Restaurant Seating: Side by Side OR Across?
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Restaurant Seating: Side by Side OR Across?
In the Dating Etiquette thread, there's a discussion about restaurant seating.
Two people on a 'date' .. is it weird to sit on the same side of the table?
I think it is weird.. it look likes you're waiting for another couple to come and they stood you up.
Also, I like looking at someone when I'm talking to them.
Help enlighten me: Is it just me or is it weird when two people sit on the same side?
Two people on a 'date' .. is it weird to sit on the same side of the table?
I think it is weird.. it look likes you're waiting for another couple to come and they stood you up.

Also, I like looking at someone when I'm talking to them.
Help enlighten me: Is it just me or is it weird when two people sit on the same side?
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Okay this thread is obviously my fault! 
As I said there, I find it more intimate. I don't have a problem looking at the girl when I speak to her. I also find it easier to hear the in a noisy restaurant. Every girl I have dated seems to like it. Even first dates. Of course 75% of my first dates in the past 10 years have been met first online and that already makes a person more comfortable to try something like this.
Now guy friends I wouldn't do this with, but I will sit next to them at a table instead of across sometimes.

As I said there, I find it more intimate. I don't have a problem looking at the girl when I speak to her. I also find it easier to hear the in a noisy restaurant. Every girl I have dated seems to like it. Even first dates. Of course 75% of my first dates in the past 10 years have been met first online and that already makes a person more comfortable to try something like this.
Now guy friends I wouldn't do this with, but I will sit next to them at a table instead of across sometimes.
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The last date I had, the guy had such terrible table manners I found myself wishing he was at another TABLE, if not another restaurant preferably in another STATE.
He shoveled food in his mouth as if he'd just been released from Auschwitz and sprayed bread crumbs all over the table because he talked with his mouth half full. Ugh.

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SUSAN: Hey, Jerry!
JERRY: Oh, hi Susan, George. You remember Sheila.
GEORGE: Oh, yes. Hello.
SHEILA: Hello. Won't you join us?
GEORGE: No, thanks.
SUSAN: Of course.
GEORGE: Yes. Well -- So, uh, sit on the same side at a booth, huh?
JERRY: Yeah. That's right. You got a problem?
GEORGE: I, uh, just think it's a little unusual. Two people to sit on one side...and leave the other side empty.
JERRY: Well, we're changing the rules.
GEORGE: Ahh. Good for you.
SUSAN: Aw, what are you getting George?
GEORGE: I don't know, honey. What do you want to get? [in babying voice] I want you to get anything you want...'cause I love you so much. I want you to be happy. Okay, sweetie?
SUSAN: Oh, George, you're so sweet.
GEORGE: Well, I could be a little sweetie tweetie weetie weetie.
SUSAN: Aww!
JERRY: What about you, shmoopy? How 'bout a little tuna? You want a little tuna fishy?
SHEILA: Yeah.
JERRY: Yum yum little tuna fishy?
GEORGE: Come here.
[George & Susan begin making out; Jerry & Sheila begin making out in order to keep up]
JERRY: Oh, hi Susan, George. You remember Sheila.
GEORGE: Oh, yes. Hello.
SHEILA: Hello. Won't you join us?
GEORGE: No, thanks.
SUSAN: Of course.
GEORGE: Yes. Well -- So, uh, sit on the same side at a booth, huh?
JERRY: Yeah. That's right. You got a problem?
GEORGE: I, uh, just think it's a little unusual. Two people to sit on one side...and leave the other side empty.
JERRY: Well, we're changing the rules.
GEORGE: Ahh. Good for you.
SUSAN: Aw, what are you getting George?
GEORGE: I don't know, honey. What do you want to get? [in babying voice] I want you to get anything you want...'cause I love you so much. I want you to be happy. Okay, sweetie?
SUSAN: Oh, George, you're so sweet.
GEORGE: Well, I could be a little sweetie tweetie weetie weetie.
SUSAN: Aww!
JERRY: What about you, shmoopy? How 'bout a little tuna? You want a little tuna fishy?
SHEILA: Yeah.
JERRY: Yum yum little tuna fishy?
GEORGE: Come here.
[George & Susan begin making out; Jerry & Sheila begin making out in order to keep up]
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Definitely across for me. I don't care what kind of dynamic you're going for, I'm a firm believer that dinner is NOT the time to force intimacy....but that's just me.
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Originally Posted by MWB
SUSAN: Hey, Jerry!
JERRY: Oh, hi Susan, George. You remember Sheila.
GEORGE: Oh, yes. Hello.
SHEILA: Hello. Won't you join us?
GEORGE: No, thanks.
SUSAN: Of course.
GEORGE: Yes. Well -- So, uh, sit on the same side at a booth, huh?
JERRY: Yeah. That's right. You got a problem?
GEORGE: I, uh, just think it's a little unusual. Two people to sit on one side...and leave the other side empty.
JERRY: Well, we're changing the rules.
GEORGE: Ahh. Good for you.
SUSAN: Aw, what are you getting George?
GEORGE: I don't know, honey. What do you want to get? [in babying voice] I want you to get anything you want...'cause I love you so much. I want you to be happy. Okay, sweetie?
SUSAN: Oh, George, you're so sweet.
GEORGE: Well, I could be a little sweetie tweetie weetie weetie.
SUSAN: Aww!
JERRY: What about you, shmoopy? How 'bout a little tuna? You want a little tuna fishy?
SHEILA: Yeah.
JERRY: Yum yum little tuna fishy?
GEORGE: Come here.
[George & Susan begin making out; Jerry & Sheila begin making out in order to keep up]
JERRY: Oh, hi Susan, George. You remember Sheila.
GEORGE: Oh, yes. Hello.
SHEILA: Hello. Won't you join us?
GEORGE: No, thanks.
SUSAN: Of course.
GEORGE: Yes. Well -- So, uh, sit on the same side at a booth, huh?
JERRY: Yeah. That's right. You got a problem?
GEORGE: I, uh, just think it's a little unusual. Two people to sit on one side...and leave the other side empty.
JERRY: Well, we're changing the rules.
GEORGE: Ahh. Good for you.
SUSAN: Aw, what are you getting George?
GEORGE: I don't know, honey. What do you want to get? [in babying voice] I want you to get anything you want...'cause I love you so much. I want you to be happy. Okay, sweetie?
SUSAN: Oh, George, you're so sweet.
GEORGE: Well, I could be a little sweetie tweetie weetie weetie.
SUSAN: Aww!
JERRY: What about you, shmoopy? How 'bout a little tuna? You want a little tuna fishy?
SHEILA: Yeah.
JERRY: Yum yum little tuna fishy?
GEORGE: Come here.
[George & Susan begin making out; Jerry & Sheila begin making out in order to keep up]
See!! Even George thinks it's weird!! :

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Originally Posted by Vibiana
The last date I had, the guy had such terrible table manners I found myself wishing he was at another TABLE, if not another restaurant preferably in another STATE.
He shoveled food in his mouth as if he'd just been released from Auschwitz and sprayed bread crumbs all over the table because he talked with his mouth half full. Ugh.

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Originally Posted by Vibiana
He shoveled food in his mouth as if he'd just been released from Auschwitz and sprayed bread crumbs all over the table because he talked with his mouth half full. Ugh.
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Definately across.
If you want to see someone crash and burn when sitting "side by side," check out that scene from Fargo where Marge meets up for a little get together with her old classmate Mike (the Asian guy), and he tries to sit next to her in the booth.
If you want to see someone crash and burn when sitting "side by side," check out that scene from Fargo where Marge meets up for a little get together with her old classmate Mike (the Asian guy), and he tries to sit next to her in the booth.
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Originally Posted by antennaball
Definitely across for me. I don't care what kind of dynamic you're going for, I'm a firm believer that dinner is NOT the time to force intimacy....but that's just me.
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My wife and I make fun of couples that sit side by side.
When I go out to eat with someone, I want to talk to them. Not turning my head every 5 seconds to see if they are listening.
When I go out to eat with someone, I want to talk to them. Not turning my head every 5 seconds to see if they are listening.
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Originally Posted by Dave7393
Definately across.
If you want to see someone crash and burn when sitting "side by side," check out that scene from Fargo where Marge meets up for a little get together with her old classmate Mike (the Asian guy), and he tries to sit next to her in the booth.
If you want to see someone crash and burn when sitting "side by side," check out that scene from Fargo where Marge meets up for a little get together with her old classmate Mike (the Asian guy), and he tries to sit next to her in the booth.

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Originally Posted by Charlie Goose
Back to back.
Personally, if there are just 2 of us, it would definitely be across for me.