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Old 04-06-15, 10:49 AM   #101
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Old 04-06-15, 10:56 AM   #102
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No. We are with them for the next five days. Spring break. I'll be updating.
If you can't stand up to your own brother, who will you stand up to? If all else fails, just start whispering threats to your nephew. No one will believe him.
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Old 04-06-15, 11:03 AM   #103
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If you can't stand up to your own brother, who will you stand up to? If all else fails, just start whispering threats to your nephew. No one will believe him.
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Old 04-06-15, 05:24 PM   #104
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No. We are with them for the next five days. Spring break. I'll be updating.
Seriously? What kind of message are you sending your daughter by allowing the nephew to hurt her? I would give my brother one chance to get the nephew under control, next incident, you leave. You're saying that Spring Break is more important than your daughter's self worth? Show her that she is more important to you than 5 days spent with an abusive little prick.

You don't slap the kid, you don't discipline the kid, because anything you do will be undone by his parents, they will either interfere and stop you, and they will apologize to him later, tell him that you were being mean. You focus on YOUR child, and do what you need to do. That's all you can do.
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Old 04-06-15, 07:40 PM   #105
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Hmmm. Maybe it's not so far off to put him over your lap and spank his ass till he cries.
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Old 04-06-15, 08:57 PM   #106
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Sister in law makes him get out of the pool every hour for more sun block, and makes him swim in a rash guard. And after reapplying sun block he can't swim for ten minutes to let it "work". After every meal or snack he has to wait 20 minutes.

Me: "Do all the canonballs you want. I put sun block on you this morning and you've never had a sun burn in your life. Eat then swim, then eat then swim some more."
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Old 04-07-15, 06:07 AM   #107
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No. We are with them for the next five days. Spring break. I'll be updating.
Why bother? It is pretty clear you are not going to do anything about it but let the little shit torment your kid.
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Old 04-07-15, 10:01 AM   #108
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I volunteer to babysit the little brat for a day. That's all I need. One day.
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I see chronic bad behavior mostly in kids who are ignored unless they're doing something wrong. It's really sad, because even 99% of the naughty kids just want to be appreciated for being good. But if no one sets boundaries and notices when they follow them, they go for plan B, which is be a rotten brat. That, people tend to notice.
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Old 04-07-15, 08:42 PM   #110
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I see chronic bad behavior mostly in kids who are ignored unless they're doing something wrong. It's really sad, because even 99% of the naughty kids just want to be appreciated for being good. But if no one sets boundaries and notices when they follow them, they go for plan B, which is be a rotten brat. That, people tend to notice.
"Sister in law makes him get out of the pool every hour for more sun block, and makes him swim in a rash guard. And after reapplying sun block he can't swim for ten minutes to let it "work". After every meal or snack he has to wait 20 minutes."

That doesn't sound like the type of parent that only gives attention to bad behavior. Over parenting?
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"Sister in law makes him get out of the pool every hour for more sun block, and makes him swim in a rash guard. And after reapplying sun block he can't swim for ten minutes to let it "work". After every meal or snack he has to wait 20 minutes."

That doesn't sound like the type of parent that only gives attention to bad behavior. Over parenting?
Maybe, I kind of skimmed and didn't really see that. Helicopter parenting with no consequences because Johny's our precious little boy?
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Old 04-08-15, 12:26 AM   #113
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Maybe, I kind of skimmed and didn't really see that. Helicopter parenting with no consequences because Johny's our precious little boy?
That's it. Every time he does something wrong mom makes up an imaginary excuse. The few times that my brother disciplines she defends the kid.
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Old 04-08-15, 07:39 AM   #114
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Wait, people are freaking out because a boy hit a girl with a pencil?

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Old 04-08-15, 08:12 AM   #115
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Wait, people are freaking out because a boy hit a girl with a pencil?

No, they are concerned because no one told this child to not do that again. I assume you're trying for a "it's just a pencil, parents are the worst" angle, but the nephew needs to be corrected.

People always comment about how well my son and daughter get along. A big part of that is because there was zero tolerance of them hitting or fighting with each other when they were younger. No reason to let that stuff slide.
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No, they are concerned because no one told this child to not do that again.
Look, when my daughter gets hit by another kid, its either a playful tap, in which case I tell her to suck it up and stop crying, or an aggressive (doesn't have to be effective to be aggressive) hit, in which case I take appropriate steps to make sure the other kid is disciplined to the extent that I can control that. Case in point, my daughter is 9, girl next door is 6, they play well together about 75% of the time, but the girl next door is a spoiled brat, and lashes out when she doesn't get her way. I've taught my daughter that it's OK to defend herself, but that the best course of action is to distance herself from the other girl, and to explain exactly WHY she is distancing herself, giving the other girl the chance to correct her behavior. I talk with MY daughter about what is wrong with that behavior, and how I understand that she enjoys playing with the other girl, but that she (my daughter) is important to me, and my most important job is to take care of her, and to teach her to take care of herself. if it was a truly dangerous situation, I would forbid contact, but that is nowhere near the case. That doesn't mean I shrug it off as nothing. What I am trying to teach my daughter is that you cannot control th behavior of others, you cannot force them to change that behavior, you can only control what YOU do, and inform others (if you care to) about the choices you make so that they can then choose whether THEY modify their own behavior or not. For the purpose of this thread, what I'm saying applies more to the adults involved than the kids.
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Old 04-08-15, 10:10 AM   #117
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Wait, people are freaking out because a boy hit a girl with a pencil?

Try reading my whole post and while you're at it the whole thread. It's not one incident, it's a pattern of behavior.
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Old 04-08-15, 12:35 PM   #118
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Re: How do I deal with bad behavior from my Nephew?

If it make you feel any better - I'm dealing with the same thing .. My brother is a total bully, and his son (18) is following in his path (with me being the target).

On Sunday, my brother had to be physically restrained as he came after me when I finally had enough and let him know how sick of his crap I was. It was when I called him an asshole that things erupted (he literally said he was going to kill me). Add to it that he had been allowing his 18 year-old son to drink all morning and then it was 2 people trying to attack me. The 18-year old even pulled a knife from his pocket.

For me, I got my wife and kids and we left - all the while being screamed at by my mother and sister (who felt the need to attack me as well - even after my brother spent hours calling my sister a fat cow and her mixed-marriage kids foul names as well).

But - when I finally have had enough - I'm the bad guy.

I look at it like now I have less places to go - less events to attend. More time for my family. Fuck 'em all.

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If it make you feel any better - I'm dealing with the same thing .. My brother is a total bully, and his son (18) is following in his path (with me being the target).

On Sunday, my brother had to be physically restrained as he came after me when I finally had enough and let him know how sick of his crap I was. It was when I called him an asshole that things erupted (he literally said he was going to kill me). Add to it that he had been allowing his 18 year-old son to drink all morning and then it was 2 people trying to attack me. The 18-year old even pulled a knife from his pocket.

For me, I got my wife and kids and we left - all the while being screamed at by my mother and sister (who felt the need to attack me as well - even after my brother spent hours calling my sister a fat cow and her mixed-marriage kids foul names as well).

But - when I finally have had enough - I'm the bad guy.

I look at it like now I have less places to go - less events to attend. More time for my family. Fuck 'em all.

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If it make you feel any better - I'm dealing with the same thing .. My brother is a total bully, and his son (18) is following in his path (with me being the target).

On Sunday, my brother had to be physically restrained as he came after me when I finally had enough and let him know how sick of his crap I was. It was when I called him an asshole that things erupted (he literally said he was going to kill me). Add to it that he had been allowing his 18 year-old son to drink all morning and then it was 2 people trying to attack me. The 18-year old even pulled a knife from his pocket.

For me, I got my wife and kids and we left - all the while being screamed at by my mother and sister (who felt the need to attack me as well - even after my brother spent hours calling my sister a fat cow and her mixed-marriage kids foul names as well).

But - when I finally have had enough - I'm the bad guy.

I look at it like now I have less places to go - less events to attend. More time for my family. Fuck 'em all.

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Old 04-09-15, 12:49 AM   #121
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That sounds horrible. Far worse than my situation. Sorry you've had to put up with that shit.
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Old 04-09-15, 02:15 AM   #122
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Tell that insolent child to "suffer and be still" followed by admonishing it to "be seen and not heard."
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Why bother? It is pretty clear you are not going to do anything about it but let the little shit torment your kid.


Nice call I agree 100%. Read the whole thread and he's afraid of someone. The brother. Sister in law. Someone
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Try reading my whole post and while you're at it the whole thread. It's not one incident, it's a pattern of behavior.
I did. In my extensive observational research of the topic, I have determined that little boys are little shits. Especially little boys with terrible milquetoast parents. Ride out the storm.
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If it make you feel any better - I'm dealing with the same thing .. My brother is a total bully, and his son (18) is following in his path (with me being the target).

On Sunday, my brother had to be physically restrained as he came after me when I finally had enough and let him know how sick of his crap I was. It was when I called him an asshole that things erupted (he literally said he was going to kill me). Add to it that he had been allowing his 18 year-old son to drink all morning and then it was 2 people trying to attack me. The 18-year old even pulled a knife from his pocket.

For me, I got my wife and kids and we left - all the while being screamed at by my mother and sister (who felt the need to attack me as well - even after my brother spent hours calling my sister a fat cow and her mixed-marriage kids foul names as well).

But - when I finally have had enough - I'm the bad guy.

I look at it like now I have less places to go - less events to attend. More time for my family. Fuck 'em all.

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