I need an unusual flavor from one of you. :)
04-17-12, 05:05 PM
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)
It is pretty creepy that you would want a stranger to write to some 17 year old for you, basically scaring him. I think you should inform him yourself or hire someone you know to kill him. Hoo-Ahh.
04-17-12, 05:09 PM
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)
Originally Posted by covenant
Have your daughter tell him "you first". Once he sends his pics notify the police, he gets arrested, he pays fines and court costs, gets put on the sexual offender registry etc etc....
04-17-12, 05:23 PM
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Originally Posted by Goat3001
Send the 17 year old a full body nude shot of an old man. Email it with a note that says "this is who you've been talking to". Problem solved.
04-17-12, 07:04 PM
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)
Originally Posted by covenant
Have your daughter tell him "you first". Once he sends his pics notify the police, he gets arrested, he pays fines and court costs, gets put on the sexual offender registry etc etc....
Originally Posted by Rockmjd23
That would actually be illegal since you'd be sending a nude photo to a minor.
04-17-12, 07:10 PM
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If I was 17 years old and got some anonymous letter in the mail I'd throw it in the trash.
Is the OP serious?
Is the OP serious?
04-17-12, 07:14 PM
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)
Originally Posted by Nefarious
Confront him and tell him to fuck a teacher like every other boy his age. This is ridiculous.
04-17-12, 07:29 PM
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Have him send pics first...and then email them to a few of us here. We'll have a new Photoshop addition.
04-17-12, 08:15 PM
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)
Originally Posted by Supermallet
Where was mhg83 when all this was happening?
04-17-12, 08:26 PM
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)
A reasonable person doesn't try to kill flies with a tank. You need to follow a course of escalating action, or you may give the impression of appearing not just unreasonable, but you could run into serious legal trouble following some advice here.
Depending on the nature of "inappropriate", I'd email him and tell him to not contact my daughter.
If he continued, I'd block his IP address and contact his parents. The reception I get from them would then determine the next course of action. If they're helpful, that's probably the end of it.
If they're helpful, but he continues to try to reach my daughter, then I contact his parents again and let them know that if his unwelcome activity continues, I'll complain to their ISP and they stand a chance of losing their internet service. I also tell them a third time will have me calling their local authorities.
If a third time happens, I file a complaint with the authorities in their community and check out restraining orders.
If that still doesn't do any good, then this thread is full of knowledgable helpful people who know how to solve problems with sage advice... you should take with huge lumps of salt.
Depending on the nature of "inappropriate", I'd email him and tell him to not contact my daughter.
If he continued, I'd block his IP address and contact his parents. The reception I get from them would then determine the next course of action. If they're helpful, that's probably the end of it.
If they're helpful, but he continues to try to reach my daughter, then I contact his parents again and let them know that if his unwelcome activity continues, I'll complain to their ISP and they stand a chance of losing their internet service. I also tell them a third time will have me calling their local authorities.
If a third time happens, I file a complaint with the authorities in their community and check out restraining orders.
If that still doesn't do any good, then this thread is full of knowledgable helpful people who know how to solve problems with sage advice... you should take with huge lumps of salt.
04-17-12, 08:30 PM
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)
Originally Posted by d2cheer
I didn't get my fucking pic!! 
Wait...
I posted after you.
Wait...
I posted after you.
Originally Posted by Supermallet
Where was mhg83 when all this was happening?
Originally Posted by VinVega
Should I sticky it?
That is what the boy wants to do after he gets those pix!
04-17-12, 08:34 PM
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)
Does anyone else think this 17-year old is probably a 43 year-old guy who typically would be on To Catch a Predator?
04-17-12, 09:26 PM
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)
Originally Posted by beavismom
... online friendship ..... but I don't want to worry about her having a weak moment.
For those wondering, if this doesn't help, we will be taking more serious measures.
For those wondering, if this doesn't help, we will be taking more serious measures.
If your daughter cannot be trusted to ignore online requests, how will she survive in real life?
04-17-12, 10:10 PM
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)
Originally Posted by Numanoid
So, OP, how's the thread turning out for you?
04-17-12, 11:09 PM
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As always, you never know what you are going to get here, but I expected most of these comments. I am not looking for someone to parent for me. I have a good relationship with my daughter and we have discussed this issue and the terrible consequences she could face if she were to do something like this. She has been telling him no, exactly as she should, but I was looking for something that might ease this pressure without ruining anyone's life.
It amuses me that this forum which is full of commentary about all the teachers you would have been with in high school, etc. is so quick to want to ruin this kid. Not that I think it will matter to most of you anyway, but this has been a progressive relationship. They have been talking for months and he may have genuine feelings for her. That doesn't mean I want her sending him pics either.
As for taking her phone, taking away her computer, etc. You are suggesting I punish her for something she hasn't done. Not only that, she has access to friend's phones and computers and I can't monitor those the way I do here at home.
The reality is that she is doing what all teens do and is starting to explore relationships. The boy makes her feel good about herself in a way that a parent can't. She is taller and smarter than most of the kids in her class so she hasn't had a lot of interest from boys in person. She goes to high school next year though and I am very confident that she will move to a more realistic relationship pattern and lose the internet boyfriend on her own. I am just trying to keep things calm in the meantime.
As I mentioned in the first post, if the pressure doesn't ease up I am prepared to take whatever action I have to in order to protect her.
It amuses me that this forum which is full of commentary about all the teachers you would have been with in high school, etc. is so quick to want to ruin this kid. Not that I think it will matter to most of you anyway, but this has been a progressive relationship. They have been talking for months and he may have genuine feelings for her. That doesn't mean I want her sending him pics either.
As for taking her phone, taking away her computer, etc. You are suggesting I punish her for something she hasn't done. Not only that, she has access to friend's phones and computers and I can't monitor those the way I do here at home.
The reality is that she is doing what all teens do and is starting to explore relationships. The boy makes her feel good about herself in a way that a parent can't. She is taller and smarter than most of the kids in her class so she hasn't had a lot of interest from boys in person. She goes to high school next year though and I am very confident that she will move to a more realistic relationship pattern and lose the internet boyfriend on her own. I am just trying to keep things calm in the meantime.
As I mentioned in the first post, if the pressure doesn't ease up I am prepared to take whatever action I have to in order to protect her.
04-17-12, 11:27 PM
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Originally Posted by beavismom
As always, you never know what you are going to get here, but I expected most of these comments. I am not looking for someone to parent for me. I have a good relationship with my daughter and we have discussed this issue and the terrible consequences she could face if she were to do something like this. She has been telling him no, exactly as she should, but I was looking for something that might ease this pressure without ruining anyone's life.
It amuses me that this forum which is full of commentary about all the teachers you would have been with in high school, etc. is so quick to want to ruin this kid. Not that I think it will matter to most of you anyway, but this has been a progressive relationship. They have been talking for months and he may have genuine feelings for her. That doesn't mean I want her sending him pics either.
As for taking her phone, taking away her computer, etc. You are suggesting I punish her for something she hasn't done. Not only that, she has access to friend's phones and computers and I can't monitor those the way I do here at home.
The reality is that she is doing what all teens do and is starting to explore relationships. The boy makes her feel good about herself in a way that a parent can't. She is taller and smarter than most of the kids in her class so she hasn't had a lot of interest from boys in person. She goes to high school next year though and I am very confident that she will move to a more realistic relationship pattern and lose the internet boyfriend on her own. I am just trying to keep things calm in the meantime.
As I mentioned in the first post, if the pressure doesn't ease up I am prepared to take whatever action I have to in order to protect her.
It amuses me that this forum which is full of commentary about all the teachers you would have been with in high school, etc. is so quick to want to ruin this kid. Not that I think it will matter to most of you anyway, but this has been a progressive relationship. They have been talking for months and he may have genuine feelings for her. That doesn't mean I want her sending him pics either.
As for taking her phone, taking away her computer, etc. You are suggesting I punish her for something she hasn't done. Not only that, she has access to friend's phones and computers and I can't monitor those the way I do here at home.
The reality is that she is doing what all teens do and is starting to explore relationships. The boy makes her feel good about herself in a way that a parent can't. She is taller and smarter than most of the kids in her class so she hasn't had a lot of interest from boys in person. She goes to high school next year though and I am very confident that she will move to a more realistic relationship pattern and lose the internet boyfriend on her own. I am just trying to keep things calm in the meantime.
As I mentioned in the first post, if the pressure doesn't ease up I am prepared to take whatever action I have to in order to protect her.
Pics of your daughter? Non-Nude of course
But seriously, if he sent your daughter a pic claiming to be him, there's a site you can go on where you upload the pic and it tells you if it's been used on other sites. If he's an older creeper he may have taken a pic from the internet and claimed it was him.
edit: Here's the site:
http://www.tineye.com/
04-17-12, 11:51 PM
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Re: I need an unusual favor from one of you. :)
Originally Posted by Supermallet
My question is, if the letter is anonymous, why not write it yourself?
