Charlie Goose

Just simply tell her your feelings and ask her if she wants to be exclusive with you. If she says no, begin to scream and don't stop until you're about to pass out. By then she'll recognize your devotion and be yours throughout eternity. If not, throw acid in her face.

Vipper II

I'm sure where you're from acid is available in every corner drugstore, but in 1955...err, here, it's tough to come by.

GMan2819

It's too early to ask for exclusivity - you'll come across as needy. If the first 3 dates were primarily of the drinks/dinner variety, then the next date should involve something that involves the better part of a day. Go for quality, not quantity.

Larry C.

I don't get it. If your not peeing in her butt why do you want to see her more often?

Vipper II

Date one was of the drinks/dinner variety. Date two involved dinner at a nice Italian restaurant, a movie, and some conversation to top the evening off. Date 3 was that something that involved the better part of the day: wine tasting, dinner, and seeing a symphony. So, each subsequent one upped the ante a little, so to speak. But again, I'm not looking for exclusivity, just a chance to see her again in the middle of the week. At this point I'm just going to see how our next one goes and take it from there. Maybe she'll be the one to broach the subject. Plus, there's no law that says I have to ask outright; I can simply make a casual suggestion and see if she takes the bait.

TomOpus

Yeah, unless you get a stronger vibe, keeping it casual would be your best bet. Maybe say "So, do you like doing stuff during the week?" instead of "Hey, let's go have drinks on Wednesday."

Now if she likes the "take charge kinda guy" you might try the latter. That might work in your favor.

Oh, do you know what she does for work? Are long hours involved?

TimeandTide

This. You're overthinking it. Just ask her if she's up for meeting for a glass of wine or a drink after work one day. Just ask, "You free to meet up for a drink on Wednesday?" So simple.

Shows you're interested, that you're not super-aggressive/clingy but can/will take charge, and it gives her an opportunity to pick a day that works best for her if Wed. is a no-go.

And if she says that she can't meet at all, don't sweat it. People are busy and a "no" isn't always personal. Sounds like you're having fun and have been on some great dates so far. Don't fuck it up. And don't sweat the other dude (if there even is one). Let that motivate you to be at the top of your game with her so it's you she picks.

ETA: What Tom said.

cungar

Really? This chick sounds way too refined to be discussed in an Otter thread. We're used to commenting on trainstation trannies and gay bathouses.

Rockmjd23

That stuff is fancy, but it's also stuff that you could do with a friend as well.

RoadToPerdition

Besides a friend with benefits situation, wouldn't that hold true for anything but sex?

Rockmjd23

True, and though he posted it to prove that he's upped the ante, I just wanted to remind him that it's possible she hung out with him that day in only a friendship sense.

GMan2819

OP did not mention if any kissing was involved so, yeah, that's entirely possible. Only one way to find out is to go for it...

Tracer Bullet

If you want to see her more, ask her. If she wants to see you more, she'll say yes. Don't play games.

Vipper II

Based on yesterday, I'm very sure it's not just a friendship thing.

The Bus

So you didn't ask?

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Save Ferris

buy her a car and claim it on taxes

mndtrp

Ask her if she wants to meet up during the week. It's not that difficult.

Rockmjd23

So give us intimate details, you tease.

Osiris3657

oh please, don't pretend you don't know the names of dating sites. I'm sure you have a profile on POF

Kittydreamer

OKCupid isn't too bad but POF is nothing but a hook up site...

LurkerDan

you say that like it's a bad thing.

Buford T Pusser

A female friends sends me hilarious guy profiles from fish so I checked out the women and they were all skanky.


But she did send a few from OK that were unbelievable. Middle aged male virgins. Maybe they are here!?!!??

WillieTheShakes

If you want to ramp things up, you should buy her a laptop.

TomOpus

So...what happened and did you ask her?

BKurgan

It happens naturally. My wife and I had three or four dates within a period of two or three weeks, and after that we saw each other every day. The only time we haven't seen each other every day is when one had to to travel while the other couldn't for some reason.

I think the quick email "are you free on Wednesday for a drink" would be appropriate. If she says no, don't try and push it to another day, just wait until your next scheduled date. If you both feel the same vibe then it will amp up naturally.