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Old 01-19-08, 03:23 PM
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I'm 27 and want to find my dad, possible?

So 28 years ago my mom got knocked up and my dad took off. I've never met him, or for that matter seen a picture. Basically all I know about him it his name. So is it possible to find someone after so long and with so little information. Does anyone have any tip for doing so?
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How much information can your mom give? That is IF she does....
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If in 28 years he's never made an effort to find YOU, then I think you are better off without him.
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Try peoplefinder.com first. If he doesn't have a common name you might have some luck there. It does list approximate ages as wll.
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Originally Posted by TallGuyMe
If in 28 years he's never made an effort to find YOU, then I think you are better off without him.

I agree with this. Of course I'm biased, since haven't spoken to my dad since I was 27
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Originally Posted by TallGuyMe
If in 28 years he's never made an effort to find YOU, then I think you are better off without him.
How do you know he hasn't tried? Possibly he tried early on but his mom blocked any possible contact and moved away. Maybe he thinks his son wouldn't want to see him.

Maybe the dad didn't even know she got pregnant. All the OP knows is his mom's side. She could've been embarrassed over a one-night-stand and covered it by saying he took off on them. Who knows.

There's all kinds of possible scenarios. I think he should go for it. Sure, there's that chance that things may go wrong but at least he'll know and deal with it. On the bright side, there's always the chance it could be a wonderful reunion and they'll have many years knowing each other.
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Originally Posted by Rockmjd23
Maury Povich is his father?
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I can't understand what it is like, but I still want to know why. I recognize that may sound stupid, but I am trying to understand.
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Do you know your grandparents or anyone on his side of the family? Do you still live in the city your parents "Created" you? I've never met my dad, but fortunately, if I ever wanted to, my older sister sees him and knows where his parents live. I'm sure 27 years later your dad may have grown up and wants to find you, too. That's how it is in the movies, right? Anyway, I found my God Mother using Google this past Thursday. Just typed her name and city in and voila! My grandmother found her daughter she gave up for adoption many moons before she found her. I dont know how so thats useless information. But it goes to show its possible.
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I was in the same boat at age 21 and after some research found out that he had died in a car accident when I was 13. Talk about a weird feeling. Be prepared to not like what you find out.
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Originally Posted by NORML54601
So 28 years ago my mom got knocked up and my dad took off. I've never met him, or for that matter seen a picture. Basically all I know about him it his name. So is it possible to find someone after so long and with so little information. Does anyone have any tip for doing so?
Start with your mother. Best friends who knew your mother.
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I'm guessing you could go about it the same way some people look for parents who put them up for adoption. There are a few Internet forums about that, just google it and I'm sure you'll find help.

Also:
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you...l_you_anything

Good luck!
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I believe there is no statute of limitations on child support, only reason Id want to find my father since he never paid a dime.
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Originally Posted by Jacoby Ellsbury
I believe there is no statute of limitations on child support, only reason Id want to find my father since he never paid a dime.
um, sorry, but I think it's 18.
Old 01-19-08, 08:27 PM
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Originally Posted by TallGuyMe
um, sorry, but I think it's 18.
Negative. In most cases, past support can be collected even after the child is over 18. New costs stop accumulating, but it doesn't wipe out the prior 18 years of being a total fucking loser.
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let it go son.....
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Originally Posted by tommy28
let it go son.....

Found him - that was easy!
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My dad found his father when he was in his 40's. I think an organization like Blue Cross or something found him for him. Turned out his actual father was killed a week before he found him (mugged on subway) but he found a brother and two sisters we had no idea about. They have a relationship to this day!
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Regardless of the relationship situation, it would probably be a good idea to get some idea of his family's medical history if he's willing.
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Originally Posted by emanon
Found him - that was easy!

Nice.
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well, with a full name and age, you could probably narrow it down pretty well, depending on how common the name is.

try something like http://www.zabasearch.com/ it has some free results and also options to pay for more detailed background info. From what I've heard and read, you can get some pretty detailed info, although I've never checked to see what they have on me. I entered my name and they have my address and phone number.
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antennaball knows whats up, tallguyme not so much
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I wish you the best of luck in your search and hope you can find your father.

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