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How Do You Decide Who To Marry?

I'll start this discussion off with something that was sent to me (I've seen a similar collection of quotes, but these in particular were new to me)

From my friend and teacher Becky...enjoy

HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHO TO MARRY? (written by kids)

You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the chips and dip coming.
-- Alan, age 10

No person really decides before they grow up who they're going to marry. God decides it all way before, and you get to find out later who you're stuck with.
-- Kristen, age 10

WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE TO GET MARRIED?
Twenty-three is the best age because you know the person FOREVER by then.
-- Camille, age 10

HOW CAN A STRANGER TELL IF TWO PEOPLE ARE MARRIED?
You might have to guess, based on whether they seem to be yelling at the same kids.
-- Derrick, age 8

WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR MOM AND DAD HAVE IN COMMON?
Both don't want any more kids.
-- Lori, age 8

WHAT DO MOST PEOPLE DO ON A DATE?
Dates are for having fun, and people should use them to get to know each other. Even boys have something to say if you listen long enough.
-- Lynnette, age 8 (isn't she a treasure)

On the first date, they just tell each other lies and that Usually gets them interested enough to go for a second date.
-- Martin, age 10 <--my favorite one

WHAT WOULD YOU DO ON A FIRST DATE THAT WAS TURNING SOUR?
I'd run home and play dead. The next day I would call all the newspapers and make sure they wrote about me in all the dead columns.
-- Craig, age 9

WHEN IS IT OKAY TO KISS SOMEONE?
When they're rich.
-- Pam, age 7

The law says you have to be eighteen, so I wouldn't want to mess with that.
- - Curt, age 7

The rule goes like this: If you kiss someone, then you should marry them and have kids with them. It's the right thing to do.
-- Howard, age 8

IS IT BETTER TO BE SINGLE OR MARRIED?
It's better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need someone to clean up after them.
-- Anita, age 9 (bless you child)

HOW WOULD THE WORLD BE DIFFERENT IF PEOPLE DIDN'T GET MARRIED?
There sure would be a lot of kids to explain, wouldn't there?
-- Kelvin, age 8

And the #1 Favorite is........
HOW WOULD YOU MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK?
Tell your wife that she looks pretty, even if she looks like a truck.
-- Ricky, age 10
How would you answer one or more of these questions?

1. HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHO TO MARRY?

2. WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE TO GET MARRIED?

3. HOW CAN A STRANGER TELL IF TWO PEOPLE ARE MARRIED?

4. WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR MOM AND DAD HAVE IN COMMON?

5. WHAT DO MOST PEOPLE DO ON A DATE?

6. WHAT WOULD YOU DO ON A FIRST DATE THAT WAS TURNING SOUR?

7. WHEN IS IT OKAY TO KISS SOMEONE?

8. IS IT BETTER TO BE SINGLE OR MARRIED?

9. HOW WOULD THE WORLD BE DIFFERENT IF PEOPLE DIDN'T GET MARRIED?

10. HOW WOULD YOU MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK?

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I'll take number 10: My marriage works because my husband and I are yin and yang to each other. We have enough in common to make it work but it's our differences that really make our marriage shine.
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Speaking of kids answers... one of my sons is in kindergarten and was preparing a family profile for display on the outside of the classroom. On it was written that his mother (my wife) doesn't like snakes. She is fine with snakes, no disklikes. So my wife asked the teacher what that was about - turns out that he had originally said that the one thing his mother didn't like was his grandmother (my wife's mother-in-law, my mom), the teacher thought that it would be better just to say that she didn't like snakes.
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This reminds me of Kindergarten Cop....there was one scene where kids said random stuff. Good times!

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Originally Posted by pedagogue
6. WHAT WOULD YOU DO ON A FIRST DATE THAT WAS TURNING SOUR?
Take pictures, pee in her butt, and run home to tell all of you about it.

That sounds about right. Lump sum.
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1. HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHO TO MARRY?

Will she sleep with me on a semi-regular basis? Yes? Good enough!

2. WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE TO GET MARRIED?

Clearly it's the Cenozoic.

3. HOW CAN A STRANGER TELL IF TWO PEOPLE ARE MARRIED?

Follow them to their car, get their plates, and have a friend at the State's Attorney's office run their records.

4. WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR MOM AND DAD HAVE IN COMMON?

They both have me as a kid.

5. WHAT DO MOST PEOPLE DO ON A DATE?

Judge.

6. WHAT WOULD YOU DO ON A FIRST DATE THAT WAS TURNING SOUR?

Administer the chloroform.

7. WHEN IS IT OKAY TO KISS SOMEONE?

Immediately thereafter (allow for evaporation).

8. IS IT BETTER TO BE SINGLE OR MARRIED?

Yes. It sure is.

9. HOW WOULD THE WORLD BE DIFFERENT IF PEOPLE DIDN'T GET MARRIED?

Not a damn bit.

10. HOW WOULD YOU MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK?

By not getting divorced.
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1. HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHO TO MARRY? when i cant imagine living life without them and they (sorry to be jerry mcguire here) really do complete me and my life

2. WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE TO GET MARRIED? once you know (not THINK you know) who you are. for me, it was around age 28 or so

3. HOW CAN A STRANGER TELL IF TWO PEOPLE ARE MARRIED? sadly, unless they are in the honeymoon phase, a lot of times you cant tell if 2 people are married--they look more like family members than spouses

4. WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR MOM AND DAD HAVE IN COMMON? ugh, after 37 years of marrige, not much more than kids and grandkids

5. WHAT DO MOST PEOPLE DO ON A DATE? i would say eat/drink as a #1 answer for date activity. as for what they really do, they size eachother up and put them in a category for future use.

6. WHAT WOULD YOU DO ON A FIRST DATE THAT WAS TURNING SOUR? end it as quick as possible w/o being rude. usually state how tired i am and that i am going to bed early. as a rule, i ALWAYS bring my car to a 1st date so i can have an escape route if needed.

7. WHEN IS IT OKAY TO KISS SOMEONE? depends on what a kiss means to you. for me, its ok to kiss whenever the hell you feel like it unless you want the kiss to be more meaningful

8. IS IT BETTER TO BE SINGLE OR MARRIED? depends on the stage of life you are in and your spouse. 4 years ago, i couldnt imagine myself being married. now i cant imagine myself NOT being married

9. HOW WOULD THE WORLD BE DIFFERENT IF PEOPLE DIDN'T GET MARRIED? religious zelots would probably spend more time complaining about heterosexual couples and leave gay people alone

10. HOW WOULD YOU MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK? trying to keep it from reaching a point where it needs a lot of work. keep things fresh, exciting, new, still have sex, keep yourself attractive, respect your spouse and love them forever, for better for worse, etc. like the vows state. ask me this again in 5, 10, and 20 years to see how far off i am
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Marry someone with knowledge of the proper who/whom usage, then at least one of you will know.
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My favorite

WHEN IS THE BEST TIME TO BEGIN DOING ANAL?
After your wife takes a poopie or when she is sleeping.
-- Tyler, age 10
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1. HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHO TO MARRY?

Does he have cool toys?

2. WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE TO GET MARRIED?

He should be old enough to drive.

3. HOW CAN A STRANGER TELL IF TWO PEOPLE ARE MARRIED?

They finish each other's sentences.

4. WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR MOM AND DAD HAVE IN COMMON?

Immaturity

5. WHAT DO MOST PEOPLE DO ON A DATE?

Try to read each other's mind, instead of just telling each other what they like.

6. WHAT WOULD YOU DO ON A FIRST DATE THAT WAS TURNING SOUR?

I stuck around long enough to get him to pay for dinner, then said I was sick, and went home. I was polite enough to not say I was sick of him.

7. WHEN IS IT OKAY TO KISS SOMEONE?

If they don't have pins in their mouth.

8. IS IT BETTER TO BE SINGLE OR MARRIED?

Married, if you can add on more when needed.

9. HOW WOULD THE WORLD BE DIFFERENT IF PEOPLE DIDN'T GET MARRIED?

Heck of a lot more paperwork.

10. HOW WOULD YOU MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK?

Communicate! communicate. and communicate.
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The law says you have to be eighteen, so I wouldn't want to mess with that.
- - Curt, age 7
Hi, I'm Chris Hanson

Now that I think about it, this is the wrong thread for me right now, better go read poop confessions instead.
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Originally Posted by Mrs. Danger
3. HOW CAN A STRANGER TELL IF TWO PEOPLE ARE MARRIED?

They finish each other's sentences.
That is marriage...that is just creepy!!

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How do I decide who to marry? Easy. I just shut my eyes and point.
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How Do You Decide Who To Marry?

I am married and I have no idea

Blind luck?

You can sort of know a person at a particular point in time, but you can never really know how exactly people are going to be 20-30 years down the road.

If you meet an SO when you are 18, get married at 22, that person is going to change a lot by the time they are 40-50.

Maybe that is why more people are waiting until later in life to get married. If you meet someone at 40, chances are they will be closer to the same person at 60.



Sign a prenup or marry an SO that makes twice what you do, that would be my advice
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Interesting that peddy was the one to bring this thread up. Perhaps he's met that special someone and has a bit of a twinkle in his eye. Out psych the psychologist I say.

Has peddy met Miss Right, instead of his usual Miss Right Now? You be the judge.
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This is my favorite:
HOW CAN A STRANGER TELL IF TWO PEOPLE ARE MARRIED?
You might have to guess, based on whether they seem to be yelling at the same kids.
-- Derrick, age 8
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Originally Posted by 4KRG
Maybe that is why more people are waiting until later in life to get married. If you meet someone at 40, chances are they will be closer to the same person at 60.
Who waits until 40?
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Originally Posted by VinVega
Interesting that peddy was the one to bring this thread up. Perhaps he's met that special someone and has a bit of a twinkle in his eye. Out psych the psychologist I say.

Has peddy met Miss Right, instead of his usual Miss Right Now? You be the judge.
I'm sure my mom would love that!



It was posted on MySpace, and I thought it was amusing....and ironic, being that I could post it here. I have no problem with marriage, I just have a problem finding marry-able people! I'd love a young, rich, and talented heiress....who wants to marry a doctor, but not make him actually work.

I'm still taking applications for Miss Right Now, it is a competitive process....but it offers a world of benefits!

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Originally Posted by The Bus
Who waits until 40?
I know a lot. Maybe it's a regional thing?


Who the hell gets married at 18 anymore?

I waited until I was 28.

My sister got married at 18, but that was really her just trying to find someone to pay her bills when dad kicked her out

I know a few people in their 50's getting married for the first time (and second time).

I know one married couple where the woman is 53, the man is 62, and they have a 6 year old daughter

One of my employees got married at 40, had his first kid at age 44 and is looking to have a second. Another got married at 38 and is banged out two kids in the following 2 years

From meeting people at my daughters elementary school, it seems that the majority of folks got married in the late 30's and beyond.

I would imagine in the south, it's a different story.
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I'm not advocating marriage in your early 20's, but waiting until 40 seems like a bad idea as well. You want your 20s to be free of worries but I don't want to be near (or at, or past) retirement with kids about to go to college.

My plan is to adopt a 12-year old once I'm 40. By the time I'm 46, they can move out!

A lot of friends have already gotten married. At this point it is past the point of novelty.
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If you want to read some intersting research on marriage and divorce, look up James Bray. Most of his work is in the area of divorce, but obviously it effects marriage rates, etc. I think the accepted rate for 1st marriages now is 26 and 28 respectively (rounded numbers...i think for men it was 27.XX). You don't want to know the rates for 2nd, 3rd, 4th marriages. Also, extended engagements, I think 2.5 years and over.....OUCH. Co-habitation before....ouch (I believe because many people get forced into marriage....as a 'next step' after moving in together).

So yeah...research is fun.

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Originally Posted by The Bus
Who waits until 40?
I'm 38 and I don't feel marriage is mandatory for me at all. I could see getting married if I meet someone I am head over heels for and she feels the same ...for twenty years in a row. Then I'd consider it.
I've been in those kind of relatiionships before before and they were amazing. However they all have something in common. They are over.
It might have been the ages those happened at or it might just be the way things will always turn out. I'm not at all unhappy about it and I'm accutely aware of my freedoms.

Don't even get me started on having kids.
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She said we either had to get married or break up, so we got married. I picked the wrong door on that deal Monty.
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