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My dad passed away last night

Old 11-19-14, 06:25 AM
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My dad passed away last night

I want to thank all my DVD Talk friends again for encouraging me to go ahead with the anniversary party for my parents. It was the right call. As luck would have it, it was his last real meal and chance to socialize. Seven weeks after getting the diagnosis, 2 weeks after the party and 1 week after entering hospice he died last night.

We have been taking turns spending the night at hospice with my mom. I saw him yesterday for a few minutes and noticed he had taken a turn. Even when he was all drugged up he would respond to a kiss on the head and an "I Love You" even though it was just a mumble. Yesterday was different, no response. I went in last night around 9:30 and found his breathing very irregular and labored. The hospice worker told me he had turned the corner and probably had less than 24 hours. I woke up at 11:30 to silence. It was the lack of noise that awoke me. I looked at his face and knew.

Family and friends gathered by his bed until about 2:30 am to say goodbye. No more pain, no more pills, no more delusions. RIP dad, love you always.

Thanks for the support. Its hard to think clearly at times like this and you guys made the right call

Elmer "Al" D Schrader 2/28/33 - 11/18/14. Father to two, grandfather to 6, great grandfather to 2.
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Old 11-19-14, 06:31 AM
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Im sorry to hear that sir. Give your mom a big hug for me, eh?
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Sorry for your loss Jim. You and your family will be in my thoughts.
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Sorry for you loss Jim. Take care of yourself. It's easy to forget that part at times like these...
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I'm sorry for your loss Jim. I hope that you and your family can find true peace in this trying time... especially before the holiday season. Our thoughts and prayers are with you!
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Sorry for your loss.
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Sorry for your loss Jim.
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Old 11-19-14, 07:30 AM
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My condolences, Jim. My dad had a similar end 14 years ago. My best to you and yours.
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Praying and thinking of you today Jim.
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Praying for continued peace and comfort, Jim!
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Very sorry, Jim. I'm sure it was very comforting for him to have you there.
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My condolences Jim. Your dad passed peacefully with family and friends providing comfort and love -- that's something we can all hope for. Take care.
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Sorry for you loss. Just know that he's in a better place and just remember all the good times you had with him.
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Sorry for you loss Jim. My dad passed very suddenly 15 years ago. Still miss him. Glad you were able to have a nice moment with him before he passed. Keep strong.
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Condolence from me to you. At least he is at peace now and no longer in pain.
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My condolences. Be strong.
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Sorry for your loss Jim, but take comfort in knowing he's no longer suffering.
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I am very sorry. I am glad you were able to spend time with him.
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