adrenaline78

Well i'm sure they didn't wreck your set on purpose.. but they still should have said something. To go ooops and then hope you don't notice is not good. When you do call them, or get a hold of the business owners, don't go at them like a lunatic. Explain what happened and hope for the best.

SethDLH

its a family business, 2 sisters I believe.

i'm 22, i live at home. my family hired these 2 women to clean our house for like $80. I have a little extra spending money each week that goes to my movie collection and hanging out with friends. what doesn't go to bills is getting saved so i can move out without having to depend on my family. we have 7 people living in the house, only 2 of which don't have income (elementary aged kids). we aren't exactly rolling in the dough.

1. i totally agree with your statement on people borrowing your stuff.

2. thank you for realizing i didn't want these people and i don't have tons of extra money to go replacing titles because other people trash them.

SethDLH

I agree. I understand accidents happen, but they tried (poorly) to hide it and didn't even use common sense to see how they go back in the case.

bse

so when someone posts that they DON'T let people borrow dvds should i post this every time? to each their own, at the end of the day it is YOUR collection to do with what YOU want and i choose to share it with others.

asianxcore

Do whatever you feel.

Everyone around here knows any thread that remotely mentions borrowing DVD's turns into the same thread as the ones we've had in the past. It's old and tired.

There are those that let everyone borrow their collection and there are those that don't or at least limit who they let borrow. That's completely fine and dandy, since as you mentioned it's your own personal collection to do whatever you want with. What gets me is when those "personal" decisions become finger pointing or a "better than you" sort of attitude.

http://forum.dvdtalk.com/dvd-talk/40...ight=borrowing

http://forum.dvdtalk.com/dvd-talk/41...ight=borrowing

bse

like i said, there is two sides and when someone presents the other side, then it becomes old and tired, but if everyone in the thread is agreeing on not letting people borrow, its cool, weird?

anyway, like i said, its up to the holder on what they do - i would never pull a "i'm better then you" just because i let people borrow dvds, i could care less what people do with dvds that were bought with their own money.

Darth Maher

I usually only lend DVDs to one friend and my sister and they are just as anal about handling discs as I am. I often conveniently "forget" to bring a DVD if someone else asks to borrow a movie. What I don't like is when someone borrows something and then they keep it forever. The longer they have it, the more likely they are to forget that they have it. I realize that people have busy lives and might not be able to get to that movie right away. I've had the same problem myself. But if I find that if I cannot watch a movie within a certain amount of time, I'll return it and then ask to borrow it again at a later date when I know I have the time.

I am the only one of my close friends that has Blu-ray so luckily I don't have to deal with lending those yet.

As for messing with my collection... my kids occasionally pull DVD cases off the shelves and put them back in the wrong spot (or not at all). But that's the price you pay for having kids and I love them more than my DVDs. My 5 year old knows how to take a DVD out of its case and load it, so I let her do that as I supervise.

dkedvd

no, she is free to do as she pleases unless it involves my dvds.

calhoun07

Yet another reason my mom is better than your mom: My mom is the only other person I know who has a large DVD collection. At times I think it is even bigger than mine. She taught me to take care of my comic books at an early age and knows how anal I am about my DVDs. And she would NEVER donate them to Goodwill. At the very worst she'd advise me to sell some on Ebay to make good money off of them.

I stopped letting people borrow my stuff even before DVDs came around. When I let some people borrow CDs and they would come back with fingerprints on the surface and light scratches on the discs I was DONE. No need to experiment with the so-called good nature of people to see how long it would take to get a messed up disc because, like Nick Cave once said, "People ain't no good." Keep that in mind before considering letting somebody borrow a DVD or something of value to you.

brayzie

I used to take pride in having a nice collection that I could show off when my family visited me.

I let my cousing borrow an OOP movie once, after explaining the rare status and to be careful. Next day at his house, saw it face down on his coffee table while he grinned and said, "If I'd known you were stopping buy I would have put it back in the case."

Later I let him borrow Mothman Prophecies thinking it's okay, I got it real cheap at Ross and it's not that special to me. Got it back with peanut butter (I think) smudges, scratches, fingerprints, and what looks like a booger on it. Can't even play the darn thing even if I wanted to.

In fact, all my family brings back the movies scratched up or worse. I'm down to 40 movies that actually play.
I now have my DVDs hidden in an ottoman and, so as not to have the subject brought up, a collection of books obscure the TV and DVD player that are on the shelf.

Pizza

I love how people feel entitled to borrowing DVDs, and I'm not talking about just friends and family. I remember a former co-worker having a fit because I wouldn't loan them Disney movies for their visiting nieces and nephews. They got a bigger paycheck than me and could easily visit the local BB or blockbuster for titles.

philip74

yeah, but these kind of people are especially the ones who shake their
heads at collectors about how they can spend so much money
i have always had bad experiences with lending movies. no one
treats my valuables like i would! besides screw these cheap asses, if you want to borrow a movie go to blockbuster!! they are always calling people who
purchase movies dumb for spending money, but then i am good
enough to be their supplier i don`t think so!

philip74

with such a messy family i am happy for you that you turned out ok

starseed1981

I couldn't agree with this more. But we are soooo in the minority on this forum.

oldboy87

Isn't one of the best things about being a movie-loving-nut sharing old favourites and new discoveries with other people?

After hearing these horror stories I'm grateful for friends and relatives who (touch wood) have so far been respectful enough of my movie collection not to scratch my discs or rip slipcovers or otherwise abuse my stuff.

amen

PS: Some of them do hold onto movies for ages though. if you're going to be too busy to watch a 90 minute movie, don't hold onto it for six months. borrow it when you know you'll have time to watch it. Come home, Bad Santa BD, it's almost xmas.

SethDLH

I have no problem sharing the collection with others, but that usually means bringing it with me when we want to watch it then taking home that night. Unless its one of the two trusted people.

Travis McClain

I think this could be true of any media library. I do enjoy introducing people to things they've never seen, heard or read. I took great pride in introducing my friends to David Lean's big three (The Bridge on the River Kwai, Lawrence of Arabia and Doctor Zhivago) back in high school. But we watched them here.

Now, the strange thing is, I have an almost-Netflix level tolerance for having my books out. Once I've read a book, it's very unlikely I will re-read it so I don't mind it circulating for months on end. I bought a book by baseball manager Jack McKeown back in, oh, 2005 maybe? I read it in one night and lent it out that weekend. I still haven't gotten it back! Were it a DVD, I would have become quite upset about this (literally) years ago, and yet because it's a book I somehow haven't really minded. Go figure.

starseed1981

I was actually agreeing with him in that I love to loan out my movies.

JiM T

I am generally happy to let careful friends borrow my DVDs, but I still get hung up on condition. Even having small kids hasn't broke me of this compusion yet. But last time we went on vacation, my wife had some of her friends swing by to check on the house, and a few decided to help themselves to a few movies. When I finally got them back, some of the discs looked like they got sandpapered. In the pile was OOP Criterion "Notorious". Fortunatley, it was not harmed. Whew!

Pointyskull

Wow.

I read threads like these and I can never figure out how so many discs/cases get damaged. What in the name of fuck are people doing with these things?

The process to watch a DVD is pretty basic: open case, remove disc, place in player, enjoy. Remove disc from player, return to case.

I'm pretty tight on my lending policies, but not out of damage concerns (so far I haven't had any issues in that regard). Instead, it's the length of the "borrow". I've grown tired of hounding people months after they borrowed a title or two to return it, only to find they still haven't watched it.

You want to borrow a movie of mine? I'm fairly agreeable, within reason. Watch it. Then return it. Within a few days.

I now have a short list of acceptable borrowers. A very short list...

SethDLH

A lot of people don't understand the "return disc to case" step

slop101

FWIW, I like people more than my dvd/blu-ray collection.

I have people over all the time for movies, and if they ask, I'll let them borrow something - sometimes, I'll be the one insisting that they borrow a movie I know they'll love - if they fuck up a disc (which has happened a couple times), it's not really a big deal, really - *gasp*, I know, right?

The Man with the Golden Doujinshi

Kids don't mess up my collection. I cheat and stream the movies from DVD off of my computer and onto my PS3. This way they can pick what they want and no discs get touched.

GoldenWheels

Can I assume you are implying here that those who don't loan out like their DVD/blu ray collection more than people? I don't want to put words in your mouth but I can't see the relevance of such a statement to the current conversation otherwise.

Johnny Boy

You'd think that if you let someone borrow a dvd they would just KNOW that they shouldn't mess it up. Seems like it should be common knowledge or common sense. That's what I do when someone let's me borrow their dvds. I go out of my way to make sure they get it back exactly like they gave it to me.

If the dvd gets messed up, they should buy you another one.

People have messed up my dvds before. I let a friend borrow 'Borat', and the case came back damaged, and it wouldn't close. There was what looked like ketchup on the actual dvd. To top it off he didn't even say anything about it. He just gave the dvd back to me as if everything was okay.

I let someone borrow 'Sweeney Todd', and they lost it. Still haven't gotten a new one yet.

Because of these two incidents, I let noone borrow my dvds anywmore, ever.