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Old 06-03-06, 06:58 PM
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So what are those rules for after a first date again?

According to last threads, not many are very savvy towards the ladies

But I just had an awesome first date than I thought about the rules like youre not suppose to call for 3 days or something, but send flowers and all this crazy stuff. Anyone know?
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No rules, just do the right thing for the right girl. I'll assume you got no sex? And that this wasn't a friend who you just finally turned things romantic with?

If so, avoid calling for a day or two at least. This was an afternoon date on a Saturday? Call Tuesday.
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I'll say it before someone else does:

"Pee in her butt"
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Just send her an email to say you had a good time and would like to see her again sometimes. Keep it short and friendly. Then call her a few days after that to ask her out again. Yes, it is that simple.

Men spend waaaaay to much time trying to "crack the rules" of the after-date call protocol. Just go ahead and call if you feel like seeing her again. Believe me, we WANT men to call us after a date. So yeah, go ahead and get in touch with her!*

*Unless the girl you are seeing is into mind games/immature/not into you. Then don't call.
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agree with pressplay.
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That's pretty much what I was about to type.

How old are you, and what do you want out of this relationship? If you're just in it for some fun, follow the "rules" and wait 3 days. Mess with her insecurities by alternating heavy affection with surprising indifference, and randomly cancel a date just to keep her on her toes. If you actually want a meaningful relationship that may lead somewhere long-term, be yourself. You want to call her? Call her. You had a good time? Tell her. Any woman who is put off by someone calling her to say nice things after an "awesome" date is not worth your time. I'd go the email/call route myself, but there shouldn't be anything wrong with calling her unless she's a fool (stats aren't in your favor here ) or she didn't perceive the date the way you did.

That said, not only do we need pics, but we need a detailed rundown of what happened on this date to judge whether it truly was "awesome".

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I'd call her up maybe the next afternoon and let her know you had a good time,and set something up for later that week. Drink after work (if you want to play more coy), or offer up a friday (if you think she was into you).

If you want to play hard to get, go out with her sister/mom/best friend. Girls like competition.

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Wow some awesome advice and only one pee in but thing

I wont go into great detail but we did spend 9 hours together friday night/sat morning and NEVER got bored or anything. I classify it as awesome and I think she did too cause on my way out we said so and embraced.... for awhile. She actually asked me for my number and called me first. But I made the first date for friday and it flew. We said we'd talk soon, and she agreed that night to going out again soon.

Oh and there was no sex cause I dont want a chick who gives it out that easy; and she aint like that. Thinking long term? That would be nice cause it feels like ages that Ive had that...

Thanks guys; its all appreicated
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Save the politics talk for after the "embrace".
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Every day you're not calling her, I'm sleeping with her so hurry up and make your move.
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Originally Posted by BigPete
Every day you're not calling her, I'm sleeping with her so hurry up and make your move.
Yep, Ravenous, call her. She'll be receptive to the call since, if what BigPete says is true, she's bored and unsatisfied.
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Originally Posted by El Scorcho
Yep, Ravenous, call her. She'll be receptive to the call since, if what BigPete says is true, she's bored and unsatisfied.
5/5
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fck first, and ask questionas later...unless she is a man, then definately ask quetions first....and whether or not you fuck is your rdeal.

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You should e-mail her, I'm assuming that's how you got her to out with you, by asking for her email?
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Originally Posted by pedagogue
fck first, and ask questionas later...unless she is a man, then definately ask quetions first....and whether or not you fuck is your rdeal.

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Peddy's drunk.
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Sounds like you can safely follow up today, maybe this evening.
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Originally Posted by NORML54601
You should e-mail her, I'm assuming that's how you got her to out with you, by asking for her email?
We should all email her.

What's her email address?
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Originally Posted by Ravenous
send flowers
Yes.

I recommend dandelions.
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Originally Posted by grundle
We should all email her.

What's her email address?
Not positive of the first part but the domain is @trimspa.com
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Email

You fucktards. Email is not romantic, fun, or reliable.

"Let me get your email."
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Depends on what she looks like.
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Originally Posted by The Bus
Email

You fucktards. Email is not romantic, fun, or reliable.

"Let me get your email."
No kidding! Give it a day or so and call her, don't send a stupid email full of 'lols' and all of that shit. Pick up the phone, speak to her, hear her voice, make her giggle. If the date was that great, chances are she will suggest another rendezvous.
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Originally Posted by The Bus
Email

You fucktards. Email is not romantic, fun, or reliable.

"Let me get your email."
I agree. I always follow up three days later with a call if I had a good time, but the girl I'm seeing again tonight loves the e-mail. It kind of bugs me.
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Leave her a MySpace comment?

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Originally Posted by Breakfast with Girls
I agree. I always follow up three days later with a call if I had a good time, but the girl I'm seeing again tonight loves the e-mail. It kind of bugs me.
You know....you can probably change her habits....but you need to give her a reason to be. I'm not one to promote trying to change people, but that is something you can probably do without much effort.

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