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Old 03-06-08, 12:06 PM
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Men who do housework may get more sex

*MAY*, so don't get too excited. I guess they put that because of me.

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NEW YORK - American men still don't pull their weight when it comes to housework and child care, but collectively they're not the slackers they used to be. The average dad has gradually been getting better about picking himself up off the sofa and pitching in, according to a new report in which a psychologist suggests the payoff for doing more chores could be more sex.
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The report, released Thursday by the Council on Contemporary Families, summarizes several recent studies on family dynamics. One found that men's contribution to housework had doubled over the past four decades; another found they tripled the time spent on child care over that span.

"More couples are sharing family tasks than ever before, and the movement toward sharing has been especially significant for full-time dual-earner couples," the report says. "Men and women may not be fully equal yet, but the rules of the game have been profoundly and irreversibly changed."

Some couples have forged partnerships they consider fully equitable.

"We'll both talk about how we're so lucky to have someone who does more than their share," said Mary Melchoir, a Washington-based fundraiser for the National Organization for Women, who like her lawyer husband works full-time while raising 6-year-old triplets.

"He's the one who makes breakfast and folds the laundry," said Melchoir, 47. "I'm the one who fixes things around the house."

Joshua Coleman, a San Francisco-area psychologist and author of "The Lazy Husband: How to Get Men to Do More Parenting and Housework," said equitable sharing of housework can lead to a happier marriage and more frequent sex.

"If a guy does housework, it looks to the woman like he really cares about her he's not treating her like a servant," said Coleman, who is affiliated with the Council on Contemporary Families. "And if a woman feels stressed out because the house is a mess and the guy's sitting on the couch while she's vacuuming, that's not going to put her in the mood."

The report's co-authors, sociologists Scott Coltrane of the University of California, Riverside and Oriel Sullivan of Ben Gurion University, said they were addressing a perception that women's gains in the workplace were not being matched by gains at home.

"The typical punch line of many news stories has been that even though women are working longer hours on the job and cutting back their own housework, men are not picking up the slack," Coltrane and Sullivan wrote.

They said this perception was based on unrealistic expectations and underestimated the degree of change "going on behind the scenes" since the 1960s. The change, they said, "is too great a break from the past to be dismissed as a slow and grudging evolution."

Among the findings they cited:

_In the U.S., time-use diary studies show that since the '60s, men's contribution to housework doubled from about 15 percent to more than 30 percent of the total. Over the same period, the average working mother reduced her weekly housework load by two hours.

_Between 1965 and 2003, men tripled the amount of time they spent on child care. During the same period, women also increased the time spent with their children, suggesting mutual interest in a more hands-on approach to child-raising.

Sullivan and Coltrane predict men's contributions will increase further as more women take jobs.

"Men share more family work if their female partners are employed more hours, earn more money and have spent more years in education," they said.

Pamela Smock, a University of Michigan sociologist who also works with the council, said a persistent gender gap remains for what she called "invisible" household work scheduling children's medical appointments, buying the gifts they take to birthday parties, arranging holiday gatherings, for example.

Marriage equality is more elusive among blacks than whites, with black women shouldering a relatively higher burden in terms of child care and housework, said council collaborator Shirley Hill, a sociology professor at the University of Kansas.

The report's overall findings meshed with what Carol Evans, founder and CEO of Working Mother magazine, has been observing as she tracks America's two-income couples.

"There's a generational shift that's quite strong," she said. "The younger set of dads have their own expectations about themselves as to being helpful and participatory. They haven't quite gotten to equality in any sense that a women would say, 'Wow, that's equal,' but they've gotten so much farther down the road."
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Both of the previous posts are false.


... at least as far as I am concerned.
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When I help with housework, the wifey feels guilty. Therefore ≠ More sex.

When I don't help with housework, the wifey tries to make me feel guilty. Therefore ≠ More sex.

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The trick to this is that you have to not do housework. If you're constantly doing housework, it'll be expected. But if you never pick up your dirty socks or cook a meal or sweep the floor... when you do suddenly take out the trash, your wife will be so shocked and grateful that she'll probably drop to her knees and blow you right there.

Yeah, that's the plan, all right. I just want to know why someone didn't tell me about it ten years ago!!!

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Damn, I thought the title said "homework"

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I let the gf do my housework, then I give her more sex!
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Originally Posted by jonw9
Damn, I thought the title said "homework"

Nevermind,
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My wife takes care of most of the housework, but when I do pitch in it actually does turn her on. Now I can send her this article to validate it a bit.
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Don't one third of pornos start off with housework?
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Does it clarify that this is sex with a woman they're talking about?
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Originally Posted by SoSpacey
My wife takes care of most of the housework, but when I do pitch in it actually does turn her on. Now I can send her this article to validate it a bit.
DON'T LET HER SEE THE ARTICLE!

Once she's seen it, anytime you pitch in around the house she'll just accuse you of trying to get sex, and you'll get screwed by not getting screwed.

Remember: As men our true intentions are meaningless in the minds of women. A women's reality is dependant on her perception of intentions, and her perception will be swayed by her mood. Therefore, women's perceptions are like snowflakes!

DISCLAIMER: Not ALL women fall into the above category. At the same time some men do fall into the above category. There are always exceptions to every rule.

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Men who do housework may get more sex

So gay guys get all the sex?
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Originally Posted by gilbertr76
DON'T LET HER SEE THE ARTICLE!

Once she's seen it, anytime you pitch in around the house she'll just accuse you of trying to get sex, and you'll get screwed by not getting screwed.

Remember: As men our true intentions are meaningless in the minds of women. A women's reality is dependant on her perception of intentions, and her perception will be swayed by her mood. Therefore, women's perceptions are like snowflakes!

DISCLAIMER: Not ALL women fall into the above category. At the same time some men do fall into the above category. There all always exceptions to every rule.


Nah. My wife would love that. If it was up to her she'd be on her back more than her feet.
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Nah. My wife would love that. If it was up to her she'd be on her back more than her feet.
You are a lucky man!
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It might mean more sex but I'm not taking any chances.
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Egads, the crap they put on the internet. I remember showing my wife an article that said her chanced of getting pregnant were better if it were a threesome, though. I had it written, of course, but this sounds like the same thing.
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Egads, the crap they put on the internet. I remember showing my wife an article that said her chanced of getting pregnant were better if it were a threesome, though. I had it written, of course, but this sounds like the same thing.
Honey, the internets said so; that's why we have the industrial-sized vat of lube -- to minimize the chafing.
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Why would I spend three minutes doing housework for 40 seconds of sex.
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I do housework, but I live with my mom and sister and since I don't live in West Virginia or Arkansas, I don't think I'll be getting any.
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I do housework, but I live with my mom and sister and since I don't live in West Virginia or Arkansas, I don't think I'll be getting any.
Let's hope not.
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