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Old 06-30-15, 10:20 AM
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re: Pretty sure wife wants to leave... (and she's gone)

Kind of sounds like she's bluffing. I mean... she's probably not, and I would not suggest you assume she is, but paying for daycare/pre-school ain't cheap. If she's as selfish as you've painted her out to be, it just sounds out of place.

Still... get a hold of your lawyer. Keep trying. Don't let this go on any longer. Get this shit done, man. For your kid. If you can't get in contact with your lawyer, I have no idea what to suggest. Does the lawyer not have a business partner or assistant or something?
Old 06-30-15, 10:26 AM
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She hasn't paid for anything. She is just trying to dictate to me what is going to happen. Bad case of "But I'm the MOTHER!" syndrome.
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Your wife is going to get custody. They always do. Be prepared for that.
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I am trying to contact the lawyer to do this, but he is not getting back to me. Meanwhile, my "wife" is going ahead and trying to set up daycare/pre-school arrangements for my daughter in the town she is moving to.
Can you go down there and see him in person? If not, start calling every hour.
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re: Pretty sure wife wants to leave... (and she's gone)

How big of a town is she moving to? Do you know where she is trying to setup these childcare arrangements? I'd be tempted to have my attorney send a friendly letter to each daycare center involved, just stating that you are not involved in this move, you are opposing it, and you will not be obligated to them for any payments. Let your attorney handle it so that he can coordinate with any efforts in court to block the move, no point in tipping your hand (and yes, I've read the posts indicating your difficulties in reaching the attorney, just stay on that!). But once they get a letter to that effect, I suspect they'll want to stay clear of the situation, they don't need to be worrying about whether they'll be paid or not. What you don't want to do it bad mouth her or in any way directly interfere with her efforts, that can count against you in court. Let your attorney simply state the fact that you will not be on the hook for payments, they'll read between the lines.
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It sounds like EM's attorney either doesn't care enough or doesn't have enough time to actually do most of these suggestions.
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I have a conference call scheduled with him this Thursday.

What's funny is that she just texted me and asked if I would pick my stepson up after school, as she forgot about an appointment she had. When I told her I couldn't, she went apeshit. And, she essentially told me that I should be as responsible for my stepson as she should be for our daughter. Huh?
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Was she always this awful?
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I have a conference call scheduled with him this Thursday.
Can't you meet face to face?
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Originally Posted by EddieMoney View Post
I have a conference call scheduled with him this Thursday.

What's funny is that she just texted me and asked if I would pick my stepson up after school, as she forgot about an appointment she had. When I told her I couldn't, she went apeshit. And, she essentially told me that I should be as responsible for my stepson as she should be for our daughter. Huh?
Preserve those texts. If she is stating that her responsibility to her own daughter is somehow contingent upon your accepting responsibility for her son, thus implying that she feels no underlying moral obligation to your daughter simply out of motherhood, that should help you in any custody hearing.
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Definitely sounds like a shitty lawyer to me. She could already have everything set up by the time the guy even talks to Eddie.
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yeah man, I don't understand this waiting. No sense of urgency on your lawyer's part.
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the twist? the ex is banging Eddie's lawyer! BOOM.
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You know the difference between a lawyer and a hooker? A hooker stops fucking you once you're dead!

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I'm glad threads like these exists as it's a good reminder to never get Married
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Your wife is going to get custody. They always do. Be prepared for that.
That's not the case anymore.
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Yeah, it's happening less and less.
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Conference call because I can't get any time off this week.

The past few days she has gone overboard with the mother of the year act, smothering both kids after years of not giving two shits about them. It honestly makes me nauseous. So manipulative.
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yeah man, I don't understand this waiting. No sense of urgency on your lawyer's part.
He's drafting a motion for temporary custody. We're discussing it Thursday and I'll run to his office after work and sign it.
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I'm glad threads like these exists as it's a good reminder to never get Married
And here it was one of the few thing in life I was looking forward to....
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Preserve those texts. If she is stating that her responsibility to her own daughter is somehow contingent upon your accepting responsibility for her son, thus implying that she feels no underlying moral obligation to your daughter simply out of motherhood, that should help you in any custody hearing.
I have all of her texts. It's like a case study in sociopathy.
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I'm glad threads like these exists as it's a good reminder to never get Married
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And here it was one of the few thing in life I was looking forward to....
You two should get together, it should be wonderful.
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I have all of her texts. It's like a case study in sociopathy.
Make sure they're backed up someplace safe, just in case your phone gets accidentally dropped in a kiln while you're in bed.
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Make sure they're backed up someplace safe, just in case your phone gets accidentally dropped in a kiln while you're in bed.
He should probably have his phone under lock and key while he sleeps. This woman just cannot be trusted.
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All the gay folks who are happy about their right to marriage should read this thread. It's like demanding the right to drive a car that crashes half the time.

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