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Old 07-22-12, 08:05 PM
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Online dating profiles - is is possible to be somewhat incognito?

I want to give online dating a shot, because it's really my only option. But I'd kind of like to be incognito if possible. It's embarassing having to go the online route and I really don't want my family or co-workers seeing I have to resort to online dating.
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Old 07-22-12, 08:16 PM
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Re: Online dating profiles - is is possible to be somewhat incognito?

How would they see that you resorted to online dating unless they see you're profile while they are looking online for a date?

But to answer your question, unless you have clear pictures of yourself in your profile, you'll never get a date. Though you might be able to find luck on a special dating site where no one puts up pictures. But good luck getting anything but a big old fatty on one of those.
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If you use POF.com you can hide your profile so no one can see it but the people you've sent messages to.
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Try this site: http://www.farmersonly.com/

Then all you need is a clear picture of your John Deere.

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How would they see that you resorted to online dating unless they see you're profile while they are looking online for a date?
I think he's wondering if this stuff shows up in a Google type search if he has some personal details (name/location) in a profile.

The way some context-aware sites show info these days, it's hard to say. You kind of have to go with the "anything you post on the internet these days can be seen by anyone" mindset.
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Re: Online dating profiles - is is possible to be somewhat incognito?

There's no need to be ashamed. It's pretty damn common to date online these days. It's no longer 1996.
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There's no need to be ashamed. It's pretty damn common to date online these days. It's no longer 1996.
Yeah. Does on-line dating have some sort of stigma attached to it? Everybody is on the Internet and often for sixteen hours a day. Got to go where the action is.
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Originally Posted by filmerp View Post
There's no need to be ashamed. It's pretty damn common to date online these days. It's no longer 1996.
This.

So what happens if you do meet someone? Do you plan on lying to everyone you know about how the two of you met?
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Most dating sites you can only see the profiles if you are a member yourself.
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I tried it back in the late 90s/early 2000s. There was a stigma to it back then, but it was fun.

Spent some time with a couple good looking ladies because of it (separately).
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Make sure under hobbies to list pec dancing.
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Originally Posted by filmerp View Post
There's no need to be ashamed. It's pretty damn common to date online these days. It's no longer 1996.
Yeah aren't there stats that say like 6 out of every 10 relationships start online now? Even if that's bullshit and it's half that much, that's still 30% of all relationships beginning online.
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You should definitely use yoru DVD Talk username for your dating profile name. You'll be a pussy magnet.
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How far do you plan to carry this?

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Originally Posted by filmerp View Post
There's no need to be ashamed. It's pretty damn common to date online these days. It's no longer 1996.
What's funny is out of ALL of the friends i somehow have, people i can call friends in the pure platonic way (not acquaintances, friends of friends, bs), the only guy who has probably the most normal what-you-see-is-what-you-get relationship is some gamer dude who met his gf on some forum i think. Once he told me "no lust" even. Still a few years and they're still together. He was always a naturally happy guy though.
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Just man up! Sooner or later it's gonna come out that you killed J.F.K.
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Originally Posted by Goat3001 View Post
How would they see that you resorted to online dating unless they see you're profile while they are looking online for a date?
Exactly. This is the same answer to things like "I'd like to go check out that new strip club, but..."

I met my wife via online dating. And that was back when it wasn't "hip" yet. It's become as socially acceptable (perhaps more so) than hooking up at a club.
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Re: Online dating profiles - is is possible to be somewhat incognito?

Online dating worked great for me (still with her for the last 5-6 years). If you are 18-30 maybe give OkCupid a try, anything older maybe Match.com (but I never tried them)? It's been a few years so maybe something better came along.
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Just do it. You don't have to feel embarrassed about it, but as others have said, if you are serious about creating a profile, you need to include a photo of yourself.
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Old 07-23-12, 05:57 PM
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Don't feel embarrassed. First the stigma of online dating is non existent in this day and age. Second, even if there was some stigma, the only way someone would find your profile was if there were SEARCHING the very site which would hardly put them in a position to give you grief about it.

I did online dating on and off for a couple years before I met my gf a year and a half ago (online also). Went on lots of dates some good some not so good but there's not shame in getting out there and giving it a shot. Even if it takes a while you may eventually meet someone really great like I did.
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How about you post your potential picture on here first...you know so mhg83 can decide if you are fuckable? He already wants Solid Snake Pac real bad!!!

That way women will know if you are attractive.
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I think you should go for it ... and if anybody questions you about it, claim you are an innocent patsy.

Oh, and stay away from women named Ruby.
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This.

So what happens if you do meet someone? Do you plan on lying to everyone you know about how the two of you met?
Don't know, if I met someone then it probably wouldn't matter to me to fess up.

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There's no need to be ashamed. It's pretty damn common to date online these days. It's no longer 1996.
Part of my insecurity comes from several years ago when some coworkers (a few jobs ago for me) were sitting around a computer making fun of the people on one of the sites.

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I think he's wondering if this stuff shows up in a Google type search if he has some personal details (name/location) in a profile.
Yes, that's what I was concerned about. If someone belongs to the site I don't mind being non-incognito, but I'd rather it didn't show up in google searches or "just browsing" on the dating sites.
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