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Old 09-29-05, 06:02 PM
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Had To Put My Dog To Sleep Yesterday

I don't normally come into the Other Talk section, but I just wanted some advice for others who have been through this.

Yesterday we took our Pomeranian, Chewie, to the vet because he hasn't been eating much or feeling well lately. They found a lump in his abdomen and after doing an x-ray and ultrasound, they determined they needed to open him up to see what it really was. It turned out it was a cancerous growth around his intestines, so we had to put him to sleep.

Has anyone else had anything like this come up out of the blue with your pet? How long did it take you to get over the loss of a pet? Every time I think of him I can't help but cry.
Old 09-29-05, 06:13 PM
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My condolences, I understand how you feel.

I have had to put one of my dogs to sleep. It has been 10 years and I still think of him. Another of my dogs died while being boarded while I was on vacation, I think of her often too.

Memories are good, you did the right thing.

I have a scrapbook filled with pictures of both my dogs to look at. Try going to Rainbow Bridge as well.

http://www.petloss.com/poems/maingrp/rainbowb.htm
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I woke up one morning to find my dog in a coma and we had to put her to sleep. I remember how bad I felt the first couple days. I would start to get teary eyed whenever I thought about her. It took me about a month to not think about her all the time. I would still have nightmares about twice a month about my old dog. I would dream that she was still alive and locked in one of my closets or something of that sort. I eventually bought a new dog and that basically cured me. Just remember that you will feel a little better each day.

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Originally Posted by The_Cube
My last dog woke up in a coma one morning
Old 09-29-05, 06:27 PM
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Really tough thing to go through. My malamute I had while I was growing up was like my brother, in fact sometimes he even let me sleep in my own bed. I'll never forget when we had to put him down. Dealing with a loss of a pet is very difficult, because you develop a daily pattern of having them in your life and you adjust your life to compensate for their needs. When they go, things just feel overwhelmingly different and there is a huge feeling of something missing. You will adjust to it over time and be fine. As for your dog, it sounds like you did exactly what you needed to do and I applaud you for making such a tough decision.
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We had this happen to us, 3 years ago with my 13 year Rotwieller (Sp?). She wasn't eating so we took her to the vet, she had a tumor is her stomach. They tested it and it was cancerous so we put her to sleep. It was tough the first couple of weeks, one thing that helped was that I was given a puppy of the same breed which helped take some of the focus away from my old dog.
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Originally Posted by General Zod
Really tough thing to go through. My malamute I had while I was growing up was like my brother, in fact sometimes he even let me sleep in my own bed. I'll never forget when we had to put him down. Dealing with a loss of a pet is very difficult, because you develop a daily pattern of having them in your life and you adjust your life to compensate for their needs. When they go, things just feel overwhelmingly different and there is a huge feeling of something missing. You will adjust to it over time and be fine. As for your dog, it sounds like you did exactly what you needed to do and I applaud you for making such a tough decision.
Our second dog was a Malamute, she was my wife's baby. Losing her was tougher than the first because it was so sudden.
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I am so sorry for your loss.
We recently have been watching a dog for a friend for seven months. When we first took him, he had just had a tumor removed that was benign.
After a few months we noticed a small knot on his belly, and took him to the vet. This one turned out to be cancerous. The owners had it removed and the dog was just never the same since then. A few months later another one popped up and we just knew. We called our friend and told them it was time to take him in, said good-bye and gave him lots of love. Even though he wasn't our dog, we still fell in love with him and it was tough. But we knew that he was suffering and he wasn't the same dog as he was.
We do own a seven year old golden retriever who is the love of our life. I think about her death a lot, too much in fact. But I always comfort myself by telling myself that when the day comes she does leave us, I know she will have lived a wonderful life filled with much love, and lots of treats. And the joy she has (or is) bringing us will never be forgotten.

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Old 09-29-05, 10:31 PM
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Thanks for all the support. My wife and I have played yesterday in our head countless times. It's not a day we wanted to experience. The way I try to see it is that even though he's gone and we may have a few months of grief to deal with, he gave us five and a half years of wonderful memories.
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I got this email from my mom the other day that said she was taking her Sharpei, which was a good family dog for a good number of years, to have her put down yesterday. It was so sad, and I will miss her something fierce. Last time I visited my mom (she lives in another state) I had a feeling I wouldn't see that dog again. I know it's been particularly hard on my mom, who called the dog the love of her life and her little girl, and it also came in the week of some other hardship with another personal issue she was going through, so it's been a hellish week over all.

She sent me pictures of the dog that she took that morning, and she was just looking so rough, and my mom said she was develping a tumor on her neck as well. Her eyes were sunken in and she was just so horribly thin, and had a hard time moving at all, but she had such a will to live, it was really hard for the dog to go to the vet. She enjoyed the trip in the car, but really put up a struggle at the vet. Poor thing, she was so loved and probably didn't understand why she had to go.

My heart goes out to anybody who has to go through the death of a beloved pet. I just hope they lived a full life with you and got the most out of it. My mom's dog certainly lived a good long time, longer than Sharpeis are normally expected to live, so that was something good.
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Sometimes out of the blue is better. Although it's a shock to the system, it spares you from the horror of watching your best friend slowly go down hill. There always comes a point where you are actually being selfish by not releasing the dog from it's pain. I had a Shar-pei boy that had a tumor on his heart and I had his chest drained by a cardiac specialist. Less than a week later, it had filled back up. He was 13 and I knew that it was time to let him go. He was very healthy up until the last two weeks of his life and I felt grateful that he had such a long, active life. On the other hand, I had a Shar-pei girl that had many problems during the last 3 years of her life. She slowly went blind and also suffered from seizures. I was pumping her full of pills on a daily basis. Her death was a lot more difficult because of her suffering. You did the right thing. Five and a half is relatively young, but these things happen. The only thing that dogs don't do right is live long enough. My condolences.
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I'm so very sorry for your loss. Please feel free to post some pictures of your pet, sometimes that can help.
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My condolences on your loss. Canine lovers know that losing a dog is like losing a family member, so you are allowed to grieve as it suits you. Hugs to you and the wife.

This is my Hamish --


We had him for 9 years and had to put him to sleep this spring. He was his mama's baby boy, hehe. He was within arm's reach of me for his entire life; not in a pesty way, he just loved his mom. I think it was because he was a rescued animal. He knew that he was wanted and loved. He had soooo much personality!

We found a bump on his neck last winter and had it checked at the vet. It turned out to be a cancer and had started to spread onto his spine. They could not operate on it without chancing harm to him and it would have eventually gotten very painful, so we opted to have him put down.

We didn't wait until he was incapacitated or in pain, which was a rough decision, but one that I am glad we chose. He lived his entire life with us as a happy, spoiled pup, and died peacefully in my lap, being petted and sweet-talked. I don't think he would have wanted it any other way. We miss him, but I know that we gave him a good life.

I didn't want to make a shrine, per se, to my dog, and I thought that would be too sad for our sons. So after we had him put to sleep, I bought one of those large photo storage boxes and put his collar, leash, photos of him and his favorite toys into it. The kids get it out every now and then to show friends a picture of their pet or just to look at the pics and have a chuckle over the good memories we have with him. I think it's a sweet way to remember him without being overly morose.

Enjoy the memories you have of your pet and remember that he knew he was loved.
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Originally Posted by RichardW
Has anyone else had anything like this come up out of the blue with your pet? How long did it take you to get over the loss of a pet? Every time I think of him I can't help but cry.
I lost my cat Vinny to cancer three and a half years ago- he died in 3 days. He stopped eating, i took him to an emergency room and he was diagnosed with acute lymphoma. They were trying to stabilize him so that i could take him home for a week or two but he stopped responding to threatment. They had to keep him in an incubator on oxygen because he was suffocating.
I held him as they gave him the needle. It was one of the most difficult things i had to do. I still cry when i think of him.
Of course the pain lessens, but it never completely goes away. Just think that you gave him a wonderful life, and that he was happy and much loved.
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Rich....its tough,i lost Freddie(my cat) a couple months back then 1-2 months later) ,i lost another one(sebastian)

i still cant talk about it.....


http://www.dvdtalk.com/forum/showthread.php?t=429955

sebastian

Freddie


a couple weeks ago i i added 2 more to the family...(brother and sister)

coco(beans) and Baily(beatle)



it helps a bit...but fred and mr lipswill always be in my heart....
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Originally Posted by Cool Kitten
I lost my cat Vinny to cancer three and a half years ago- he died in 3 days. He stopped eating, i took him to an emergency room and he was diagnosed with acute lymphoma. They were trying to stabilize him so that i could take him home for a week or two but he stopped responding to threatment. They had to keep him in an incubator on oxygen because he was suffocating.
I held him as they gave him the needle. It was one of the most difficult things i had to do. I still cry when i think of him.
Of course the pain lessens, but it never completely goes away. Just think that you gave him a wonderful life, and that he was happy and much loved.
cool kitten the worst feeling in the world is when a cat(or dog)stops eating....
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Originally Posted by RichardW
I don't normally come into the Other Talk section, but I just wanted some advice for others who have been through this.

Yesterday we took our Pomeranian, Chewie, to the vet because he hasn't been eating much or feeling well lately. They found a lump in his abdomen and after doing an x-ray and ultrasound, they determined they needed to open him up to see what it really was. It turned out it was a cancerous growth around his intestines, so we had to put him to sleep.

Has anyone else had anything like this come up out of the blue with your pet? How long did it take you to get over the loss of a pet? Every time I think of him I can't help but cry.
I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your pet. I had a similar experience more than ten years ago. I had a beautiful golden retriever given to me as a puppy when I was seven, and finally, after many attempts to help her with a serious hip problem (she couldn't stand, or walk, no matter what we tried), we had to put her to sleep when she was 13. Her condition had deteriorated very quickly. Basically, I had her from the time I was in second grade, to the time I was a senior in college.

We knew what we had to do, and what was best for her, at that point. We called one vet, and they said that we (my sister and I) would not be allowed in the room when they did the procedure. Frankly, that was total b.s. to me, and I insisted that I be there with her when they gave her the injection. We found a very compassionate vet who would allow this (it took a few calls).

It was extremely rough for us (for me, and my sister, who was with me). I held her as they shaved her leg and prepared her, and held her in my arms as they gave the injection. It was hardest thing I've ever allowed myself to do-- nothing's come close. Through all the losses I've had in life (all four grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends), nothing came close to the loss I felt when she died.

I haven't had a dog since then, but my young daughter adores dogs, so next year, hopefully we'll get her a golden retriver of her own. She'll be three.

It'll get better. One day, instead of thinking of him and crying, you'll remember him and smile.
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I am so sorry. I had to put one of my kitties to sleep a few years ago. His name was Reggie and he was the sweetest thing. A part of me wanted to keep him around as long as I could, but the vet told me quite frankly how selfish that would be, as Reggie (who had a congenital kidney disorder which didn't show up til later) would always have to deal with pain and discomfort, and that if I wanted what would be best for him, then I should let him go. The doc let me hold him as he gave him the injection, and he died in my arms. I will never forget feeling his last weak breath. Sometimes I wish I could just have him back for one minute, for just one hug. I know how hard it is. For a long time, every little thing made me cry; I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep. It's really the same as when you lose a person who was close to you; the pain never, ever goes away -- you just learn to deal with it a little more every day as time goes on.

Be comforted that your loved pet is no longer going to suffer, and keep in mind that he knew you loved him. The vet reminded me of that and that seemed to help me, that Reg knew he was my precious baby and part of our family. Pets are given to us as gifts for a short time and we are never ready for them to go, but it's inevitable. It will take a while, but someday the stories you tell about him will be happier stories, not that you ever forget the pain, but you will treasure the fun memories you had with him.
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Richard, I am really sorry.

I also lost one of my dogs to cancer. The other died of diabetes and general old age. It took several months for the pain to lessen but I don't think the memories ever faded completely. I miss the routines of feeding them or playing ball or climbing the ladder to the roof of a backyard shed where the dogs could howl at the moon. My dogs were also my jogging partners and for several months after the second one died, I just couldn't bring myself to go running. I have avoided getting new dogs until now, but am starting to reconsider the idea.
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I thought I'd post a few pictures of Chewie to show how much personality he had.

Here he is with one of his toys:

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Here he is in his Jabba the Hutt pose:

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He even let me put one of my daughter's onesies on him:

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One day we'll tell our daughter how he used to follow her around the house while she ate Cheerios and wait by the bathtub while she got a bath. He will be greatly missed.
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That sucks. How old was Chewie?




I do not want to think about having to deal with this with our dogs.
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He was only five and a half. Way too young.
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He was only five and a half. Way too young.


That sucks man. RIP
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Sorry for your loss
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I'm sorry for you and your family. He was loved every single day of his life, and he knew it.

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