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Old 01-31-06, 07:58 AM
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What should I get my wife for her 40th birthday?

What would be the best thing to get or do? She doesn't really like "material things," and we have a 3-year old son, so a romantic vacation is out. I think something like Disney is out, too, because a 3-year old does not really appreciate things like that.

I hate to do something to kow-tow to the kid, and not to her, but since we can't possibly get a sitter for a whole week, we kind of have to.

Jewelry is out, she don't like that (falls into the "material world"). Maybe a short weekend trip? But you can't really fly anywhere for just a weekend getaway.

I'm in New York City, and her birthday is in April. Any ideas?
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Does she like plays or musicals? Take her to the theater.
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When I turned 40 last year I had my wife and parents treat me to Waffle House for lunch. Yeah, I don't care about my birthday!

Massages are always a nice treat (the legit kind that is)
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Old 01-31-06, 08:14 AM
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How about the kids grandparents? Let them know you want to treat your wife to something special and I'm sure they will help take care of the rugrat.

Pops, your daughter's b-day is coming up. She is very special, loving mother, works hard to raise the rat right, etc. I want to treat her to something she deserves, can you watch the kid?

Or, if Pops is a stoic WW2 type, try it on Moms.
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Ticket to a day spa. Definately. You watch the kid for the day, and she gets pampered and spoiled. A whole day to herself!
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Nice B&B in Cape May?

Does she like nostalgic stuff? Go to a quaint 50's neon sign hotel in Wildwood and the kid can play on the boardwalk although it's probably not open yet.

Can she move her birthday to June?

Do you have a car?



The Spa would work although you would know if she's into that. Don't forget the pedicure and post those pics of the end result for closure.
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Forty is a milestone, so how about a surprise birthday party with lots of relatives and friends that she hasn't seen in a while?
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Yes, 40 is a milestone... you need to do something special.


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I'd resist the urge to test her knowledge of roman numerals and get her a shirt with "XL" plastered across the front.....
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Old 01-31-06, 09:20 AM
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Originally Posted by atlantamoi
When I turned 40 last year I had my wife and parents treat me to Waffle House for lunch. Yeah, I don't care about my birthday!

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Does legit mean they give you a handy?
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Another vote for a day spa.
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Originally Posted by Buford T Pusser
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The Spa would work ... Don't forget the pedicure and post those pics of the end result for closure.

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I turned 40 last summer. I'm not married, but the best present I got was a heartfelt letter from one of my best friends, expressing her thoughts about our long association and the passing years. It brought tears to my eyes.

Accompanied by a romantic dinner and a gift certificate to her favorite store or service, I think this is a winner.
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If she really doesn't like material things, try organizing a surprise party. Going to that effort shows alot of care and consideration.

For my wife's 40th, I actually flew her 3 best friends (and families) into town for the weekend for a surprise party. It was awesome.
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When my wife turned 40 I offered get her LASIK (she has been in glasses or contacts since age 8), or a week long trip. To my surprise she took the trip!

We took the kids, but one evening I arranged for a babysitter/child care thing and we went to dinner/play on our own.
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How about a Lordy, Lordy Look Who's Forty t-shirt or coffee mug?

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Another vote for day spa. My wife loves when I get her that kind of thing.
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Forty is a milestone, so how about a surprise birthday party with lots of relatives and friends that she hasn't seen in a while?
My wife would probably kill me if I gathered a bunch of her friends into a room and made it known to them that she had left her thirties.
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Old 01-31-06, 04:51 PM
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What would be the best thing to get or do? She doesn't really like "material things," and we have a 3-year old son, so a romantic vacation is out. I think something like Disney is out, too, because a 3-year old does not really appreciate things like that.

I hate to do something to kow-tow to the kid, and not to her, but since we can't possibly get a sitter for a whole week, we kind of have to.

Jewelry is out, she don't like that (falls into the "material world"). Maybe a short weekend trip? But you can't really fly anywhere for just a weekend getaway.

I'm in New York City, and her birthday is in April. Any ideas?
How about a cruise? Trixie and I have been on 2 cruises together and brought along the twins. Most cruiselines have great childcare facilities. Once you get on the ship, everything is taken care of. You can focus your attentions on your wife.

If a cruise is out, how about an overnighter? Find the ritziest, fanciest, hotel you can afford (it's only for one night) that is located in an area that you will pass by frequently during your regular day-to-day activities.

Get a reliable sitter to watch the kid overnight.... or better yet, get some trusted friends to do it and treat them well for doing it. (offer to pick up the tab for a nice dinner out for them, buy them a DVD and a pizza, etc.)

Buy some intimate apparel for your wife, nothing over-the-top, but elegant and sexy. Have dinner in the hotel you'll be staying in...the restaurant itself would be preferrable. Then head up to your room. The nicer rooms have fireplaces, hot tubs or whirlpool baths, a balcony, etc. Just relax, enjoy the room amenities and each other. Treat her like a princess... pamper her like a queen.

It's only an evening, a night, and a morning until checkout time, but it will feel like you got away for a few days...and be quite memorable.

And the nice thing about choosing a hotel that you both pass by frequently is that each time you pass it, you can give a little nudge and a wink and the memories of that time come flooding back.

I'm not saying that trixie and I ever did anything like that... but if we did... it was...errr... would be faaaaaaantastic.
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