Vibiana

SSG Honeylamb, who is normally ever so precious, has a habit that is driving me completely bonkers. I do all the cooking in our household because she does most of the housework (except the laundry, which is also my job).

Lately she has started criticizing my cooking. Last night we had a roast. I cooked it in the crock pot (I had to, it's not like I can come home at 5 and cook a roast in the oven for two hours). She said it was overcooked and dry.

It tasted fine to me ... not overly moist but certainly not the way she seemed to think. I had made sure it was covered with water and the broth I used to cook it in. I made gravy from the liquid left in the crock pot.

This is the third time in about a month that she has complained about the meat I have cooked. One other time it was a pork roast and one time it was chicken. She buys our groceries and resents every nickel spent.

When she lived alone, she ate a lot of ramen noodles and protein shakes. She can't be bothered to cook. I am no fancy chef, but I never had any complaints before this. Frankly, my parents taught my brothers and me that it is very inconsiderate to complain about food that someone has prepared for you. I never heard my father complain about anything my mother cooked--and there were times when she missed, like all cooks. She was the first to admit it, too. But he never seemed to mind.

Am I being oversensitive? And am I justified in the desire to tell her to either shut up and eat or cook for her damn self?

DirkUSA

Tell her it's the meat. If she would buy better meat, it wouldn't turn out so dry.

Good luck!

Groucho

I was brought up to never complain about a meal that somebody else has prepared for you. My only exception are Bandoman's tuna club sandwiches. Seriously, dude...miracle whip?

kvrdave

3 times in a month? Tell her to GTFO!

Vibiana

I knew I could count on the Dog Blisterer.

kbmagic

Hmmm.... sounds like maybe something else is bugging her? I'd sit her down for a chat... tell her that when she complains about a meal you've prepared it's hurtful, and ask her if there's some underlying issue upsetting her...

Crocker Jarmen

I do a lot of cooking, so I know how annoying it can feel when you spend an hour preparing something for someone who says, "Ack, too much peel in the mashpotatos, bud."

On the other hand, without feedback, you can't know you are cooking to your diner's preferrence. If I've made something too spicy, say so, otherwise every time I make this thing for you it'll be the same.

So ask yourself if you think she is doing this just to be a pain, or if she's just being honest, and the food could use a little work.

Tarantino

My wife and I are honest with each other about the cooking. No one's ever had hurt feelings because of it.

slop101

What the fuck is that supposed to be?

wishbone

Is she home when you cook? Maybe she could assist you in the kitchen and the two of you can cook together. You mentioned counseling sessions before so maybe there's something more to it than the cooking. Good luck and bon appetit!

twikoff

the day after she complains.. cook something nice for yourself, and serve her ramen and protein shakes..
Im sure she will eventually get the picture.

bunkaroo

It's a special New Zealand dish where you drown the lamb in honey and garnish with Sea Salt and Garlic.

The Black

Simple, just ask her to prepare the same meal.

4KRG

Imagine that, a lesbian complaining about 'meat'


I am in a lose/lose situation complaining about food my wife cooks. If I tell her I like something when I don't, I risk having to eat it again many times.

If I tell her I don't like something, she gets upset.

What are you supposed to do?

I understand you being upset over the complaint, but hey, maybe if she says something you will do a better job next time

fumanstan

The problem with criticism is that the initial reaction from people is always going to be really defensive. Whether it's cooking, work, school, whatever, it always sucks to hear that someone doesn't like what you did. It also doesn't help that most of the time the person delivering the criticism doesn't know how to do it constructively.

I'd say just try and take it graciously and say you'll try and prepare it a little differently next time. That, or go the guilt trip route and look all sad and dejected while mumbling about the time you spent cooking. If you can cry on demand as well, that also helps.

bunkaroo

I mentioned to my fiancee a long time ago, if she sees me put down my fork between bites, that's her signal that I am not liking it. I normally eat like Homer Simpson so it's pretty obvious when I come up for air, something's wrong.

astrochimp

EdTheRipper

That's kind of what I'm thinking. Something else is bothering her.

d2cheer

That is what you think...

VinVega

Staff Sergeant Honeylamb I believe. The name tag on her uniform says "Honeylamb" from reports I've heard.

Mabuse

Vib, your cooking must suck. Your girlfriend has had ARMY FOOD but she's complaining about your cooking. Not a good sign.

edstein

Sloppy Seconds Girlfriend

Mikael79

Let her cook, and see how she does.

Vibiana

taffer

Whenever the OP would mention SSG Honeylamb in other threads, I always thought she was talking about her cat.