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Old 08-04-10, 07:16 AM
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OK Guys, What Do I Do Now?

So I met this girl on a social chat site. She tells me she's 23yo and lives in San Diego which is great because I live in Los Angeles. She posts a pretty picture of herself. We chat/flirt for about 3-4 days and she asks for my phone number. I give her my number (it's not my main number) to reach me.

I assume she's going to call me right away. Instead I get a few weird calls from other girls. I question one of the callers to find out where she got my number. It turns out she got it from Twitter. Huh? It seems Miss San Diego posted my number on her Twitter account for all to see!

So I go to this Twitter account and find out Miss San Diego is a 15yo girl from Seattle Washington! So she lied to me about everything.

I've ask her nicely to remove my number from her twitter account but got no response. I've asked Twitter to remove it too but they haven't gotten back to me. Granted it's not the main number I use but it's the principle of thing. It's pissing me off.

These lying HS girls have to realize there are consequences to their actions.
I'm sure I'm not the only guy who has experienced this or similar situations.

I could look up where her family lives and talk to her parents but that would cost time and money and cause a big stink. I don't know if it'll be worth it.

So what do you guys think I should do?

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08/08/10 Update

It turns out there's another 19yo girl in this as well. She also posted my number in her twitter account.

So I may have it wrong/backwards. The 19yo could have been the one that FIRST posted my number and her 15yo friend just followed. It makes more sense that way. The 19yo may have been the one I was chatting with for all I know. I don't know why she would lie about her age though.

I had assumed the 15yo started it because it was the first info I received from that caller and it was the first twitter webpage I saw. Then I saw the other twitter webpage of the 19yo.

The timestamps on twitter show they both posted at exactly the same minute (no seconds are kept).

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08/08/10 Further Update

The 19yo has posted another phone number of some poor joe she suckered on her Twitter account again. The 15yo didn't follow this time with a similar Twitter post. This further confirms my thinking that the 19yo is behind all this and not the 15yo.

Last edited by Highlander; 08-08-10 at 07:35 AM. Reason: 08/08/10 Update
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Re: OK Guys, What Do I Do Now?

Do you have screencaps and/or transcripts of at least some of your conversations to date?

One option you have, most especially since you live in the same state, is to file harassment charges against her if it is pretty clear by context that she posted your number with the intent that others would call you in unsolicited, harassing fashion.

However, she could turn around and assert that you are a would-be child predator who tried to pick her up knowing that she was 15 so you need to be prepared to disprove that quickly. Knowing what little I do about her already, I doubt she would have any compunction about lying her ass off.
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Re: OK Guys, What Do I Do Now?

Don't call her parents, the consequences would never be the same...
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Seems that we'll have to start by looking up "compunction"
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Re: OK Guys, What Do I Do Now?

jfoobar,

Thanks for your reply. I thought of that too. I did grab a few screens where she clearly states her age as 23.

She lives in Seattle WA which is not the same state as CA unfortunately.

I am hoping to get her banned from Twitter but they haven't replied back to me.
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you dun goofed
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Backtrace her!
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I gotta agree with jfoobar. You could very easily be targeted as a predator. There may be no proof you knew she was 15 but while it works its way through a broken system you could be good and fucked until your name is cleared (and your reputation may never be repaired).

I don't have any advice other than save every scrap of any emails or conversations. Contacting her parents might be a bad idea because an over protective parent may overreact before they know the real story. As a father of a 15 year old I would initially react with suspicion towards the man until I talked with my daughter. If she was like you describe I would expect her to lie and I would immediately contact the police in your area.
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Deputy Dave,

As I said above, I did get a few screen captures where she twice states her age as 23.

Thanks for the advice about not contacting her parents. I guess I have no firm recourse
other than doing a "Jessi Slaughter" on her.
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No chance it's a different girl? Or have you already ascertained that there can only be one?
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No chance it's a different girl? Or have you already ascertained that there can only be one?
I've actually determined there are two girls. The one girl who actively lied about herself and her friend who evidently was watching our chats. I know this because I've read their twitter posts. And both girls have posted my number on their twitter accounts at the same time. It can't be a coincidence as I rarely use that number and therefore almost never give it out.
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Crap - I got my words slightly out of order.
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So what do you guys think I should do?
Try talking to real people face to face? It has been known to work.
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Re: OK Guys, What Do I Do Now?

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I guess I have no firm recourse other than doing a "Jessi Slaughter" on her.
Sounds like you have a date with 4chan.
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Re: OK Guys, What Do I Do Now?

Originally Posted by Brian Shannon View Post
Try talking to real people face to face? It has been known to work.
Harshly worded, but correct. Twitter's one of those things where info is taken in and disposed over the course of a few hours, so the number's probably long down her feed by now and likely forgotten. Chalk it up to a bitter experience in online "dating" and try to meet local girls from hereon out.

Now, if the calling persists, then you might want to take further action -- such as, say, reporting her to the cyber police.
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It's a "throw-away" number, right? Sounds like it from your description.
So, throw it away. Problem solved.
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change your number..... done deal... problem solved and meet some girls at the bar... hell at the park... get off the net...
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Old Dude,

It's not my main number but it's a not throw away number either.
I would rather keep it. I could just turn it off and not answer it.
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Re: OK Guys, What Do I Do Now?

Well since she posted your number, why not post a pic of her here?
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did she block her number? if not, post her number
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did she block her number? if not, post her number
I don't have her number. I gave her my number to call me, remember?

She asked for my number and said she would call me.
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Well since she posted your number, why not post a pic of her here?
Hell, I'm tempted. I don't want to escalate it right now as I'm waiting for twitter to get back to me first. I want to see what they do.

But stay tuned.
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Hell, I'm tempted. I don't want to escalate it right now as I'm waiting for twitter to get back to me first. I want to see what they do.

But stay tuned.
Ok, I wait.........................................................











Ok, I waited long enough, now it's time to post the picture so we can make a unbiased judgement!
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Re: OK Guys, What Do I Do Now?

Ride it out... 15 year old girls are basically semi-retarded and will quickly gravitate towards a new Justin Bieber song or giving head to their boyfriends in another week or so. They'll forget about you soon enough -- no offense

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