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Never. They're locked in the basement with no chance of escape.
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14.52%
Less than a week
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22.58%
1-2 weeks
15
24.19%
3-4 weeks
4
6.45%
5-10 weeks
6
9.68%
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What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

Old 07-05-11, 08:15 PM
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What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

So, for the second time in a year and a half, a woman I'm dating is traveling abroad for a few weeks. Last year, my then-girlfriend spent a month backpacking through SE Asia. Then, on Sunday, my current girlfriend left for Korea to visit family for five weeks.

I realize that's not that long considering many of my friends have had year-long deployments, but it feels like an eternity at the moment.

So my question: What's the longest you've ever been apart from your significant other? And was the experience tortuous, joyous, liberating...? How did you and your SO cope with the separation?
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

Not counting prison?
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

My wife visits her family every summer for a couple of weeks, so I'm used to it.
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

i think a week. done a couple of week long baseball trips with a buddy.
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

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Not counting prison?
Prison counts.

How long between conjugal visits?
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

I just got back from three weeks away from home for work. Before that, I was away for a week and then home for five days. I'm home now for ten days before I leave again for a week. During that three week stint I just finished? It was during our third wedding anniversary and weeks 27-29 of our first pregnancy. We had a long talk about whether or not I could commit to all of these work outings back in January, 2010 and we agreed we could make it happen. The pregnancy made it more difficult than I think either of us anticipated, though we had no idea we would be pregnant when we made the plans 18 months prior to my leaving for so long. She supported me, though, and I'm doing everything I can to support her and the pregnancy, so I guess long absences can work with careful planning.
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2 weeks and that was WAY too long. -kd5-
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

I travel a handful of times each year for work. Longest I've been away was about 4 weeks. Wasn't a big deal.
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

The longest separation, since we've met, has been less than 48 hours. And since we've been married (one year on July 7), the longest has been maybe 18 hours. Although neither of us is the jealous type and would have no problem with the other taking a trip with friends, we would much rather hang out together. We thoroughly enjoy each others company.
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My wife had her gallbladder out and spent about a week in the hospital shortly after we were first married back in 2003. I did see her every day during that time.

Next week, her mom is having surgery on her feet, so my wife and son are going to go stay with her for a few days to help out. It'll be the first time I have the house all to myself in quite some time. I'm planning quite the marathon of debauchery. I'll let you know how the experience was if I don't wind up od'ing, dying from alcohol poisoning or going to jail for killing a hooker during the time away.
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

How come max is 11+ weeks, when you said you know people on year long deployments?
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

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Prison counts.

How long between conjugal visits?
With my SO, 2 weeks. With my wife, 1.5 years.
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

In nine years, there have been three nights that we haven't slept together. Each time was because one of us was at the sleep clinic, and they don't allow your spouse to sleep with you.

So our longest separation is measured in hours.
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Never, because Treesa is always in my heart.
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

A week. Once I was gone for a work training that lasted a week, the other time she went to Mexico to visit family during the holidays. That one sucked, because we basically spent our first Christmas and New Years apart from each other.
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

I don't know... a couple weeks maybe?
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My Sgt. Honeylamb has been deployed to the Middle East since December. She left for mobilization on September 19, came home for two days in late October, and returned to her unit till they flew over on 12/1. We have been together for not quite two years.

We hope she will come back as Staff Sgt. Honeylamb, but no word on that yet.
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The longest just started now. Last saw her in June, will see her next in September.

I've been in long-distance relationships for the last decade. I invariably end up dating someone who doesn't live near me.
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

It's been 5-6 days several times. I don't think the wife can handle being away from me any longer than that.
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

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How come max is 11+ weeks, when you said you know people on year long deployments?


I figured three(-ish)+ months was a super long time to be apart from a significant other, so everything beyond that -- whether five months or a year, like in Vibiana's case -- is, to me anyway, a hellish amount of time to be separated.
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I figured three(-ish)+ months was a super long time to be apart from a significant other, so everything beyond that -- whether five months or a year, like in Vibiana's case -- is, to me anyway, a hellish amount of time to be separated.
Hellish is indeed the word.
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

A month twice. She did the traveling but it felt like a vacation to me.
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

Six weeks for me. I had to travel to Africa for work.

For me, more than 5 days is a long time.
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Re: What's the longest you've been apart from your SO?

Where is the "not long enough" option?
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People in horse shows are gone for days at a time. Just saying.

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