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Old 04-17-12, 11:56 PM
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

Originally Posted by mhg83 View Post
So...

Pics of your daughter? Non-Nude of course

But seriously, if he sent your daughter a pic claiming to be him, there's a site you can go on where you upload the pic and it tells you if it's been used on other sites. If he's an older creeper he may have taken a pic from the internet and claimed it was him.

edit: Here's the site:
http://www.tineye.com/
No pics of my daughter...

I know he is a teenager because the software I use takes screencaps of their skype sessions. This is also why I have what I need to pursue this legally if it came to that.
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

If your daughter is being as sensible as you indicate, and you're confident in her decisions, then instead of coming down hard on him, just approach him, by email, as yourself, and simply tell him that he's been told no, and he needs to stop pressuring her.
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

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we have discussed this issue and the terrible consequences she could face if she were to do something like this.
"Consequences" as in punishment? You think that's enough to deter her?
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

Just make a video of yourself telling him that consequences will never be the same. Problem solved.
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

Or just send him this:

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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

Originally Posted by GMan2819 View Post
"Consequences" as in punishment? You think that's enough to deter her?
Consequences, as in, you can never take that photo back after it is sent and that the image and her name could pop up on the internet at any time after that. Considering all the news about schools and jobs doing internet searches for candidates she understands how bad that could be. She is very driven and already has a plan for her future so this does matter to her.
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

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If your daughter is being as sensible as you indicate, and you're confident in her decisions, then instead of coming down hard on him, just approach him, by email, as yourself, and simply tell him that he's been told no, and he needs to stop pressuring her.
It may come to that. I just wanted him to realize that what he is doing is not smart and to back off. He may not have a parent that is paying attention to what he is doing to let him know this is a bad idea.

*Edited to add that I won't be back to the thread because I am going out of town (with my daughter btw). I will continue my talks with her and forget all about this idea.

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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

Your daughter is Skyping with an older dude and she isn't even in highschool yet? How is this a good idea?

Allow me to introduce you to the mind of a 17 year old boy: He wants to have sex with your daughter in whatever manipulative way he can pull it off. If you are very lucky, he may be content with fantasies and wants to see suggestive photos. There is little other motivation in his attention to this relationship.

Tell him to find someone his age and leave your daughter alone. This will break her heart. A lot less than continuing the charade.
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

Originally Posted by Thor Simpson View Post
Your daughter is Skyping with an older dude and she isn't even in highschool yet? How is this a good idea?

Allow me to introduce you to the mind of a 17 year old boy: He wants to have sex with your daughter in whatever manipulative way he can pull it off.
I don't know. I remember being 17 and.....no, that's right.
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

Everything you need to know about the teenage mind is contained within the lyrics to "Paradise By The Dashboard Light."
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You could forward this recent article to the boy:
Two Standley Lake High School Students Face Felony Charges In Sexting Case
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

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Your daughter is Skyping with an older dude and she isn't even in highschool yet? How is this a good idea?

Allow me to introduce you to the mind of a 17 year old boy: He wants to have sex with your daughter in whatever manipulative way he can pull it off. If you are very lucky, he may be content with fantasies and wants to see suggestive photos. There is little other motivation in his attention to this relationship.

Tell him to find someone his age and leave your daughter alone. This will break her heart. A lot less than continuing the charade.
My daughter believes she loves this boy right this minute. To her, he is perfect because he tells her wonderful things and he isn't actually here in person to be a teenage douchebag. I do believe that she will move on from this on her own eventually.

Believe me, my first impulse was to go postal on this kid but knowing teenage girls, I don't want to turn this into a Romeo and Juliet kind of thing. It isn't realistic in these times to try to forbid contact because she has access to phones from all her friends at school and I have no way to control that.
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

Is there a reason you won't mail him the anonymous letter?
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

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Is there a reason you won't mail him the anonymous letter?
As I mentioned earlier, a letter mailed from where we live is probably not going to be all that anonymous.
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

I still don't see why you should have to be anonymous about it. Say to the kid, "Hey, I know what you're up to. If you want to keep talking to my daughter you have to cut the shit--NOW."
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Originally Posted by beavismom View Post
As I mentioned earlier, a letter mailed from where we live is probably not going to be all that anonymous.
Because of the postmark?

So mail it to a friend who lives in another state and have them mail it out. Asking anonymous strangers on the internet to do your bidding is just as weird as what your daughter is doing.
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To be honest this kid won't respect you because you're a women. You are an obstacle to overcome, not an authority figure to him.

A friendly talk with her father should set him straight. Something along the lines of "I have a .45 and a shovel. I doubt anyone would miss you."

This is a good time for a dad or uncle to get involved.
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

Pistol, as you've suggested, I'm sending everyone in the thread a shovel.
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

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Pistol, as you've suggested, I'm sending everyone in the thread a shovel.
Will it come with a free crayon?
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

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To be honest this kid won't respect you because you're a women. You are an obstacle to overcome, not an authority figure to him.

A friendly talk with her father should set him straight. Something along the lines of "I have a .45 and a shovel. I doubt anyone would miss you."

This is a good time for a dad or uncle to get involved.
This is how my dad would have handled it. He's 86 years old now but still a tough old bird. I told him about this thread and he was appalled. He wanted to know who the parent was in that house.
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

If you are afraid of pissing off your daughter by confronting him yourself then have her get herself out of it. All she has to do is say that you walked by and saw one of his request and you were less than pleased. That you started talking about how that's illegal and minors and everything. She can lay the blame on you without you being the confrontational one where she'll choose him over you.

They'll both gripe about what a prude you are but it should take care of it in a way that everyone can save a little face.
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

Originally Posted by mhg83 View Post
So...

Pics of your daughter? Non-Nude of course

Found one of her in a bathing suit.


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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

Originally Posted by beavismom View Post
As I mentioned earlier, a letter mailed from where we live is probably not going to be all that anonymous.
Post the letter here and I'm sure you can get somebody to send it.
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Originally Posted by GMan2819 View Post
You could forward this recent article to the boy:
Two Standley Lake High School Students Face Felony Charges In Sexting Case
For a society that uses sex extensively to sell product, the US is sure a bunch of prudes.
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)

Originally Posted by GMan2819 View Post
You could forward this recent article to the boy:
Two Standley Lake High School Students Face Felony Charges In Sexting Case
Agree.

Obvious question here that stunningly no one has asked is Where is Daddy in all of this? And why has he not taken a trip over there to set this fuckstick straight? I have to assume you are a single mother since Dad does not know about this. And a 14 to a 17 year old? That’s 3 YEARS of extra experience he has on your daughter. That is a shitload in high school years. Most likely she is a freshman and he is a senior how is that even OK for you? Regardless of how “tall” she is?

Secondly depending on the nature of the pics he could be asking for child porn. No way is this the first time he has done that as well. If he is still pressuring her after being told no...that is a huge problem. Because she will eventually cave if she feels as you say about the boy. At some point she will not tell you about this anymore and go behind your back. He will have more influence over her than you (regardless of how trusting you think the relationship is). High School girls will do basically "anything" for the boys they love in this day and age. Especially an older boy.

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