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Old 09-27-05, 07:50 AM
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Gift for my ex-wife's wedding?

So, my ex-wife is getting married this weekend (the same day I'm getting my dog's rabies vaccination ). Anyway, we're on pretty good terms, even though I try to stay away from her. Needless to say, neither of us plan on me being there. My question is....Should I get them a wedding present? I really don't want to, but I try to be a nice guy.

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I wouldn't. You don't want to, neither of you want you to be at the wedding. It's probably enough you are still on good terms.
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That's exactly how I feel. But, after being married to her for 12 years, I tend to feel obligated (Damn, was I whipped!). We've been divorced for over a year.
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That's exactly how I feel. But, after being married to her for 12 years, I tend to feel obligated (Damn, was I whipped!). We've been divorced for over a year.
Then you've already given her the greatest gift of all.
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I wouldn't. You got divorced for a reason. You're not obligated to anything. Thats like saying. Here buddy, you get to screw my ex-wife. Here's a coke and a smile to go along with it.
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I agree. I wouldn't get her a thing.

When and if I ever get remarried...my ex better not show up at my wedding. But then again...we're not even on "terms"...much less good ones

If it makes you feel better, get her something. Just make sure its not something you'll regret later, meaning something expensive.
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Get her something that you'll want too and then just conveniently forget to give it to her

Seriously I wouldn't bother either.
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Get your teeth whitened and send her the photos. Make her remember the putrid, rotting husks she once had to share tongue space with.
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First off ^ ....



Maybe you need a little female perspective...

It's important not to be completely ignore to situation especially if you desire or have to keep contact with this women in the future. I think you should not attend the wedding but if you need a no hard feelings Iím happy for you type of thing you should give them a card wishing them well and perhaps some sort of gift certificate. You donít want her to have negative feelings toward you because you showed no emoticon about her new marriage.
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F that. Take a dump in a box and pay a parking attendant at the reception to bring it in and place it along with all the other gifts.
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If you're not going to the wedding, there's no need for a gift. If you feel you have to give some token of acknowledgement, send them a card.
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Originally Posted by dork
Get your teeth whitened and send her the photos. Make her remember the putrid, rotting husks she once had to share tongue space with.

LMAO....Dude, you made me spit on my monitor laughing. Thanks.
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We have kids together, so I HAVE to deal with her for a few years.

I'll send her a card with some fake monopoly money in it.

Should I go for funny-sarcastic or basic congratulations card?
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give her condoms
lots and lots of condoms

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Tiny condoms.
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Dead flowers.

That's what Mick Jagger recommends.
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I recommend the old faithful; her new husband-to-be's severed head in a box.
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Originally Posted by Mrs.Nesbit
F that. Take a dump in a box and pay a parking attendant at the reception to bring it in and place it along with all the other gifts.
That was the same idea I was going to say. Only I was going to say one of those gift bags. But a box would be better. It would hide the smell for a little while at least.
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Send her a card with a gift card, nothing expensive, just something small. If you have kids together then yeah, be nice to her.
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Originally Posted by Mrs.Nesbit
Tiny condoms.


even better
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send her a card with a $100 donation to the human fund
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Severed horse head in her bed.
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Originally Posted by niteshade
We've been divorced for over a year.
Print this thread out, and look at it on the fifth anniversary of the divorce, and then try and figure out why you even brough this question up.
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whats in it for you if you get her a gift. its not like she is your friend, where if you dont get them a gift, they'll be pissed.

the only benefit, is if you get remarried, she'll get you something. who cares. dont waste the money. spend it on dvds.
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No, do not get her a gift. I might actually consider it if this was her birthday or something, but for a wedding?

I don't know the circumstances of your divorce, and maybe that plays a role. But from the little bit I know, getting her a wedding gift seems like a very very bad idea.... serious or joke. I would do something else that day and just congratulate her the next time you see her.

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