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Old 10-16-09, 10:13 AM
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

Just lather up with some Axe and you're good to go.
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Old 10-16-09, 10:15 AM
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

I recently started dating after almost eight years, so it's not impossible. However, I agree with everyone who is telling you (a) no rose, (b) stop telling her how lonely you are, and (c) don't start thinking about your "future." It reminds me of when I was in eighth grade and we used to take the name of the boy we liked and be writing "Mrs. His Name" all over our spiral notebook covers.
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

Half yellow rose, half red? Agreed, fucking creepy.

You're not trying to fall in love. You're just going on a date. Chances are, you won't marry this girl. Just have fun <i>that night</i>. If you guys click, great, but don't go into this bar thinking you're going to be BF/GF at the end of the week.

As for the drink, don't order anything fruity. Get something not so pussy. Besides, something stronger (like a Jack/Coke) might loosen you up a bit, and that's what you want. You're going to be nervous as hell, because you haven't been on a date in forever. Get some alcohol in your blood.

Also...

<b>Pics?</b>

Edit: Also, what's the reason you haven't dated for so long? Confidence? Work?
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Old 10-16-09, 10:47 AM
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

Originally Posted by naitram View Post

Shit, I'm going on a date (again) tomorrow night with a girl I've known for years, and I know I have no chance of a future with her, even though I'd like one. I'll never get to kiss or touch her, let alone exchange other bodily fluids. Sometimes it's enough just to be with them for the brief, fantastical moments you are...then you go home and pull it and get on with your life.
Including alcohol to the mix might change the game
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Old 10-16-09, 10:56 AM
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

Originally Posted by naitram View Post
No, we're going on a "real" date. There are just complications that mean we'll likely never be able to be more than friends, even though we're both in denial about it, me especially.
She's/you're married?

To the OP, best advice I ever got back when I was dating is be yourself. Maybe rethink the daquiri, but just relax and be yourself.
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

she's Muslim = no booze
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

If you've gotta go with a sweet drink... at least got with a mojito, straight up.

Although the mojito has recently become more effeminate due to nasty smirnoff ice creations... you will look COOL if you get one made PROPERLY by a bartender.

Don't believe the bull of "just be yourself" though. That's "THE MORE YOU KNOW" and Saturday morning cartoons talking. Remember... Cum on tits = daiquiri. Repeat that.
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

Originally Posted by mhg83 View Post
Since it's at a bar, is it okay to bring a rose for her (seeing as its sweetest day)
The fuck's a "sweetest day"?
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

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The fuck's a "sweetest day"?

Yes, same question...
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Originally Posted by naitram View Post
she's Muslim = no booze
I dated a Muslim chick once. She didn't take it very seriously though (she drank and smoked). Her family ended up being the problem in the end. Way too traditional and conservative.
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Old 10-16-09, 02:00 PM
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

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The fuck's a "sweetest day"?
An awesome Hallmark holiday!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sweetest_day

The hens have been chirping about it all week.
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Old 10-16-09, 02:05 PM
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

First I've heard of it.
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

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And the kiss at the end of the night. Yes or no? And is it lame to ask before kissing her?

Never ask her. From experience, they think it's much creepier than just doing it.
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

Originally Posted by 4KRG View Post
Don't ask for advice on an internet forum full of single guys

Be fun, have fun, show her a good time and don't bring up anything that isn't fun. If you are fun, she will come back for seconds (unless you are totally physically repulsive, just ask El Scorcho )
At least I get them one time though!
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

Originally Posted by kvrdave View Post
I would be yourself.
half-red/half-yellow rose
strawberry daiquiri
white sweater w/ converse
planning a future with someone he hasn't met yet


I think 'being himself' is the last thing in the world this guy should do.
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Old 10-16-09, 03:07 PM
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Originally Posted by Dr Mabuse View Post
Maybe OP should stick with the Costanza method, whatever you think you should do? Do the opposite!!!


It's how I live my life.

(It's really not, but sometimes it's tempting)
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Old 10-16-09, 03:09 PM
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Originally Posted by Duh Vuh Duh View Post
To the OP, best advice I ever got back when I was dating is be yourself. Maybe rethink the daquiri, but just relax and be yourself.
I hate that advice. It works for extroverts, but it doesn't work for me. "Being myself" with someone I don't know is to not talk to them. Doesn't exactly work on a date.
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

Ditch the white sweater for a t shirt silk screen with Tarrantino's avatar picture on it = SURE THING
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It's how I live my life.

(It's really not, but sometimes it's tempting)
ohhhhh so that's how you became gay
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

White sweaters make me think of Pat Boone. Oops, no, that'd be white buckskin loafers. Well, no, those make me think more of Cousin Eddie from "Vacation."

Either way, I never, EVER wrote "Mrs. Pat Boone" or "Mrs. Cousin Eddie" on my spiral notebook cover in eighth grade.
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

I brought the last woman I dated a rose on our first dinner date; but it was Valentine's Day and the rose was made of chocolate so it made sense.

I agree with the others. Don't go too far, just see if you can have a naturally flowing conversation without looking for topics to discuss. If neither one of you have anything to say, then you aren't meant to have a relationship. Don't spend a lot of time dwelling on topics everyone discusses (i.e. what you hate about your work, what YOU do all the time, etc.) Best to just ask her what she likes to do as a hobby and see if she can turn it into something interesting.
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

First date on Valentine's Day?



"Sweetie-Pie Day" or whatever the fuck its called is okay I think.
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Originally Posted by aktick View Post
I got buzzed pretty good on a blind date a few months back...it worked out ok for me. But I wouldn't recommend it, unless you're clearly really into each other.
which sounds like he was..but there were other issues why they can't act on feelings.

Oh she is muslim, is the family/religion situation the issue?

Oh and mhg: Don't ask for a kiss, if the date is going well enough, go in for the kiss (You gotta know what the vibe is). If she doesn't turn her head you are in business.

And she will be putting off clues/hints on how well the 'date' is going all night. If she starts to make physical contact, things are going well (playful punching of the arm) reciporicate that back if its comfortable enough

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ohhhhh so that's how you became gay
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Re: Dating advice needed (1st date in 4 1/2 years!)

Originally Posted by mosquitobite View Post

If you're not a beer type, order a Jack & Coke. Otherwise, just order water. There's nothing wrong with a guy who doesn't drink.
Is that the same as Rum & Coke? I really like that drink.

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Edit: Also, what's the reason you haven't dated for so long? Confidence? Work?
It's a confidence issue. I was doing great with dating up until my last girlfriend. She wanted to get married within a year and have kids with me. We were only going out for five months! she scared me away from dating.

This has been all great advice. Thanks guys!
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