Furniture given to me, now wanted back. Legal advice?
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Furniture given to me, now wanted back. Legal advice?
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Just to sum a long story short (and bolded for easy reading!) a relative moved in for a week to get away from her boyfriend who beat up her and her kid. We kicked her out the other night once we found out she went back to him and she only wanted to live at our house during the week so that she and the baby could live with the boyfriend on the weekends (even though it violates a court order she got for him to stay away from her and the baby). She didn't pay for a single thing while here, nor was money any requested. During the move of her stuff, she gave my wife and I her bed since it was relatively new and the 2nd bedroom she was staying in wasn't big enough for it (queen size bed). The bed had been abandoned at her parents house for over 30 days as they also kicked her out for having the abusive boyfriend on their property. IN front of the parents and friends who had come to help us move her she stated that it was ours. We then got rid of our old bed and have no way of getting it back.
Needless to say, she is very upset about getting kicked out and now is demanding her bed back. She also has left several other items at the house (such as a dresser, clothes and a baby's crib). Does she have any legal recourse to get her bed back? We want her to come and get her things at her convienence. She is demanding we take her things to a second location where she can pick them up without having to drive a half an hour. We have stated that we do not want to transport her property but that she is welcome to get it at a reasonable hour.
Also, some other bulleted points:
- the boyfriend not only beat her up, but her 7 month old child too. It's not the first time either...
- She did charge him with assault, which means he now has a rap sheet that includes 2 DUIs, 1 possession of cocaine, and now 2 assualt charges.
- We got a no trespass order against him the other night, as we told her that our house was a safe house and we didn't want him in our house, let alone know where we lived. That is now taken care of luckily.
Also, should I send her a certified, delivery receipt requested letter asking her to remove her stuff within 30 days (not including our bed of course)?
Just to sum a long story short (and bolded for easy reading!) a relative moved in for a week to get away from her boyfriend who beat up her and her kid. We kicked her out the other night once we found out she went back to him and she only wanted to live at our house during the week so that she and the baby could live with the boyfriend on the weekends (even though it violates a court order she got for him to stay away from her and the baby). She didn't pay for a single thing while here, nor was money any requested. During the move of her stuff, she gave my wife and I her bed since it was relatively new and the 2nd bedroom she was staying in wasn't big enough for it (queen size bed). The bed had been abandoned at her parents house for over 30 days as they also kicked her out for having the abusive boyfriend on their property. IN front of the parents and friends who had come to help us move her she stated that it was ours. We then got rid of our old bed and have no way of getting it back.
Needless to say, she is very upset about getting kicked out and now is demanding her bed back. She also has left several other items at the house (such as a dresser, clothes and a baby's crib). Does she have any legal recourse to get her bed back? We want her to come and get her things at her convienence. She is demanding we take her things to a second location where she can pick them up without having to drive a half an hour. We have stated that we do not want to transport her property but that she is welcome to get it at a reasonable hour.
Also, some other bulleted points:
- the boyfriend not only beat her up, but her 7 month old child too. It's not the first time either...
- She did charge him with assault, which means he now has a rap sheet that includes 2 DUIs, 1 possession of cocaine, and now 2 assualt charges.
- We got a no trespass order against him the other night, as we told her that our house was a safe house and we didn't want him in our house, let alone know where we lived. That is now taken care of luckily.

Also, should I send her a certified, delivery receipt requested letter asking her to remove her stuff within 30 days (not including our bed of course)?
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Relatives. Pee on her stuff and give it back. Dont know about the bed. I guess maybe you should have taken the circumstances into consideration before getting rid of your bed? I guess a certified, R/Reciept letter with 30 days notice would be fine, but do you think it will mean anything to her?
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Relatives. Pee on her stuff and give it back. Dont know about the bed. I guess maybe you should have taken the circumstances into consideration before getting rid of your bed? I guess a certified, R/Reciept letter with 30 days notice would be fine, but do you think it will mean anything to her?
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Child protective services is investigating. She brought her boyfriend to our house so we issued a no trespassing...the police had to come for that. They pulled him up on the restraining order while he was standing at her side and they said they wanted to be together so the police said there was nothing they could do. He's making nice so he doesn't get charged with 2 counts of assault and battery that he's out on bond for...and he doesn't want to pay child support. He told her he was going to change and that they'd settle everything out of court "like adults."
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Hey all -
Just to sum a long story short (and bolded for easy reading!) a relative moved in for a week to get away from her boyfriend who beat up her and her kid. We kicked her out the other night once we found out she went back to him and she only wanted to live at our house during the week so that she and the baby could live with the boyfriend on the weekends (even though it violates a court order she got for him to stay away from her and the baby). She didn't pay for a single thing while here, nor was money any requested. During the move of her stuff, she gave my wife and I her bed since it was relatively new and the 2nd bedroom she was staying in wasn't big enough for it (queen size bed). The bed had been abandoned at her parents house for over 30 days as they also kicked her out for having the abusive boyfriend on their property. IN front of the parents and friends who had come to help us move her she stated that it was ours. We then got rid of our old bed and have no way of getting it back.
Needless to say, she is very upset about getting kicked out and now is demanding her bed back. She also has left several other items at the house (such as a dresser, clothes and a baby's crib). Does she have any legal recourse to get her bed back? We want her to come and get her things at her convienence. She is demanding we take her things to a second location where she can pick them up without having to drive a half an hour. We have stated that we do not want to transport her property but that she is welcome to get it at a reasonable hour.
Also, some other bulleted points:
- the boyfriend not only beat her up, but her 7 month old child too. It's not the first time either...
- She did charge him with assault, which means he now has a rap sheet that includes 2 DUIs, 1 possession of cocaine, and now 2 assualt charges.
- We got a no trespass order against him the other night, as we told her that our house was a safe house and we didn't want him in our house, let alone know where we lived. That is now taken care of luckily.
Also, should I send her a certified, delivery receipt requested letter asking her to remove her stuff within 30 days (not including our bed of course)?
Just to sum a long story short (and bolded for easy reading!) a relative moved in for a week to get away from her boyfriend who beat up her and her kid. We kicked her out the other night once we found out she went back to him and she only wanted to live at our house during the week so that she and the baby could live with the boyfriend on the weekends (even though it violates a court order she got for him to stay away from her and the baby). She didn't pay for a single thing while here, nor was money any requested. During the move of her stuff, she gave my wife and I her bed since it was relatively new and the 2nd bedroom she was staying in wasn't big enough for it (queen size bed). The bed had been abandoned at her parents house for over 30 days as they also kicked her out for having the abusive boyfriend on their property. IN front of the parents and friends who had come to help us move her she stated that it was ours. We then got rid of our old bed and have no way of getting it back.
Needless to say, she is very upset about getting kicked out and now is demanding her bed back. She also has left several other items at the house (such as a dresser, clothes and a baby's crib). Does she have any legal recourse to get her bed back? We want her to come and get her things at her convienence. She is demanding we take her things to a second location where she can pick them up without having to drive a half an hour. We have stated that we do not want to transport her property but that she is welcome to get it at a reasonable hour.
Also, some other bulleted points:
- the boyfriend not only beat her up, but her 7 month old child too. It's not the first time either...
- She did charge him with assault, which means he now has a rap sheet that includes 2 DUIs, 1 possession of cocaine, and now 2 assualt charges.
- We got a no trespass order against him the other night, as we told her that our house was a safe house and we didn't want him in our house, let alone know where we lived. That is now taken care of luckily.

Also, should I send her a certified, delivery receipt requested letter asking her to remove her stuff within 30 days (not including our bed of course)?
Just give her back all of the stuff that she gave you (or left). Arrange to bring it to the 2nd location.... considering the type of people she associates with, I don't think you want her boyfriend or his friends coming to your place to pick the stuff up.
Discuss the date and time with her on the phone and follow it up with a letter.
In the long run, it will be well worth the time and effort to rid yourself of those things...and her.
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First I question the wisdom of taking someone into your home whose parents kicked out of their own home.
Just give her back all of the stuff that she gave you (or left). Arrange to bring it to the 2nd location.... considering the type of people she associates with, I don't think you want her boyfriend or his friends coming to your place to pick the stuff up.
Discuss the date and time with her on the phone and follow it up with a letter.
In the long run, it will be well worth the time and effort to rid yourself of those things...and her.
Just give her back all of the stuff that she gave you (or left). Arrange to bring it to the 2nd location.... considering the type of people she associates with, I don't think you want her boyfriend or his friends coming to your place to pick the stuff up.
Discuss the date and time with her on the phone and follow it up with a letter.
In the long run, it will be well worth the time and effort to rid yourself of those things...and her.
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First I question the wisdom of taking someone into your home whose parents kicked out of their own home.
Just give her back all of the stuff that she gave you (or left). Arrange to bring it to the 2nd location.... considering the type of people she associates with, I don't think you want her boyfriend or his friends coming to your place to pick the stuff up.
Discuss the date and time with her on the phone and follow it up with a letter.
In the long run, it will be well worth the time and effort to rid yourself of those things...and her.
Just give her back all of the stuff that she gave you (or left). Arrange to bring it to the 2nd location.... considering the type of people she associates with, I don't think you want her boyfriend or his friends coming to your place to pick the stuff up.
Discuss the date and time with her on the phone and follow it up with a letter.
In the long run, it will be well worth the time and effort to rid yourself of those things...and her.
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I wouldn't want any DNA that can be traced back to me on anything she owns.
Seconded in the strongest way possible. This is a situation where it doesn't pay to be cheap.
Arrange a time and place, tell her you're going to be firm about it, then rent a truck and take all of her shit, including the bad, to the designated drop-off point. Unload the truck even if she isn't there, and leave.
And if she ever had a key to your condo, change the locks.
Arrange a time and place, tell her you're going to be firm about it, then rent a truck and take all of her shit, including the bad, to the designated drop-off point. Unload the truck even if she isn't there, and leave.
And if she ever had a key to your condo, change the locks.
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I wouldn't want any DNA that can be traced back to me on anything she owns.
Seconded in the strongest way possible. This is a situation where it doesn't pay to be cheap.
Arrange a time and place, tell her you're going to be firm about it, then rent a truck and take all of her shit, including the bad, to the designated drop-off point. Unload the truck even if she isn't there, and leave.
And if she ever had a key to your condo, change the locks.
Seconded in the strongest way possible. This is a situation where it doesn't pay to be cheap.
Arrange a time and place, tell her you're going to be firm about it, then rent a truck and take all of her shit, including the bad, to the designated drop-off point. Unload the truck even if she isn't there, and leave.
And if she ever had a key to your condo, change the locks.
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Yep. My first thought was that the bed is yours, but these last few posts really make sense. This added point about CPS is a valid one, too.
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Child protective services is investigating. She brought her boyfriend to our house so we issued a no trespassing...the police had to come for that. They pulled him up on the restraining order while he was standing at her side and they said they wanted to be together so the police said there was nothing they could do.
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As others have stated - the bed is legally yours, but give it back anyway. You want to break all contact with these people. Chalk it up as the cost of learning a lesson.