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Old 04-15-15, 01:33 PM
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Etiquette? Stranger chiming in on conversation

So the other day I was about to walk with my nephew from his place to my house. We were talking about DVDs and Blu-ray players and all of sudden this woman with a baby walking by chimes in on our conversation. She didn't introduce herself, she didn't even say "hi". She was walking behind us pushing her stroller talking continuously about her hassle obtaining a cheap DVD player resulting in buying a cheap Blu-ray player. My nephew replied out of politeness because he thought she was somebody I knew. I thought the same, thinking it was somebody he knew. When we took a turn to my house she said "well, we are all neighbors. I live down the street" and took off. Neither my nephew or myself have seen this woman before.
Was I bothered by this incident? Kind of. I'm not a hermit avoiding contact, and even though she was (almost too) friendly I thought her behavior was impudent. It felt like she took advantage of the situation with her "surprise attack."
Am I too old fashioned to expect a stranger to introduce him or herself first? Or am I making too much of a big deal out of this.
Old 04-15-15, 01:40 PM
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Re: Etiquette? Stranger chiming in on conversation

Hi, my name is Lord Zarak. May I join this conversation?

Playing devil's advocate, maybe she's been cooped up in the house with only the baby and so needing of an adult conversation, she just butted in without being polite. She probably realized so afterwards and felt rude. I wouldn't be bothered by it.
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Yeah...no big deal. I usually start with the weather or say excuse me....
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She probably should have started with a "hello" or "excuse me" but other than that it doesn't seem like much of a big deal.
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Re: Etiquette? Stranger chiming in on conversation

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Playing devil's advocate, maybe she's been cooped up in the house with only the baby and so needing of an adult conversation, she just butted in without being polite. She probably realized so afterwards and felt rude. I wouldn't be bothered by it.
Agreed on all of the above.
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She clearly was seeing if you were interested in a having a threeway.
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I think we should go with the most likely scenario - that she's an undercover FBI agent and finally, after 7 years, tracked you down as the one who illegally burned the DVD of "Good Luck Chuck".
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I think it depends on 2 things:

subject matter of the conversation
volume of the conversation

If you're speaking softly or talking about something personal or contraversial, I'd be bothered by someone else randomly joining in.
If you're speaking loudly enough to be overheard and you're talking about something neutral (like consumer electronics), then I wouldn't think too much about it.
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I don't see the big deal, as long as they were polite about it and if the topic warrants it. For instance someone chiming in just to interject and disagree with you would seem more rude, but offering an opinion on a product or sharing a similar story or circumstance would be fine.
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This is why I never, ever make eye contact with strangers. Staring at the ground constantly and wearing a heavy winter coat all year long also helps.
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Re: Etiquette? Stranger chiming in on conversation

OP, your avatar is rather strange.
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Originally Posted by dsa_shea View Post
OP, your avatar is rather strange.
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Not a big deal, but I would probably be a little annoyed and would likely avoid her in the future if I could.
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If she realized how the world works she would have quietly eavesdropped on your conversation until she got a name out of either you or your nephew then gone home, sent a Facebook request, and waited patiently for you to accept. Only then does that no good bitch have any right to speak to you or within earshot of either of you!
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Sounds like she was hitting on you, dude. Or your nephew.
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My parents had returned from a vacation to Washington D.C. and we were having dinner at a fast casual restaurant. The previous week Princess Diana had died in a car crash and my mom was talking about it at our table when our server walked by and said, "Are we talking about Princess Di?", and joined the conversation. I wish I had responded, "No, we're talking about Princess Di -- you were on your way to get our drink refills."

A friend in college would yell "DIP!" when someone butted into his conversations. OP should try that next time.
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Re: Etiquette? Stranger chiming in on conversation

In situations like that, I prefer to taser the interloper in order to teach them better manners.

On a related note, my 10-year old son NEVER interrupts conversations between my wife and myself ... anymore.
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Re: Etiquette? Stranger chiming in on conversation

Pics?

I think this was an invite "well, we are all neighbors. I live down the street"
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Re: Etiquette? Stranger chiming in on conversation

Originally Posted by wishbone View Post
..our server walked by and said, "Are we talking about Princess Di?", and joined the conversation. I wish I had responded, "No, we're talking about Princess Di -- you were on your way to get our drink refills."
Still thinking about that comeback, huh?
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Still thinking about that comeback, huh?
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For that I'm not gonna give you... your ovation.
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(I'm telling you, it's a good song--you just need to envision it recorded in a real studio, by real musicians, and by somebody who can sing. )
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Re: Etiquette? Stranger chiming in on conversation

Originally Posted by dsa_shea View Post
OP, your avatar is rather strange.
Thank you

Originally Posted by TheMadMonk View Post
She clearly was seeing if you were interested in a having a threeway.
Originally Posted by Ash Ketchum View Post
Sounds like she was hitting on you, dude. Or your nephew.
Originally Posted by CPA-ESQ. View Post
Pics?

I think this was an invite "well, we are all neighbors. I live down the street"
I knew this was going to happen

Not my type. She's rather obese, and apparently a stay-at-home mom with four young children. Her husband works out of town and comes home every two weeks or so, and she's also been asking around for a babysitter. My nephew's girlfriend filled us in on the details.

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...and all of sudden this woman with a baby walking by chimes in on our conversation
Run away as fast as you can.
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Not my type. She's rather obese, and apparently a stay-at-home mom with four young children. Her husband works out of town and comes home every two weeks or so, and she's also been asking around for a babysitter. My nephew's girlfriend filled us in on the details.
Yeah sounds to me she was just looking for a chance to talk to an adult. 4 kids and only sees her husband every few weeks? Must be brutal.
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Re: Etiquette? Stranger chiming in on conversation

Sometimes strangers can add to a conversation. Sometimes not. I see it from time to time, especially, as someone mentioned, if the people are out in public talking loudly about normal stuff that wasn't personal.

You should ask her if she's ever dumpster-dived for DVD cases at a Blockbuster.

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