Going Out With Co-Workers / Colleagues...Help!!
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Going Out With Co-Workers / Colleagues...Help!!
Long story short, a woman who works in another department wants to go out to lunch. We met briefly at a work function, during this getting to know you activity. I found out later that she had been scoping me out and totally went out of her way to get paired up with me during an activity. I was pretty much setup.
She 'won' a GC to a local restaurant at the event (also a setup?), and now she wants to go out for lunch with me. I talked with her for no more than 2 minutes, but I got a vibe that something was up. I thought I avoided the drama, but as I was going to leave....some girl gave me a note from her. Evidently she had to leave for a meeting, but wanted me to have her number and call her, etc.
The unintended consequence of all this, is that some women I work with saw the entire thing, so when I ran into them later they were like, "Pedagogue has a g/f! Pedagogue has a g/f!" I am so not a fan of them right now.
Anyhow...how do I handle this? We don't necessarily work together at the moment, but I may be changing jobs/depts soon, and I am more likely to see her around a lot more....so I don't want to completely blow her off. I am not interested in her like that, and I don't want to give her the wrong idea. The good thing was that I got a number of good looks from some women at the event today, which confirmed my dapper fashion sense and 'good outfit' day.
She 'won' a GC to a local restaurant at the event (also a setup?), and now she wants to go out for lunch with me. I talked with her for no more than 2 minutes, but I got a vibe that something was up. I thought I avoided the drama, but as I was going to leave....some girl gave me a note from her. Evidently she had to leave for a meeting, but wanted me to have her number and call her, etc.
The unintended consequence of all this, is that some women I work with saw the entire thing, so when I ran into them later they were like, "Pedagogue has a g/f! Pedagogue has a g/f!" I am so not a fan of them right now.
Anyhow...how do I handle this? We don't necessarily work together at the moment, but I may be changing jobs/depts soon, and I am more likely to see her around a lot more....so I don't want to completely blow her off. I am not interested in her like that, and I don't want to give her the wrong idea. The good thing was that I got a number of good looks from some women at the event today, which confirmed my dapper fashion sense and 'good outfit' day.

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some women I work with saw the entire thing, so when I ran into them later they were like, "Pedagogue has a g/f! Pedagogue has a g/f!"
Be glad you are not into her. That is always trouble, nailing people at the workplace. If you are not into her, tell her that. Maybe go to lunch first, just for the free lunch (and then you are not basing your rejection solely on looks -- or at least so she'll think).
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hittable....not for me. She is an attractive girl, but just not my style.
Free lunch indeed....but is it worth some awkward conversation?
Pics....lol. I can't remember her name (it is something unique, as she is from abroad).
I feel like I work with teenagers....as they are a pack of gossiping and often innappropriate women who are incredibly clique-y and constantly backstab. It is a real fun dynamic....which is why I avoid them as much as possible.
I was thinking of going to lunch as a colleague thing, and then mentioning that I'm seeing someone. Heck, I can call the girl from about a week and a half ago that I'm been pseudo-dating, so it isn't really a lie. I'm also trying to set something else up with this college co-ed type, though that is TBD.
Free lunch indeed....but is it worth some awkward conversation?
Pics....lol. I can't remember her name (it is something unique, as she is from abroad).
Originally Posted by mbs
Do you work with teenagers?
Be glad you are not into her. That is always trouble, nailing people at the workplace. If you are not into her, tell her that. Maybe go to lunch first, just for the free lunch (and then you are not basing your rejection solely on looks -- or at least so she'll think).
Be glad you are not into her. That is always trouble, nailing people at the workplace. If you are not into her, tell her that. Maybe go to lunch first, just for the free lunch (and then you are not basing your rejection solely on looks -- or at least so she'll think).
I was thinking of going to lunch as a colleague thing, and then mentioning that I'm seeing someone. Heck, I can call the girl from about a week and a half ago that I'm been pseudo-dating, so it isn't really a lie. I'm also trying to set something else up with this college co-ed type, though that is TBD.
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Its a free lunch, she wants to hump you, and shes foreign (hot accent and probably more sexually free than American chicks)....
Where is the downside to this again?
Where is the downside to this again?
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hittable....not for me. She is an attractive girl, but just not my style.
Phyllis: Michael?
Michael Scott: What.
Phyllis: I have a friend who's single.
Michael Scott: Oh.
Phyllis: Sandy. She gorgeous and she's got a feisty personality too.
Michael Scott: Hmmm feisty. So she's not jolly or sassy? Not like a jolly, sassy opera singer?
Phyllis: Mm no she's a professional softball player.
Michael Scott: Ewwooh... Catcher or in-field?
Phyllis: I donno Michael.
Michael Scott: Is she a dress wearer or a pants wearer? Could we share a rowboat? Could- could a rowboat support her?
Phyllis: What are you asking?
Michael Scott: I think I'm being very clear, what I'm asking. Would an average size rowboat support her without capsizing? [long pause] It bothers me that you're not answering the question.
Phyllis: No. Alright? No she can't fit on a rowboat.
Michael Scott: Yes! I knew it. I knew it! Phyllis, okay.
Michael Scott: What.
Phyllis: I have a friend who's single.
Michael Scott: Oh.
Phyllis: Sandy. She gorgeous and she's got a feisty personality too.
Michael Scott: Hmmm feisty. So she's not jolly or sassy? Not like a jolly, sassy opera singer?
Phyllis: Mm no she's a professional softball player.
Michael Scott: Ewwooh... Catcher or in-field?
Phyllis: I donno Michael.
Michael Scott: Is she a dress wearer or a pants wearer? Could we share a rowboat? Could- could a rowboat support her?
Phyllis: What are you asking?
Michael Scott: I think I'm being very clear, what I'm asking. Would an average size rowboat support her without capsizing? [long pause] It bothers me that you're not answering the question.
Phyllis: No. Alright? No she can't fit on a rowboat.
Michael Scott: Yes! I knew it. I knew it! Phyllis, okay.
Originally Posted by pedagogue
Pics....lol. I can't remember her name (it is something unique, as she is from abroad).

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Simple. Accept her invitation and then spend the entire meal talking about this great guy you just met.
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Originally Posted by wendersfan
Simple. Accept her invitation and then spend the entire meal talking about this great guy you just met.
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You could try: "I'd love to go to lunch but don't want you to get the wrong idea as I am currently seeing someone." 
You could also try peeing in her butt and simply roll with the aftermath.
Also keep in mind that suicide is always an option no matter what the situation in which you may find yourself.

You could also try peeing in her butt and simply roll with the aftermath.

Also keep in mind that suicide is always an option no matter what the situation in which you may find yourself.

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Originally Posted by gilbertr76
You could try: "I'd love to go to lunch but don't want you to get the wrong idea as I am currently fucking a lot of different girls. A lot of girls. Seriously. My belt has so many notches I've started carving into my flesh."
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Simple solution: Quit your job. It's too stressful anyway.
Or you could just let her know you can't do lunch because you have prior engagements with your girlfriend/boyfriend/internet.
Or you could just let her know you can't do lunch because you have prior engagements with your girlfriend/boyfriend/internet.
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Originally Posted by melbatoast
Pedagogue has a girlfriend! Pedagogue has a girlfriend!

Originally Posted by bunkaroo
It's obvious your female co-workers resent you for being so unattainable and are trying to drag you down to their level. Don't let them win!
Originally Posted by gilbertr76
You could try: "I'd love to go to lunch but don't want you to get the wrong idea as I am currently seeing someone." 

Originally Posted by Shilex
Or you could just let her know you can't do lunch because you have prior engagements with your girlfriend/boyfriend/internet.
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This one is easy, go out to lunch with her and explain that now you know her a little better that you are certain she would be a perfect match for a friend of yours to date. This makes it very clear that you are not interested, then you have to go talk to a friend of yours to take the bullet for you. The friend will have a much easier time walking away

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Originally Posted by pedagogue
Long story short, a woman who works in another department wants to go out to lunch.