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View Poll Results: What do I do?
Just take it and keep correcting him. 4 8.33%
Start mispronouncing HIS name everytime, everywhere 15 31.25%
Stop the meeting next time and point it out. 3 6.25%
Call him privately about this. 11 22.92%
Take it to HR (it's obviously on purpose.) 3 6.25%
other 12 25.00%
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Old 08-11-06, 01:42 AM   #1
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Boss Repeatedly Gets My Name Wrong: What do I do?!?!

Got a new boss (yet again) about 4 months ago. He likes to call people by their last names. He's on the East Coast, I'm on the West.

He ALWAYS gets my name wrong. It's a simple last name. Say my name is "Russo" (Roo-so), he would pronounce it "Russ-so". I correct him EVERY TIME right after he gets it wrong. In the past 7 days, I've corrected him 6 times (out of 3 conversations; 3 times last Monday, twice last Thursday, and once this last Monday). I corrected him so far about 20 times. Maybe more. I feel like Homer Simpson and he's Mr. Burns. In my 39 years of existance, I don't know ANYONE who has gotten my name wrong like that.

What should I do?

1) just take it and keep correcting him. Maybe he'll get it someday. (Doubt it though... he makes Dilbert's boss look like Einstein)

2) start calling him by a wrong name (i.e. "Mook" instead of "Mark")

3) at the next meeting when he does it, say "Look, you get this wrong EVERY TIME. Please stop. It's "Roo-so". (I've done this before yet he still keeps saying it wrong. Sometimes not even 5 minutes later. Say it more forcefully?)

4) call him separately (if I can get ahold of him) and say "Look, please stop. It's getting insulting. I've corrected you about 2 dozen times now."

5) take it to HR
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Old 08-11-06, 01:45 AM   #2
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he's doing it because you keep correcting him.
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Old 08-11-06, 01:47 AM   #3
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After you corrected him the second time, the point is made. He's doing it on purpose. It's a pissing match. And you're getting all wet.
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Old 08-11-06, 02:08 AM   #4
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2) start calling him by a wrong name (i.e. "Mook" instead of "Mark")
If your example is his real name, you're screwed. Calling him a mook will piss off the Italians, unless you called him Mack or Markey. I'd go the lines of a complete phonetic pronunciation of his name.
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Old 08-11-06, 02:14 AM   #5
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Send him an e-mail and he will stop because there is a paper trail.

How old are you if you do not mind me asking? I am asking because I think you are in your mid/late twenties, hold a decent job (maybe your 2nd or even 3rd since college graduation) and I would like to know if I am correct.
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Old 08-11-06, 02:22 AM   #6
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Send him an e-mail and he will stop because there is a paper trail.

How old are you if you do not mind me asking? I am asking because I think you are in your mid/late twenties, hold a decent job (maybe your 2nd or even 3rd since college graduation) and I would like to know if I am correct.


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He ALWAYS gets my name wrong. It's a simple last name. Say my name is "Russo" (Roo-so), he would pronounce it "Russ-so". I correct him EVERY TIME right after he gets it wrong. In the past 7 days, I've corrected him 6 times (out of 3 conversations; 3 times last Monday, twice last Thursday, and once this last Monday). I corrected him so far about 20 times. Maybe more. I feel like Homer Simpson and he's Mr. Burns. In my 39 years of existance, I don't know ANYONE who has gotten my name wrong like that.

On topic, is it that hard to just ignore him?
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Old 08-11-06, 02:23 AM   #7
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How can you ignore your boss?
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Old 08-11-06, 02:26 AM   #8
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There is a reason for my madness. Be patient please, it is thread related, I just need the answer from nodeer
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Old 08-11-06, 02:28 AM   #9
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There is a reason for my madness. Be patient please, it is thread related, I just need the answer from nodeer
My point is that he's 39, as he stated in the part I bolded.

And not ignore the boss, but ignore the mistaken name. If my boss did that, I would just answer to what he called me.
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Old 08-11-06, 05:16 AM   #10
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How old are you if you do not mind me asking? I am asking because I think you are in your mid/late twenties, hold a decent job (maybe your 2nd or even 3rd since college graduation) and I would like to know if I am correct.
What can I say.....
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Old 08-11-06, 06:21 AM   #11
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Old 08-11-06, 07:13 AM   #12
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Kick him in the crotch and run!
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Old 08-11-06, 07:52 AM   #13
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How can you ignore your boss?
Easily if he is not calling you by your correct name!
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Old 08-11-06, 08:11 AM   #14
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Ignore it. He is aware of the correct pronunciation, and he's deliberately mispronouncing it because he's an ass. But he's your boss, so don't make an issue out of it. Chances are, once he realizes it no longer bothers you, he'll stop. Then he'll find somethng else that bothers you.
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Old 08-11-06, 08:26 AM   #15
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It reminds me of this commercial.

I had a boss who insisted on calling me Jerry (not remotely close to my real name). I corrected him a few times, but he never changed. I worked there for two years as Jerry. I didn't really think it was a big deal, as long as my paycheck had the proper name.
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Old 08-11-06, 08:30 AM   #16
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Since you have a new boss "yet again" it sounds like you could just live with it and you'll have a new boss soon anyway.
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Old 08-11-06, 09:00 AM   #17
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Get me his email address and I guarantee you he will never mispronounce your name again.
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Old 08-11-06, 09:06 AM   #18
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Pronounce his name incorrectly and when he corrects you tell him that names aren't really important because he'll be gone in a week or two anyway.
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Old 08-11-06, 09:14 AM   #19
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Old 08-11-06, 09:20 AM   #20
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He's the boss. He's either stupid, very forgetful, or a controlling dominant type person. You've done all you can for any of those situations. I definitely would not correct him in public/meeting, if this is accidental that could embarass him, if he's controlling that could enrage him.
As long as you know when he's talking to you, sad as it is, I'd let it slide, especially since it seems there's reasonable fast turnover/transition.

Since he's on the East, you're on the West, maybe his mispronounciation is due to his dialect? My boss mispronounced two coworker's names; one with the accent on the 2nd syllable rather than the first, the other with a 'y' sound instead of a 'j'.
Like someone else said, the paycheck was right, though.
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Old 08-11-06, 09:29 AM   #21
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Just quit. Jobs with bosses are a dime a dozen. Maybe you'll get a good one next time.
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Old 08-11-06, 09:32 AM   #22
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Seriously, if it were me, I would bring it out in the open in a big way, but very light-heartedly. The next time he mispronounces your name, just stop him and say something like, "Okay, I gotta ask - do you know someone else with a last name of Roo-so, but it's pronounced Russ-o?" and go from there. Then, if he continues to do it, at least he'll know that you know he's just an asshole.
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Old 08-11-06, 10:06 AM   #23
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Option "other". Mentally change your name to whatever it is he calls you. Next time he calls you that, smile real big and say, "You got it right this time! Thanks!"
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Old 08-11-06, 10:27 AM   #25
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I have a difficult last name, so it is easy for me to ignore whatever pronunciation is being used at the moment. Just go with it, it is not a big deal.

You have corrected him enough times, that it is probably getting annoying to the others in the meetings (if there are others). As stated above, either he will never get it, or he does get it and is fucking with you.

My vote is other.
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