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Old 10-15-05, 11:36 AM   #1
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Who does the majority of the chores in your household?

My wife just starting working after being at home for the first two 1/2 years we were married. While I've tried to take over some of the household chores from her since she started at work, she still thinks there is more she does around here than I do (and she's probably right). We have no kids otherwise we would both sit back feeding each other grapes while watching the little slaves bust their ass scrubbing toilets and such.

So how do you two-income couples handle the chores? Do you think they are evenly split between the two of you, or does one person inevitably end up doing more? Are there natural "man" chores and "woman" chores?
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Old 10-15-05, 11:46 AM   #2
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When you see something that needs to be done around the house, do it. Tell her the same thing. Don't worry about who is doing more. Thinking that way will only lead to getting mad with one another.
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Old 10-15-05, 11:48 AM   #3
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Old 10-15-05, 11:49 AM   #4
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Unless you're broke, I'd consider hiring a service to come in once a month to clean the place. You can obviously handle dishes, soup drops on the stove, etc., but if you're both working I think it's well worth the money to have more time with each other, and not argue about it at all.
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Old 10-15-05, 11:52 AM   #5
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When you see something that needs to be done around the house, do it. Tell her the same thing. Don't worry about who is doing more. Thinking that way will only lead to getting mad with one another.

Well, therein lies the problem. My wife "sees" a lot more to be done than I do. As a result every weekend she is tearing up the place, scrubbing everything from top to bottom. I think it's too much, but she's anal about cleaning (imo).

To be fair, we live in a one-bedroom condo, and cleaning the entire place every weekend would not take us long together, I just don't see the need for it.
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Old 10-15-05, 11:59 AM   #6
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She probably does more but that is mainly because she has a higher standard. I will make dinner, do dishes, fold laundry, etc. but her definition of what needs to be done, and mine, are different.

But I have never asked her to do anything.
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Old 10-15-05, 12:10 PM   #7
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Old 10-15-05, 12:15 PM   #8
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The wife definitely does more.
I handle billing; automotive; house repairs, and most of the yardwork, she handles flowerbeds, and since our yard is big, and normally needs cut twice a week, she'll cut as well. We cook on the grill almost everynight in the summer, so I usually handle that too. I clean up after myself by putting dishes in the dishwasher, put dirty clothes in the basket, etc.
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Old 10-15-05, 12:17 PM   #9
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Old 10-15-05, 12:42 PM   #10
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I second the notion of hiring a service if you can afford it. But maybe more than once a month. At least every two weeks or once a week. That frees up a lot of the chores. The service can do all the scrubbing, floors, windows, dusting, etc. You are left with the dishes and picking up stuff and putting away your stuff.
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Old 10-15-05, 12:45 PM   #11
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I do

Though I have hired in the past ... I should do that again. Cleaning isn't a lot of fun.
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Old 10-15-05, 12:47 PM   #12
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I donít think my husband even knows how to operate a vacuum, dishwasher, or washing machine. I just got a job and I start on Monday so things are about to get interesting around my house. We have three boys so Iím guessing the house will be in shambles by Tuesday...
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Old 10-15-05, 12:54 PM   #13
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Old 10-15-05, 01:11 PM   #14
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Define "chores." I work at home all day, does that count?

My wife does more in general, no denying that. Especially when it comes to dusting, cleaning up for guests, fixing the beds, etc.

I usually vacuum, mow the lawn, water the plants (indoor and out) and I do 80-90% of the cooking. Outdoors, we both take care of weeding and planting together. She edges me on the weeding though. Home improvement projects... we're both in on it together. We do our own clothes laundry, but she does the "general" laundry (sheets, towels, etc). When it comes to maintenance (unclogging drains, caulking, general repairs) then it's me. But I'm sure she could give you a long list of things she does that I can't even think of, but certainly do appreciate.

Oh yeah, she pays most of the bills (all but my business bills and the mortgage) and I handle most (but far from all) of the garbage.
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Old 10-15-05, 01:43 PM   #15
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I live alone...so I do.
Same here, although I'm currently trying to teach my dog to pick up his toys and put them in the toybox (he's so damn cute).
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Old 10-15-05, 02:11 PM   #16
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I do lawnwork, home repairs/renovations, vacuuming, taking care of the cats, about half of the laundry and the dishes.

My wife does the other half of the laundry, cooks and does the rest of the cleaning. She also deals with our son a little more than I do.

Seems to work out okay.
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Old 10-15-05, 02:25 PM   #17
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I live alone...so I do.
Same here . . .
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Old 10-16-05, 12:00 AM   #18
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That would be me. I don't mind as I'm kind of obsessive compulsive about keeping the house clean. I just won't do the dishes. That's where I draw the line.
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Old 10-16-05, 12:10 AM   #19
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I just got a job and I start on Monday so things are about to get interesting around my house.
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Old 10-16-05, 12:47 AM   #20
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Old 10-16-05, 02:07 AM   #21
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I donít think my husband even knows how to operate a vacuum, dishwasher, or washing machine. I just got a job and I start on Monday so things are about to get interesting around my house. We have three boys so Iím guessing the house will be in shambles by Tuesday...
I'm sorry, but, the hell? How do you put up with this stuff? And you even did all that while pregnant?

I hate it when guys don't know how to do simple household chores. I had a co-worker tell me she couldn't believe that I picked my son's clothes out for him in the morning before taking him to daycare. She had to lay out an outfit every night because her husband "just couldn't do it." Whatever...
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Old 10-16-05, 09:27 AM   #22
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Old 10-16-05, 09:39 AM   #23
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I'm sorry, but, the hell? How do you put up with this stuff? And you even did all that while pregnant?
Admit it. You're jealous.
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Old 10-17-05, 06:27 AM   #24
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Old 10-19-05, 05:07 AM   #25
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I do more than my girlfriend. I don't get a lot of sleep, so I occupy my time with chores that need to be done. I also keep a list of things that need to be done, and on my days off I do the entire list.
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