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Old 11-29-12, 01:58 PM
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Re: Is there a non gay website for dudes to meet other dudes?

you could consider websites you already belong to and participate on to seek fellow sports enthusiasts to meet and socialize. there is built in camaraderie among men who share the same interests already. many would probably welcome the initiative you show asking them out for watching of sporting events at your local. this issue is very common for many men who do not want to share their loneliness and confusion about where to meet other men for beer and non arousal touching.

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I knew this thread would degenerate into this.
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I knew this thread would degenerate into this.
You say degenerate, I say evolve.
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Old 11-29-12, 02:26 PM
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You could also try bars, gym, cigar club place, or something like that. Take up golfing? Or do what most people do and socialize at work. I had a friend who met people through videogames (Halo mostly).

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Old 11-29-12, 02:27 PM
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Yeah, it was kind of predictable that the whole thing would end in dozens of guys taking a shot at the OP.

The thread didn't go so well, either.
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Re: Is there a non gay website for dudes to meet other dudes?

Video games would be a good one, provided you are able to find and play with adults. If you play with the same people regularly, or look for a gaming community made up of adults, there are ways to build the friendship that way through the game. A gaming community can be good because you may be able to find people in your area to hang out with or ones that are within traveling distance.

I'd probably be leery of trying to start a friendship with a guy in a gym. Gyms are fairly common for gay men to cruise each other trying to hook up. Not saying that all gay men do that when they go to a gym, but is a common occurrence. Also not saying it couldn't happen that you could start a friendship that way, but be prepared for the other guy to think your intentions are something else.

What about going to some rec places near you that have softball or baseball leagues for adults? You might find a team looking for a player or can find the person overseeing the league to ask if its possible to join a team that is missing a player. You could also look at your city's community offerings. I receive one now and then from my city and it has activities, classes, and sports leagues for residents of the city. You could look into things that interest you and probably find people you could start a friendship with.
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Re: Is there a non gay website for dudes to meet other dudes?

Serious answer: find a forum dedicated to a hobby that you are into and get involved in the community there. If the community is large enough, it's likely that you'll find members in common that you can meetup with in real life.
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Re: Is there a non gay website for dudes to meet other dudes?

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Serious answer: find a forum dedicated to a hobby that you are into and get involved in the community there. If the community is large enough, it's likely that you'll find members in common that you can meetup with in real life.
I also live in Nowhereville, like DVDs and have a fondness for spending time in basements with large groups of men, at least one of them in handcuffs. If only I could find someone to meet up with.

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Old 11-29-12, 04:16 PM
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Serious answer: find a forum dedicated to a hobby that you are into and get involved in the community there. If the community is large enough, it's likely that you'll find members in common that you can meetup with in real life.
You still have the awkward "Hey would you like to meet up some time?" email. How do you NOT convey gay with that?
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You still have the awkward "Hey would you like to meet up some time?" email. How do you NOT convey gay with that?
You could do the "[Your location] Otter meet-up", spread a larger net.
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Or "[Your location] get-together, blowjobs not mandatory until third meeting."
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You could do the "[Your location] Otter meet-up", spread a larger net.
Do Otters still meet? I remember reading that stuff, mostly before I really came to this forum much (and I was too young ... started posting here when I was 15).

What happened? Did one of you guys accidently kill the stripper or something?
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Do Otters still meet?
Just to cuddle -- no sex stuff (although arousal is very much natural and expected).
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Just to cuddle -- no sex stuff (although arousal is very much natural and expected).
I hear you guys do a little low contact spooning
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What about going to some rec places near you that have softball or baseball leagues for adults? You might find a team looking for a player or can find the person overseeing the league to ask if its possible to join a team that is missing a player. You could also look at your city's community offerings. I receive one now and then from my city and it has activities, classes, and sports leagues for residents of the city. You could look into things that interest you and probably find people you could start a friendship with.
Thanks. I'll try just stopping in asking around. I tried meetup.com and something called sportsvite (I think). Meetup seems mostly for moms.

Also, thanks groucho, I'll try that.

A couple of people mention bars, but I don't drink. Someone mentioned work, but I work in a real small office and the only two guys I work with are not into sports.
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The OP is so hardcore, he starts out in a club, then ends up in the garage or basement.
Probably in a black hood with a ball gag though...
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Old 11-29-12, 06:23 PM
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OP do you have any sisters with boyfriends? Or women friends with boyfriends? If so you could tag along to an event sometime strike up a conversation with the guys and see if they basically are looking for the same thing. Believe me like Penguin Joe says you got to get away from the gal sometimes. That could be your opening. Hey ever do anything away from so and so...etc.
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This guy's not gay.

You just have to figure that whoever takes him up on that offer, one of them is not leaving that house alive.
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You just have to figure that whoever takes him up on that offer, one of them is not leaving that house alive.
Where do you think he gets the "crab meat"?
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Table tennis isn't my cup of tea. I'm looking for something a little more hardcore. I might try the bowling league idea.
Bowling

Want to meet a ton of guys? Join an MMA gym. Assuming you've got 10+ hours per week you can dedicate to it.

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Where do you think he gets the "crab meat"?
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Toastmasters, Rotary Club, Elks Club, Masons, Lions.
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Toastmasters, Rotary Club, Elks Club, Masons, Lions.
I nearly got in at Hendon...
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toastmasters, rotary club, elks club, masons, lions.
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