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Old 08-15-06, 08:50 AM
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How Long After the Divorce

How long after your divorce/seperation did you go before going out on a date? It isn't really an option for me at the moment as I'm working 51 hours Monday - Thursday and have my son from Thursday night through Sunday night but I'm curious to see what the norm is.

If you have any good/funny stories about starting to date after a long marriage please post those as well.
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I took a year off before getting back in the saddle. Glad I did too.
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the next day sounds good.
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I left my X on Independence Day, 2003. I went to Vegas with a bunch of internet friends (all girls) the first weekend in August.
I started dating around the first week in September I think. I signed up for match.com and had a blast with it.

For me though, it took me SO long to make that leap to leave my ex, I felt I had grieved the marriage before it was "formally" ended. I had given it so many chances, by the time I left, there was absolutely NO love left.
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Originally Posted by Sonicflood
I took a year off before getting back in the saddle. Glad I did too.
Why are you glad you did?
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Originally Posted by mosquitobite
For me though, it took me SO long to make that leap to leave my ex, I felt I had grieved the marriage before it was "formally" ended. I had given it so many chances, by the time I left, there was absolutely NO love left.
In the same boat. Wish I didn't have to work so much overtime but I need the money for moving, divorce, etc.
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You can start by going back to your maiden name.
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Originally Posted by The Bus
You can start by going back to your maiden name.
These jokes never get old.
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About a year and four months IIRC...
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Originally Posted by Mrs.Nesbit
Why are you glad you did?
Chafing mostly, but some saddle sores were starting to develop, which is why I left the freak in the first place.
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I think you should start casually dating again when you're ready.....
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I think a modified version of the AA theory of...."first you get a plant, then you get an animal, etc" You need time, so don't rush it. blah blah blah......get laid.

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Anonymous gay sex in public restrooms is a good first step.
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If you're the dumpee, give it a few months. If you're the dumper, next day is good.
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Originally Posted by Bandoman
Anonymous gay sex in public restrooms is a good first step.
Experience talking?
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...or so I've heard.
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Originally Posted by elperdido
Experience talking?
Then it wouldn't be anonymous, now would it?
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I like to start before just to make sure it isn't simply a case of "the grass is always greener ..."
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Start dating before your ex does. That way you can show the loser how desirable you really are.
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Originally Posted by BigPete
I like to start before just to make sure it isn't simply a case of "the grass is always greener ..."
I thought girls these days mow their grass. Lots has changed from what I understand.
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Did you leave your husband? Did he leave you? That's sad

Should we call you Ms. Nesbit now?


For me, it was a few months, I would have gladly dated before then, just didn't have anybody to go out with.
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My current girlfriend is still married.

Of course, only to his money. If I could provide the comforts she has with him she'd leave him in a heart beat. Damn doctors make too much money.
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as soon as you can get that first hot 18 year old to say yes
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Originally Posted by SonOfAStu
My current girlfriend is still married.

Of course, only to his money. If I could provide the comforts she has with him she'd leave him in a heart beat. Damn doctors make too much money.
But probably enough to have you hunted down and have your legs broken.\.

Don't worry about that happening though, it's probably unlikely.
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Well, I just started seeing someone about 3 weeks ago, and that would have been about 6 or 7 months after the seperation. Nothing too serious, but we've been having alot of fun and getting to have sex again is FANTASTIC!
I wasn't actively looking wither, it just kind of happened.

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