NotThatGuy

Long story short, a woman who works in another department wants to go out to lunch. We met briefly at a work function, during this getting to know you activity. I found out later that she had been scoping me out and totally went out of her way to get paired up with me during an activity. I was pretty much setup.

She 'won' a GC to a local restaurant at the event (also a setup?), and now she wants to go out for lunch with me. I talked with her for no more than 2 minutes, but I got a vibe that something was up. I thought I avoided the drama, but as I was going to leave....some girl gave me a note from her. Evidently she had to leave for a meeting, but wanted me to have her number and call her, etc.

The unintended consequence of all this, is that some women I work with saw the entire thing, so when I ran into them later they were like, "Pedagogue has a g/f! Pedagogue has a g/f!" I am so not a fan of them right now.

Anyhow...how do I handle this? We don't necessarily work together at the moment, but I may be changing jobs/depts soon, and I am more likely to see her around a lot more....so I don't want to completely blow her off. I am not interested in her like that, and I don't want to give her the wrong idea. The good thing was that I got a number of good looks from some women at the event today, which confirmed my dapper fashion sense and 'good outfit' day.

Kittydreamer

Is she hittable? A hump and dump? We, of course, need pics.

The Bus

It's free lunch dude.

mbs

Do you work with teenagers?

Be glad you are not into her. That is always trouble, nailing people at the workplace. If you are not into her, tell her that. Maybe go to lunch first, just for the free lunch (and then you are not basing your rejection solely on looks -- or at least so she'll think).

NotThatGuy

hittable....not for me. She is an attractive girl, but just not my style.

Free lunch indeed....but is it worth some awkward conversation?

Pics....lol. I can't remember her name (it is something unique, as she is from abroad).

I feel like I work with teenagers....as they are a pack of gossiping and often innappropriate women who are incredibly clique-y and constantly backstab. It is a real fun dynamic....which is why I avoid them as much as possible.

I was thinking of going to lunch as a colleague thing, and then mentioning that I'm seeing someone. Heck, I can call the girl from about a week and a half ago that I'm been pseudo-dating, so it isn't really a lie. I'm also trying to set something else up with this college co-ed type, though that is TBD.

Artman

M/28/single....where are ya located?

Decadance

Its a free lunch, she wants to hump you, and shes foreign (hot accent and probably more sexually free than American chicks)....

Where is the downside to this again?

wishbone

So a rowboat will support her right?I found out a German exchange student kinda liked me my senoir year of high school. I was not that in to her but looking back it might have been fun to have at least entertained the idea of asking her out.

Pointyskull

Yep. At the "Y"....

wendersfan

Simple. Accept her invitation and then spend the entire meal talking about this great guy you just met.

melbatoast

Pedagogue has a girlfriend! Pedagogue has a girlfriend!

starseed1981

MWHAHAHAHHA!

bunkaroo

It's obvious your female co-workers resent you for being so unattainable and are trying to drag you down to their level. Don't let them win!

gilbertr76

You could try: "I'd love to go to lunch but don't want you to get the wrong idea as I am currently seeing someone."

You could also try peeing in her butt and simply roll with the aftermath.

Also keep in mind that suicide is always an option no matter what the situation in which you may find yourself.

John Galt

Any other coworkers you do want to nail? You could start going out to lunch with her in order to make them jealous.

The Bus

Do that, and you don't need to lie.

SuperJim88

You've been here long enough to know the rule. No pic, no advice.

Charlie Goose

Just hurl a beaker of acid in her face. You won't be tempted after that.

dieinafire

That got me.
Seriously though, I would just say you're seeing someone. Easy letdown.

Shilex

Simple solution: Quit your job. It's too stressful anyway.

Or you could just let her know you can't do lunch because you have prior engagements with your girlfriend/boyfriend/internet.

NotThatGuy

Stop it! Stop it! Stop it!



They are all bitter women....the kind that go, "Well this time next year I'll be curing cancer or something"....and then the next year they are stuck in the same dead-end job bitching.

See....it isn't lying, as that chick I've been going out with totally qualifies in my book, I mean.....I've seen her before, we've gone out a few times, etc.

"Sorry....my WoW Clan is having a raiding party with the Iron Death Fist Clan, and then we are going to all have virtual drinks and talk about our comic book collections.

D.Pham4GLTE (>60GB)

YAPT (Yet Another Peddy Thread)

4KRG

This one is easy, go out to lunch with her and explain that now you know her a little better that you are certain she would be a perfect match for a friend of yours to date. This makes it very clear that you are not interested, then you have to go talk to a friend of yours to take the bullet for you. The friend will have a much easier time walking away

The Bus

Yes but this thread is about girls and pedagogue's sober, so we have to treasure it like the small, delicate and rare jewel that it is.

Sean O'Hara

Women in other departments don't count as coworkers for the purposes of the Don't Date Coworkers rule.