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How would you feel about this? Drunk driver donation situation, with a small twist?

Old 08-24-06, 12:19 PM
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How would you feel about this? Drunk driver donation situation, with a small twist?

Went to the store for lunch just now and noticed a jug on the counter for the 2nd annual fundraiser for a person I knew who died in an accident a little over a year ago. On the jug was the usual "He was taken away too early from his daughter" which I have no problem with. Then below it was the statement, "He was killed by a drunk driver."

Here's the real story. Him and his buddy were both piss drunk and his buddy was driving. They were in a single car accident and the one guy died.

Don't get me wrong. It sucks that he died but the way it's setup is almost deceiving. Technically he was killed by a drunk driver but it just hit me kind of weird because I knew what really happened. He wasn't hit by a drunk driver and killed. He made a choice to ride with a drunk driver and played the game. Unfortunately he lost. I can understand asking for donations when it happened. But again a year later? I dunno, I guess it just hit me the wrong way.

What do you all think?

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Old 08-24-06, 12:26 PM
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It does seem a little misleading, but all I can fixate on is a daughter growing up without her father, and that perhaps money is tight (which would explain why the need to raise money). But this is all based on me assuming (and we all know what happens when we do that) there's a little girl and a widowed mom struggling to make ends meet because the breadwinner's dead.

The guy made a bad decision - we've all made some - and he paid the price, but his family has to live with it.

Throw something in the jar and hope that it gets put to good use. Especially since you knew him. Or better yet, send something directly to the family if the whole jar thing makes you suspicious.

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Old 08-24-06, 12:29 PM
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Originally Posted by 12thmonkey
It does seem a little misleading, but all I can fixate on is a daughter growing up without a her father, and that perhaps money is tight (which would explain why the need to raise money). The guy made a bad decision - we've all made some - and he paid the price, but his family has to live with it.

Throw something in the jar and hope that it gets put to good use. Especially since you knew him.
I have to agree. The system they're using is kind of misleading but I couldn't imagine leaving my son.
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Yeah I would have left the "killed by a drunk driver" out.
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That is a little strange.

By those rules, if I tried to carjack a drunk and they pulled out a gun and shot me, my family could also say that I was "tragically killed by a drunk driver."
Old 08-24-06, 01:02 PM
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Here's the real story. Him and his buddy were both piss drunk and his buddy was driving. They were in a single car accident and the one guy died
I dont mean to be cruel but technically and in every other respect he was killed by a drunk driver. Being too drunk to know not to ride with him is another matter.

Under the circumstances it should have been left off the donation jar.
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Like anyone with children, he should have had life insurance.
Old 08-24-06, 05:10 PM
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I'm more bothered by the 2nd Annual Fundraiser. I mean, it's sad that he died and left a family, but there's only so many times you can rattle that cup. I'll bet there's plenty of people who died in the past year who's families need money too.
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Tough ordeal. As long as the money goes to something meaningful, I guess it's fine.
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If the guy was driving with a drunk driver in the first place and was too drunk to know it how many times has this guy been the drunk driver? Seems a little hypocritical to label his death like they did.
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fuck him and his family, they all deserve to DIEDIEDIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I figure I'd get the moral outrage post in

Seriously though, a little tacky to do.
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I wouldn't even donate a nickel.

Then again, I throw my nickels around like manhole covers.
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2nd annual? Tacky.
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Originally Posted by GoVegan
That is a little strange.

By those rules, if I tried to carjack a drunk and they pulled out a gun and shot me, my family could also say that I was "tragically killed by a drunk driver."
what if he was driving drunk himself? would that still count? im mean, if he was driving drunk, then he was a drunk driver...
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Originally Posted by Joe Molotov
I'm more bothered by the 2nd Annual Fundraiser. I mean, it's sad that he died and left a family, but there's only so many times you can rattle that cup. I'll bet there's plenty of people who died in the past year who's families need money too.
Yeah, I think the whole thing is shady. The phrase "killed by a drunk driver" is technically correct, but it brings to mind an innocent person struck down by a maniac, not someone who was a coinflip away from being the drunk driver himself.
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LAME......the responsibility should lay solely on the idiot father, and they shouldn't collect money for him making a stupid mistake.

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Oh, and fuck the kid. Next time they ought to choose a better Father!!!
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And the nerve of people looking for a voluntary donation.
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Looked up the article....driver was charged with

Judge Michael Irvine pronounced XXXX guilty of involuntary manslaughter, reckless driving and driving under the influence and ordered that he be immediately remanded to custody pending formal sentencing in July.
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I agree that it's misleading and I also wouldn't put any money in it. But I also wouldn't lose any sleep over it.
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Originally Posted by Heat
I agree that it's misleading and I also wouldn't put any money in it. But I also wouldn't lose any sleep over it.
Yeah, what he said.
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Well I slept ok
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It's like on CYE with the rabbi saying his brother died on 9/11. (uptown, hit by a car on his bike)

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