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Old 04-17-08, 11:39 PM
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How do you react when a girl rejects you?

I have a friend who gets really pissed off when it happens. I have another friend who just says "you win some, you lose some", so I always thought it was funny that people get so pset over it. There's a lot of women on the planet so it shouldn't be that hard to find another one with similar interests.
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Not sure. Hasn't happened.

Actually, I remind myself of how much better I am than the girl, then I realize that's childish and untrue and I spend hours regretting not the rejection, but rather my own arrogance. Until I have a bottle of wine and I'm back to arrogance--then I regret all that past regretting. Repeat if necessary. Bipolarity adds much-needed excitement to life.
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I'm like "That's Un-possible!"
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"Whatever"....and then I go sleep with her friend. Seriously....all it takes is a couple times, and word will get out that you mean business. oh, and that you are the kind of guy that will sleep with a girl's friends. Don't worry....they like that, it brings the competition out. I mean, if you think about it....they are fighting for the chance to f' you. That my friend is a WIN/WIN!

The ones that suck are when you actually put forth effort and then get shot down. The solution is to put forth little to no effort, so if it doesn't work....no harm no foul. I've found showing just enough interest gets them on the hook, and then indifference and making it a challenge closes the deal. Unless of course you are drinking...and then I tell them I can lick my eye brows and make a damn good breakfast. Most of the girls go for the first part...though the ones who truly can't cook go for the second. If you can get the word out about both things....you'll be running your own F' and Eggs Inn.

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Not well. I lost a few lbs and didn't sleep much the following wk after the last one. Gave it my best and thought I'd done all the right things...but it wasn't good enough I guess.

I've actually never had a girl return my advances...wish I knew what that was like. I've pretty much gone thru all forms of rejection - the handwritten letter, the email, the unexpected "let's meet for coffee" (watch out for that one), the "sorry for the confusion" excuse, and then of course the "ignore until he goes away" approach. They all pretty much suck.

Well, thanks for cheering me up.... going downstairs to make a stiff drink. Seriously.


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"her loss" - and I sincerely believe that, as I think I bring more to the table than any girl that's ever rejected me - though I tend to do most of the rejecting.
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Originally Posted by Artman
thought I'd done all the right things...but it wasn't good enough I guess.
Unfortunately you can do everything right, and still have it not work.....and have it not be about you at all. When I was in college and much less calloused and cynical, I had a relationship not work out with a girl and I thought for quite awhile it was something I did....but found out months later it had nothing to do with me, so all of the second guessing and whatnot was just wasted energy on my part. I learned that I wasn't going to expend that kind of energy second-guessing and beating myself up over something that ultimately just wasn't going to work.

I got over it by screwing a few girls that I had wanted during the following weekends. Not ideal, but better than moping around. Now I just enjoy some wine, good food, and invite over someone fun to hang out with, as I don't have the energy to run around like that anymore.

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With joy.
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Originally Posted by Tracer Bullet
With joy.




Wait a minute...who's Joy?
Old 04-18-08, 08:47 AM
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Well when that happened to me 30 years ago, I went a found another girl.
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"Whatever"....and then I go sleep with her friend. Seriously....all it takes is a couple times, and word will get out that you mean business. oh, and that you are the kind of guy that will sleep with a girl's friends. Don't worry....they like that, it brings the competition out. I mean, if you think about it....they are fighting for the chance to f' you. That my friend is a WIN/WIN!
That, uh, doesn't always work out.
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Originally Posted by Tracer Bullet
With joy.

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Originally Posted by Tracer Bullet
With joy.
Oh snap!
Old 04-18-08, 09:30 AM
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Depends on the length of the relationship and how close we were. I've shrugged off women I've only dated once or thrice, but if it was a genuine relationship? Ouch.

I was dating two women at the same time once when I met a third woman who is now my fiancee. Both women were nice, but there really wasn't a "spark" there. We'd dated at least five times apiece, so I figured an email would be a good route to go, saying thank you but I'm not feeling the "spark" and good luck in your future. One was really sweet about it and said she agreed and good luck to me, too. The other? The one who strung me along with nice dinners and no kissing? She just emailed back, "FINE." Heh. Hope she liked those dinners. Either she really, really didn't know how to take rejection or Me = Chump (probably a combo of both).
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Originally Posted by dogmatica
I was dating two women at the same time once when I met a third woman who is now my fiancee. Both women were nice, but there really wasn't a "spark" there. We'd dated at least five times apiece, so I figured an email would be a good route to go, saying thank you but I'm not feeling the "spark" and good luck in your future. One was really sweet about it and said she agreed and good luck to me, too. The other? The one who strung me along with nice dinners and no kissing? She just emailed back, "FINE." Heh. Hope she liked those dinners. Either she really, really didn't know how to take rejection or Me = Chump (probably a combo of both).
Email is so gauche. I send texts: "sry g2g hav a gd lf lol"
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Put some more rohypnol in her drink...


Seriously.... when younger I would get all depressed and agonize about it. Thankfully I eventually had a revelation and realized, as others have, that there are plenty of other women out there.... and if you stop being a chumpy little bitch and just be indifferent they will be all over you.
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I usually quit trying to negotiate with them and just pay them what they asked for to begin with
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Nobody likes being rejected because it means the other person does not find you desirable. To them, you are deficient in some way. That's why people get upset. Nobody likes having their deficiencies thrown in their face. Even if the chick is nuts and you're not really deficient in some way, it "feels" that way, so that's why the sad/violent/evil reaction from guys.

When I was younger I'd get really upset, but now I'd probably shake it off. When my wife rejects me, I go upstairs and play video games. It's a win-win.
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Next time a woman rejects me, I'm gonna kick her in the nuts!

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