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I just found out my wife cheated on me 2 years ago

Old 04-18-05, 04:26 PM
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Boy, my most successful thread (the only one that ever really got any attention) and it happens to be about one of the worst events in my life.

Well, my wife and I have been doing okay. We had a bit of a rough patch around February, but we started counseling and have been working through our issues. We luckily found a good counselor that actually uses psychology to understand the underlying motivations and issues in our life, as opposed to the first counselor we saw that said barely 3 words throughout the first session.

I can't say things are perfect between us yet. There are still some issues of resentment on both sides for what happened a few years ago. Not surprising given that I've heard it does take at least six months if not longer to truly move on.

So overall, we have been working hard. We have some bad days and some good days. The good days are starting to outnumber the bad ones
Old 04-18-05, 04:27 PM
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Originally Posted by sherm42
Sure, I know you have a little book where you write down all the painful issues in everyone's post so that you can bring it all up again several months later.
It's similar to my little book, except I only write down the painful issues in kvrdave's posts. Currently there's only one entry ("horses"), but I'm sure it will fill up eventually.
Old 04-18-05, 04:47 PM
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You bastard.

sherm - Good to hear things are looking better today than yesterday. Makes me feel good. When I kill Breakfast With Girls, I will not feel as guilty, because you made me feel better.
Old 04-18-05, 05:11 PM
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Originally Posted by Breakfast with Girls
It's similar to my little book, except I only write down the painful issues in kvrdave's posts. Currently there's only one entry ("horses"), but I'm sure it will fill up eventually.
Your book must not go back very far because it should have something about funny Japanese businessmen moving out

Sherm, sounds like you and your wife are making a strong effort. I hope it works out for you
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Originally Posted by sherm42
I'm more drunk right now than I have been in several years.
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I would be too, if my wife was doing other guys.


A+++ Poster! Definitely will read again.
Old 04-19-05, 12:55 AM
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Not that you will let me post this because I have been axed from this site. But if my reply could be read. It would say something like this. I am so sorry for you and her. It is utter agony. I am going through it now. I am the cheater. It feels awful.
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Great!
Old 04-19-05, 08:39 AM
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great to hear but not sure if the trust will ever be there...
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I'm glad you guys are working things out. I hope I never have to go through that.
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Hey Sherm - I'm glad to hear that you guys are working things out. I hope it all continues to go well.
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Update #2?

(This was referenced in another thread, so I fiugred I'd ask)(

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At least he passed is law exam
Old 07-20-20, 09:37 AM
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Re: I just found out my wife cheated on me 2 years ago

Really? My 16 year old personal thread is bumped for a spam post?
Old 07-20-20, 09:42 AM
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Re: I just found out my wife cheated on me 2 years ago

You gotta love the internet.
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Re: I just found out my wife cheated on me 2 years ago

Well, any update?
Old 07-20-20, 09:59 AM
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Re: I just found out my wife cheated on me 2 years ago

We went to counseling and worked through it. I passed the bar and we moved to Sacramento. Had another child. Still married, coming up on 22 years. Never had any further issues of infidelity.

I didn’t even remember this thread.
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Re: I just found out my wife cheated on me 2 years ago

That is an awesome update. Perhaps the spam bump had a positive effect.
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Re: I just found out my wife cheated on me 2 years ago

Excellent update. Thank you. Rotten spammers.
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Re: I just found out my wife cheated on me 2 years ago

Wow, glad it worked out for you. It's really sobering to see the passage of time when I realize I've been on this forum two decades, all the things we've gone through.
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Re: I just found out my wife cheated on me 2 years ago

I don't see the spam post. Goddamnit, I miss all the fun around here.
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Re: I just found out my wife cheated on me 2 years ago

Originally Posted by sherm42 View Post
We went to counseling and worked through it. I passed the bar and we moved to Sacramento. Had another child. Still married, coming up on 22 years. Never had any further issues of infidelity.

I didnít even remember this thread.
Thanks for the update. It's great to hear that you guys made it through the storm.
Old 07-20-20, 06:31 PM
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Re: I just found out my wife cheated on me 2 years ago

You think that shit existed in 2004? Smartphones did not even exist yet. I had a flip phone. I think I had a Razr.
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Re: I just found out my wife cheated on me 2 years ago

That was an antique in-joke. VMS Alarms spammed the forum, and we mocked them. VMS Alarms is a scam.
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Re: I just found out my wife cheated on me 2 years ago

VMS alarms kills pandas for dole pineapple.

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