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Better 1st date place ever?

Old 08-09-15, 07:04 PM
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Better 1st date place ever?

i was always comfortable with a meal and some drinks or just the meal. some consider a coffee shop the better place.

what do you think?
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Grab a drink and go bowling or play some darts or pool.
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I like to do an early coffee date (like 4 PM) that if things are going well, I can transition into a dinner date.
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Depends on if it's a blind date.
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No movies and no dinner. Go miniature golfing, or any spots that involve you guys sharing activities together. Build comfort and rapport. Traditional activities like films hinder that, because you're not talking in a darkened theater and if you go to dinner you have to talk while stuffing your face. No dinners until after you've slept together.
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Coffee allows you to see if that person is actively crazy for $10 instead of $50.
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That would be the butt, Bob.
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Originally Posted by Why So Blu? View Post
No movies and no dinner. Go miniature golfing, or any spots that involve you guys sharing activities together. Build comfort and rapport. Traditional activities like films hinder that, because you're not talking in a darkened theater and if you go to dinner you have to talk while stuffing your face. No dinners until after you've slept together.
I was more of a movie and dinner guy when I was single, but this does make a lot more sense. Too late now, I'm married (but now that I think about it, I did take my now wife out for miniature golfing on our second date, maybe that helped!)
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I voted "other." Depending on how much you like her, the answer could be:

1.) wherever she wants to go
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2.) a cheap motel

Why So Blu? hit the nail on the head. What is the purpose of this first date? Is this somebody you already know or somebody you haven't met before? The trick is finding an activity that is long enough to get to know the person, but short enough that neither of you feel trapped. A short activity that goes well could segue into another activity or dinner, but don't lock yourselves into that up front. This is another reason a movie or theater is bad, it has a finite time period you are locked into without truly spending time together.

Another suggestion ... pick something neither of you have done before. That reinforces the shared experience. Ask her if there is something she has always wanted to do but never has -- go to a zoo, a local festival, a wine tasting, off-roading, a cooking lesson, a museum, etc.
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Originally Posted by Abob Teff View Post
I voted "other." Depending on how much you like her, the answer could be:

1.) wherever she wants to go
OR
2.) a cheap motel

Why So Blu? hit the nail on the head. What is the purpose of this first date? Is this somebody you already know or somebody you haven't met before? The trick is finding an activity that is long enough to get to know the person, but short enough that neither of you feel trapped. A short activity that goes well could segue into another activity or dinner, but don't lock yourselves into that up front. This is another reason a movie or theater is bad, it has a finite time period you are locked into without truly spending time together.

Another suggestion ... pick something neither of you have done before. That reinforces the shared experience. Ask her if there is something she has always wanted to do but never has -- go to a zoo, a local festival, a wine tasting, off-roading, a museum, etc.

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Originally Posted by Abob Teff View Post
I voted "other." Depending on how much you like her, the answer could be:

1.) wherever she wants to go
OR
2.) a cheap motel

Why So Blu? hit the nail on the head. What is the purpose of this first date? Is this somebody you already know or somebody you haven't met before? The trick is finding an activity that is long enough to get to know the person, but short enough that neither of you feel trapped. A short activity that goes well could segue into another activity or dinner, but don't lock yourselves into that up front. This is another reason a movie or theater is bad, it has a finite time period you are locked into without truly spending time together.

Another suggestion ... pick something neither of you have done before. That reinforces the shared experience. Ask her if there is something she has always wanted to do but never has -- go to a zoo, a local festival, a wine tasting, off-roading, a cooking lesson, a museum, etc.

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Drink(s).
Best way to see if there's a click, and you can make it as short/long as you will.
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Coffee, drink, or quick meal in an area that has places to walk around. Like a downtown area. That way either of you can bail after the coffee/drink. However, if you both stay to walk around and keep chatting, then you know the date is going well.
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I prefer going to drinks and then transitioning into dinner if you hit it off during the drinks portion. You can stay at the same place and eat at the bar, get a table at that place, or go to a completely different place. If you set the expectation at drinks you can always cut it short after a drink or 2 and only be out $20-$30. I don't personally think people let their guard down over coffee and a movie is a horrible date for anyone short of long term relationship status.
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I usually prefer drinks during Happy Hour. It's earlier in the day, drinks are cheaper, and if things go well, you can keep going as the night goes on. Another tip is to find a bar that has a lot of board games. It's a super easy ice breaker and doesn't force you to keep the conversation going with terrible first date questions.
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I've been digging this "social dating" thing recently. Instead of planning a real date we plan to meet up at a bar on a Friday/Saturday night when we're out with friends anyway. It ends up being a group thing and even if there is no connection between me and my date, everyone usually has fun anyway. There's no pressure and it's a lot easier to be comfortable and yourself in that situation instead of a first date that usually feels like a job interview.
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I prefer going to drinks and then transitioning into dinner if you hit it off during the drinks portion. You can stay at the same place and eat at the bar, get a table at that place, or go to a completely different place. If you set the expectation at drinks you can always cut it short after a drink or 2 and only be out $20-$30. I don't personally think people let their guard down over coffee and a movie is a horrible date for anyone short of long term relationship status.
This.

I usually selected a great spot--classy bar, wine bar, gastropub, etc.--near her (they always appreciated that I was willing to drive to their area). Worst case scenario: You're only on the hook for a couple of drinks and a half an hour of your time, tops.

If the date is going well, order two or three apps to share.

And always sit at the bar! Arrive early and snag a couple of good seats. Bar seating allows for a closeness that you won't get sitting across from her at a table.

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