone, but I smoke weed.

After a year of daily use I started going to a drug counselor under the theory that I wouldn't know if I'd gone off the rails or not, and an outside perspective should probably be sought. After about the 5th session he said, "you know, I do have some concerns long term, but I couldn't tell you that you should stop smoking weed."
Does this mean I can add "grass-firin'" to the adjectives waxing lyrical about your greatness in my signature?
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Also, the anti-meds thing, to my mind, is counterproductive. I've been on some type of antidepressant for most of my adult life and I really couldn't function without them. I also take an anti-anxiety medication. They don't completely wipe out the problem, although as I've gotten older the anxiety (panic attacks) have become more of a problem than the depression. But it's no shame to be on meds.
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Anxiety is a mother fucker. Don't think I've ever been depressed. My only frame of reference is broken heart in high school. Anxiety is another matter.
Back in January I passed out giving blood. Never passed out before. I freaked, panicked when I came to. For a second didn't know where or when I was. Figured out what had happened and where I was and calmed down. Went home.
Over the next couple days I couldn't get it out of my head. I didn't remember passing out, only waking up. Couldn't get the thought that at any time I could wake up not knowing where I was. I knew I was being ridiculous and making a mountain out of a mole hill but couldn't control it.
Then I started to worry about why I couldn't get it out of my head. Started to become really scared there was something wrong with me.
Then the anxiety started. A feeling of dread and doom accompanied with a tingling sensation that comes over you in a wave. Something to do with the blood vessels. I imagined this is what it felt like having to storm Omaha Beach having already seen Saving Private Ryan, or watching the sun come up when you're being hanged at dawn.
Couldn't get to the doctor fast enough. He wanted me to take Paxil 10mg. I went and got them but after reading about Paxil I didn't want to take it. Went back to doctor and he agreed to give script for 15(non-refillable) Xanax .10mg to take when the anxiety got to bad if I wanted to try and get past this myself.
The Xanax took the edge off but didn't really help with the problem. It was just a Band-Aid suppressing to symptoms, the anxiety was still there.
Out of desperation I broke down and started taking the Paxil. Didn't do anything for first week but then gradually the anxiety began to subside. It took eight weeks before I felt normal.
Doctor wants me on Paxil for 6 months. I asked him if just waiting to see if the anxiety will come back after stopping the Paxil can cause it to come back, he said it doesn't work like that.
Evidently this is some kind of PTSD thing.

The Xanax
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Absolutely.
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Same here.

I actually get more depressed when I am outside among people. Everyone else seems happier than me and having a better life...just makes me want to be in my own world.
I hear ya. I am about to be homeless on top of my other issues and my depression is really preventing me from being proactive in doing anything about it. I love when people who don't have issues just say "Oh knock if off and just do it!" Like I enjoy feeling physically like gravity is pulling on me way more than normal and I cant even think about going outside and dealing with people or stay awake for more than a few hours at a time. Like i wouldn't "just do it" if it were in any way possible for me.
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I have anxiety more than depression. I take meds for it, and used to drink pretty heavily and smoke (cigarettes) as a release. Now that I've given up the booze and smokes, I find myself more active but not really wanting to socialize a whole lot. I don't feel depressed, but I seem to generally like to be by myself more than around other people (family excluded).
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I hear ya. I am about to be homeless on top of my other issues and my depression is really preventing me from being proactive in doing anything about it. I love when people who don't have issues just say "Oh knock if off and just do it!" Like I enjoy feeling physically like gravity is pulling on me way more than normal and I cant even think about going outside and dealing with people or stay awake for more than a few hours at a time. Like i wouldn't "just do it" if it were in any way possible for me.
Sorry to hear that

Yes, I get that as well. I know the things I need to do in order to improve my life, but I just don't have the will or energy to implement them. I am my own worst enemy and I have no energy to fight myself.

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