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Old 08-22-06, 12:28 PM
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Question about asking someone out

Here's my lame situation:

This past semester at university I met this really interesting guy who was in 4 of my classes and we talked a few times. I would have been tempted to ask him out but didn't have the courage to do so. Now summer is almost over and since I won't be going back to school until January and his e-mail address is listed on the school's website, would it be ok to just take a chance and send him a quick e-mail to ask him out or would it be too out of the blue?

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Old 08-22-06, 12:35 PM
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1. Are you a guy or a girl?
2. Send him an email anyway, ask him out for coffee.
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From the sound of it, you don't really know the guy that well, so an email asking for a date out of the blue is most likely going to come off as creepy. If there's some harmless topic that you can email him about without it sounding needy or contrived, you might do that. Probably best just to let it go and maybe strike up conversation with him if you run into him once you're back at school.
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Originally Posted by Kittydreamer
1. Are you a guy or a girl?
2. Send him an email anyway, ask him out for coffee.
Well I'm a guy and I know for sure he's gay too so perhaps this would have been more appropriate in the 'ask the gay guys' thread?

In any case, my initial plan was to wait for school to start again this Fall and ask him to hang out or something but I'll only be going back in January and I don't feel like waiting until then just to contact him again.
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Originally Posted by Howiefan
Well I'm a guy and I know for sure he's gay too so perhaps this would have been more appropriate in the 'ask the gay guys' thread?

In any case, my initial plan was to wait for school to start again this Fall and ask him to hang out or something but I'll only be going back in January and I don't feel like waiting until then just to contact him again.
No worries, I just was curious.

Anyway, I would email him and just ask him to meet you for coffee. Do you have som excuse you could use? Maybe like you want to talk about a school project or something?

Good luck, I hope you get to meet up with him.
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Guys are much more receptive to that whole "hey, I've never spoken to you before, but let's meet up for coffee and then maybe have some hot sex" line than women are.
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Email seems a little creepy if you haven't emailed him for other reasons in the past.
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Originally Posted by NCMojo
Guys are much more receptive to that whole "hey, I've never spoken to you before, but let's meet up for coffee and then maybe have some hot sex" line than women are.
When you look the way you do, I could see why women aren't too receptive.
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Originally Posted by El Scorcho
When you look the way you do, I could see why women aren't too receptive.
Actually, that line doesn't even work with blind women.
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but.. if you are a guy and he is a guy.... 2 guys can't date
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Originally Posted by j123vt_99
but.. if you are a guy and he is a guy.... 2 guys can't date
No but they can have hot action in straight pr0n
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I never understood this in the gay society. I mean Any straight guy would instantly just bang a chick who he thought was hot or even remotely good looking with no questions asked. Guys are horny all the time, unless they just got some. So why is it different for the gays?
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Originally Posted by M2theAX
I never understood this in the gay society. I mean Any straight guy would instantly just bang a chick who he thought was hot or even remotely good looking with no questions asked. Guys are horny all the time, unless they just got some. So why is it different for the gays?
Um, gay men have extremely casual sex all the time. However, we do actually date and fall in love and shit, too.
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Originally Posted by Tracer Bullet
Um, gay men have extremely casual sex all the time. However, we do actually date and fall in love and shit, too.
Do you shit BEFORE you fall in love too?
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I thought I was being rude!
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Howiefan - I'd love to add my two cents, but I'm just not comfortable doing that until you post a pic of yourself.....
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Originally Posted by Vibiana
Do you shit BEFORE you fall in love too?
Okay, you've used that joke twice now. I'm taking that card away from you.
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Originally Posted by Tracer Bullet
Okay, you've used that joke twice now. I'm taking that card away from you.
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Say it again! Say it again!



"Say where's Arnie!?"
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OK, look at the situation from a purely practical point of view. If you ask this guy out, he has basically two responses - he'll say yes, or he'll say no/ignore your email. It's unlikely he'll do anything like blow up your house or kidnap one of your relatives because you sent him an unsolicited email asking to meet for coffee. So, the worst thing that can happen if you DO ask him out is basically the same as the only thing that can happen if you DON'T, i.e., you don't go on a date with him. With that in mind, by asking him out you maximize your potential enjoyment while incurring basically no risk, except maybe about five seconds of being uncomfortable the next time you see him in class.
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What kind of a gay are you? Next there will be a thread from Gator Deb asking our advice on how to eat a bunch of fatty food and do nothing.



Sorry Deb. Easy target
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Originally Posted by Howiefan
No but they can have hot action in straight pr0n


The most amusing running joke around.
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Originally Posted by Art
I want to see more gay guys in my heterosexual relationships.
Me too.

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OK, look at the situation from a purely practical point of view. If you ask this guy out, he has basically two responses - he'll say yes, or he'll say no/ignore your email. It's unlikely he'll do anything like blow up your house or kidnap one of your relatives because you sent him an unsolicited email asking to meet for coffee. So, the worst thing that can happen if you DO ask him out is basically the same as the only thing that can happen if you DON'T, i.e., you don't go on a date with him. With that in mind, by asking him out you maximize your potential enjoyment while incurring basically no risk, except maybe about five seconds of being uncomfortable the next time you see him in class.
So simple. So accurate. 50% of dating questions can be answered in this manner. The other 50% are because she's a bitch (including dating questions for gay men).

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