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My uncle

Old 08-12-05, 04:05 PM
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My uncle

Things seem kinda quiet around here so I thought I'd tell you all about my uncle and the fun surrounding him and his family.

My uncle (my mom's brother), had a massive stroke about 18 months ago. It should have killed him but he managed to pull through.

So after he gets out of the hospital, the doctors set him up with his ex-wife at her place so he'll have someone to take care of him. They get a long pretty good and she's certified to care for people like him. So off to his ex-wife's place he goes.

But all is not well....

My uncle is a nice man and all but he goes through a 24 pack of Bud ( ) in 2 days and smokes 2 packs of unfiltered Camels each day, too. Gee, I wonder why he had a stroke??? Between that and the fact that the only two words he seems to know are "fuck" and "shit", no one is really all that interested in trying to care for him.

His ex-wife followed the doctor's orders, only 2 beers a day and no smoking at all. My uncle did not like these rules so he took off to go stay with a friend in AR. He managed to burn all his bridges down there, too so last week he decides to come back to the Pacific NW.

My mom asked me if I could pick him up at the bus station and keep him a few days while she tried to figure out what to do with him. I did my best but after him being here for 10 hours, my 2 year old started saying "shit" and my 8 year old's asthma was nearing the dangerzone. Clearly he could not stay here.

So I took him up to my mom's and dropped him off with her. I feel bad that I couldn't keep him here any longer but I had to think of my children and their health and having someone who was constantly drunk and smoking like crazy around just wasn't going to do it for me.

Since I've never done a poll before I decided to make one.
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Are you blind today?

Sorry, I was slow in getting it done. I've never done one before and it took me a while to figure it out.
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You let him smoke in your house?
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You let him smoke in your house?
No, I asked him to go outside but when you smoke that much it still is on your clothes and hair and skin. My uncle is not so big on bathing and washing, either.
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sounds like you did the reasonable thing
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Originally Posted by Kittydreamer
My mom asked me if I could pick him up at the bus station and keep him a few days while she tried to figure out what to do with him. I did my best but after him being here for 10 hours, my 2 year old started saying "shit" and my 8 year old's asthma was nearing the dangerzone. Clearly he could not stay here.

So I took him up to my mom's and dropped him off with her. I feel bad that I couldn't keep him here any longer but I had to think of my children and their health and having someone who was constantly drunk and smoking like crazy around just wasn't going to do it for me.

Since I've never done a poll before I decided to make one.
Does your mom know about this part? If so, what did she have to say about that?

I think you did the right thing. Im sure your kids come first and if your mom cant understand that, then thats pretty lame.
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I think the welfare of your children should supercede anything else.I say you made the right decision.
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Originally Posted by happycamper
Does your mom know about this part? If so, what did she have to say about that?

I think you did the right thing. Im sure your kids come first and if your mom cant understand that, then thats pretty lame.

Thank you, Happy! Yes, she understood but she lives in a small one bedroom apt. and isn't really set up for guests. But she took him in just fine and didn't make a fuss about it so that was good. What made me mad was that she was home from work all week and she could have picked him up from the bus station and took him to her place to begin with (she's a heavy smoker, too). I can't believe she didn't say anything to me about being home! She made me feel guilty about picking him up, claiming that she would be at work that day.
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Old 08-12-05, 04:21 PM
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All the more reason not to feel guilty about anything. This is her brother, I assume?

Sounds to me like she just didnt want to deal with it. Youve done more than your fair share.
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You didn't pretend like he didn't exist, which is more than I can do for all of my weird uncles, so I vote no.
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kinda sounds like your mom pawned him off on you....seems like she should have just picked him up herself and taken care of arrangements for him seeing as how he is her brother.
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"Fuck! Shit!"
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Old 08-12-05, 04:40 PM
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Originally Posted by happycamper
All the more reason not to feel guilty about anything. This is her brother, I assume?

Sounds to me like she just didnt want to deal with it. Youve done more than your fair share.

Yes, he's her brother. I don't feel guilty now after typing out the story and reading it again. It made me mad that she was just sitting at home, doing nothing and she could have picked him up herself and simply didn't want to. Had she just told me the truth, I wouldn't be so annoyed.
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Old 08-12-05, 05:03 PM
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Your kids are your first priority. Period. Plus, it sounds like your uncle has no interest in helping himself, so why should you or anyone else bend over backwards? Were he more inclined to improve his own situation by acting like a rational adult, then it would be different. Sounds like he's been burning bridges for a long time.
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I picked the first option because it had the word "bitch" in it.

(I think you did OK passing him off)
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Originally Posted by The Bus
I picked the first option because it had the word "bitch" in it.

(I think you did OK passing him off)
You're a very funny guy, Bus.
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I think you should have him put this on:



And invite kvrdave over
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You definitely made the right choice getting him out of there. Your only mistake was allowing yourself to be saddled with him in the first place. Doesn't family suck?
I'm waiting for the day that someone in my family asks to stay with me, because I have a couple of extra bedrooms. I'm going to laugh and laugh and laugh.
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Who's paying for all of his beer and cigs?
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Originally Posted by The Cow
Who's paying for all of his beer and cigs?
Ah, we are or rather his SSI checks are. Isn't it great?
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I think you should have him put this on:



And invite kvrdave over
Nah, he can't walk very well and he's very skinny - not much sport there.
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Drive him to a bar out of town. Drop him off.
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