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Is it possible to be in love with two people at the sametime?

Old 05-06-08, 03:10 AM
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Is it possible to be in love with two people at the sametime?

I've been in relationships before where I've had feelings for my gf as well as another girl. Just was wondering if it was lust or love? Although I didn't have a desire to pee in either ones butt
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Yes. Although I don't know if its possible to feel love as strong in two different people.
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I think so.
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Sure, you can love more than one person. But if taking that love to a physical level hurts one of the people you love and you do it anyway, you don't really love them.
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You absolutely can. Unfortunately they won't let you.
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Old 05-06-08, 08:35 AM
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Love is an abstract concept. It doesn't really mean anything.
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absolutely it is possible, my advice move to Utah and start a "family" there
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I don't know, I guess it depends on what one's definition of love is...
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Personally, I think you can have extended periods of lust with more than one person, but love, actual love... No, I don't think so.
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Theres a huge difference between love and infatuation.
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Originally Posted by Strafe
Love is an abstract concept. It doesn't really mean anything.
as are most emotions or feelings I guess
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Originally Posted by Strafe
Love is an abstract concept. It doesn't really mean anything.
Actually, sociophysicists at the University of Bern have studied the love constant and determined it to be 7.2049.

The researches are still trying to figure out in what units this was measured.
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Duh, it's time for a threeway!
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Originally Posted by Kittydreamer
Duh, it's time for a threeway!
Old 05-06-08, 11:21 AM
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I don't know, let me see





Most definitely!
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^Eva LaRue...interesting choice.
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What's funny is they both kind of look like the same person.
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In the words of my favorite (and America's best) writer:

"Love ain't nothing but sex misspelled."
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Sure. A lot of cultures allow for two wives. Our culture allows for a wife and a long-time mistress.
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Who says love is exclusive?
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Originally Posted by Nick Danger
Sure. A lot of cultures allow for two wives. Our culture allows for a wife and a long-time mistress.
Originally Posted by Mrs. Danger
Who says love is exclusive?
I don't think our culture allows for that. If it did, our divorce rate wouldn't be that high. Unless you and Mrs. Danger are secretly not American. It is funny that you guys posted right after each other.

If, by the actions you commit, you hurt someone you supposedly love, then that's not love. That's something else since you're acting in self-interest. My point is that you could love two people at the same time, but the likelihood of these people being OK with it is very low, and not the societal norm. This is assuming that you're ascribing to the theory that if you love someone, you try not to hurt their feelings. If the argument is that you can love someone and repeatedly hurt their feelings, then there's no common ground for the discussion.

So, in summary, swingers are OK. Affairs are, by their very definition, not. And if we're talking about "Can you be sexually attracted to two people at the same time?" I would say, "Only two?"
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Just stick to monogamy, even if it's serial monogamy. It's so much less stressful.
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Love? Sure.

"In love"? Nope.

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